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I'm not sure why I wasn't invited by him. I think he knows financially it is difficult for me now (I have a horse who just had surgery). I know the girls he'll be staying with - they are great girls. But like I said, when I met the girl who's birthday it is, she had a boyfriend. Now she is single and inviting MY boyfriend out (which she didn't do last year when she had her own boyfriend). The girls are pretty young - my boyfriend is 27 - I believe they are 22-24. And they are pretty big on partying - a birthday means drinking and partying. Like I said, they became pretty close - nothing happened when they lived in the same state, but I still hate this! I think I'll talk to him - express MY feelings like others suggested. There is a good chance he won't even go, but I want to get this out that I don't feel comfortable with it - so maybe he'll think twice when something like this comes up again. I'll post what happens after I talk to him. THANK YOU everyone!!!

I’ll try to keep this short. Please just let me know if I’m being unreasonable… If I am being a crazy, stupid girl – help me stop!! If not what to do?! I’ve been with my boyfriend 1-1/2 years. I think we have a really good relationship and I really love him and trust him. He mentioned to me last night going to California for a weekend to celebrate a female friend’s birthday. He lived in California about 2 years. Met lots of people including a few girls he remains friends with. This girl, Jen, is one of his closer friends. I met her last year – great girl, very nice – we got along great. He would spend the weekend partying and he’ll stay at her house with 2-3 other girls. She broke up with her boyfriend about 6 months ago – so she’s single now. They never dated or even hooked up while they were friends. And it’s not that I don’t trust him – but I HATE it. The idea of him going is making me feel sick. Here’s how my brain perceives this – he’s traveling a ton for work that month. We won’t see each other at least 2-3 weeks between now and then. I feel like he’s leaving me to spend time with another girl. He’ll be staying in a house with a bunch of single girls and I hate that!! Help!

Being overly sarcastic. Some men take it so far I don't know when they are and aren't telling the truth.

My only bit of advice is make sure you use a land line - no cell phone!! Good luck!!

After a bad breakup, I spent about 3 months being miserable. Like Dako said, you have to do things for yourself and nobody can make you truly happy. There are so many things to do, once you find them you'll be so busy and you'll find yourself making yourself happy. I'll give you some examples of what I did. First, I started mentoring a kid - I joined a program through the schools and was assigned a 12 year old girl from a bad home we do all sorts of fun things together. It was like a Big Brother/Big Sisters program. Just seeing her happy, doing things she'd never get to do made me feel great for days. I joined a book club and met a bunch of new friends. I also joined an adult kickball team. As an introvert, it felt great meeting and getting to know new people. I had a whole new group of friends that was always asking me to do things and suddenly my schedule was always packed. I always had something to do, if I wanted. I started some new, more independent hobbies - just took a Saturday class on knitting. Learned a new language. I joined a gym, trained for a 1/2 marathon. Depending on your interests - there are tons of stuff to do and you just have to do it. Always liked horses?? Go finally take those riding lessons. Want to learn to paint? Take a beginner painting class at the local recreation district. The possibilities are endless. I was single about 1 year and never felt happier. Taking that first step is hard, but you get out there and have some fun doing whatever you want!!! And when you are ready to get into a new relationship it will be a lot healthier because you will be an independent person!!

Thank you everyone, for the great advice. I think the consensus is I need to have an informal chat with my boss. Someone asked if my boss is a stand-up guy and he really is. He is a wonderful boss and a person I highly respect. So I feel pretty comfortable bringing this to him. I just wanted to make sure it wasn't unreasonable and I wasn't just stirring things up in the workplace. I do want more of an un-formal complaint, like someone said. And HR is out of our corporate office and all of us have met the HR person only once at an orientation, so I probably won't bring this up to them. And I agree - no more getting drunk at business functions. A hard but good lesson I will never forget!!! It was hard with everyone buying me shots and cheering me on - my initiation they called it. But I certainly knew better and I am an adult who can control what I do an don't consume. I feel much better about talking to my boss - this is a great forum and I am excited to have found it! I will be using it in the future and hope to contribute some advice myself! Thanks again!!

Hi Everyone, I spent this past weekend at a trade show in Las Vegas with my company who I have been working at for 3 months. After a night of excessive drinking (I don't drink much and couldn't handle it), one of our out of state sales reps walked me to my room - I was thankful because I had definitely drank to much and wanted to be sure to get back safe. He came into my room and proceeded to put his mouth on mine and try to kiss me hard while feeling me up. I was tired, drunk and it took me about 3-5 seconds to push him away and get him out of my room, but he even tried again as he was walking out!! I am 27 years old and he is about 60 - he just had his first grandchild, he has kids older than me and he is married. AND, I have a steady boyfriend of 2 years. I am not used to this crap, and feel so crappy. I know I was drinking, but I was not flirting or anything with this man. He's married - I don't do that crap!!! There was never any attraction to him. I love my boyfriend to death and plan on marrying him. The problem is, I am supposed to go to California with him next month and visit clients and ride around for 2-3 days. I don't want to go. I am so uncomfortable around him. I wanted to say something, but there was no chance - there were people around constantly and he acted like nothing happened. Calling me kiddo, joking with me...GRRR.. I hate him!!! So I need to get out of this trip. I don't lie in my life.... Should I tell my boss what happened. Tell him I don't want a big issue made out of it, but I don't want to travel alone with him?? I told my boyfriend what happened, and he thinks I should tell my boss. And I should say something to the man - not let him think he got away with it. I am tending to agree. Any advice? Please!! I think if I do tell my boss it needs to be done sooner rather than later. Thanks!!