tropicalx3

wow. i really wish i knew your wife so i could give her just a little bit of insight into what you're doing behind her back. how could you do something this up to someone you "love" YOU FEEL A LITTLE GUILTY?! holy . you obviously aren't mature enough to have a wife. what are you like five years old? you can't say that and honestly think that you're sane. you are listening to someone who has clearly lost her mind .. and she's rubbing off on you. JUST A BLOWJOB?! .. oh but you're not okay with having sex with your cousin...again. it's "okay" to do it while you have a girlfriend but now that you have a wife it would be cheating. i would think that pretty much everyone here would agree that doing anything sexual with someone other than your s/o is cheating. if you feel so bad about not seeing your cousin since "she's family" ( you should feel worse for your wife).. maybe you should limit yourself to seeing her during family events and while your wife is by your side. .. but personally, i think you should avoid her like the plague. either you dont love your wife or you have no idea what marriage is about.

im sorry but how could you have sex with your cousin friday night and then go and MARRY your girlfriend the next day? if i ever found out that my boyfriend did anything like that .. oh my god.

it turns me on to see my boyfriend masturbating also.. but not to other girls. maybe it's me being insecure.

i'm insecure but definitely not egocentric. i, however, would prefer that the only naked body my s/o looks at is mine. is it wrong to be in a committed relationship where you don't pay attention to other naked girls? i do agree with you though on i think porn is cheating when you go behind your s/o's back. you are becoming visually stimulated by another person and you are trying to imitate a sexual act that should be between two partners. i especially think its offensive if your partner has self image issues. and if your s/o isn't okay with you masturbating to porn? well, the satisfaction you receive from looking at another naked girl behind the back of person you " love" is not only selfish but harmful to a relationship. i think that porn can be used without detriment to a relationship only if both partners are comfortable with it. you are in this relationship because you love this person right? some couples enjoy looking at porn as foreplay and i see nothing wrong with that. if your partner is not okay with it.. is it not emotionally/physically cheating?

omg. i agree completely. there have been so many times where i screwed myself by asking for too much information. i made it so much harder to accept that everyone has a past and it's the future together that matters.

i haven't read the rest of the posts but i know exactly how you feel. i've been with my boyfriend for two years and in the beginning of our relationship we got in fights constantly because i could not put his past behind us. any girl he ever once felt attracted to, i felt was a threat to me. i have a pretty low self esteem so i understand now why i acted that way. me and him had a lot of the same conversations and i regret that it took me two years to realize that theres a reason he is with me. i can't blame myself completely though because when we met i was almost 16 and he had just turned 20. obviously he had more experience than me. he never slept around. he only had sex with two other girls before me. one was a two year relationship in hs and the other was a girl he briefly was with right before i met him. there have been so many times where i wish i could erase things in his past. like when he broke up with that girlfriend he went out with in hs, and his brothers girlfriend [fiance now] got him drunk and hooked up with him " to make him feel better." it's hard for me to be around her because not only are his brother and his fiance swingers but she has hooked up with my boyfriend. how awkward is that? i've tried to get over it but how am i supposed to when i know i'll be stuck with this self obsessed b!tch foreverrrrrrrr. UGH the other night we were kissing and he did something he's never done before.. and i was like where'd that come from? and he goes, do you really want to know? and im like jaime? grrrrrrreat. but i just tried to put it behind me and realize that even if he experienced this with her, she's out of his life and he's experiencing it with me now. i shouldn't put a damper on our relationship just because he has done things in the past. afterall we all have a past, right? it took me a long time to become okay with this but i was pretty proud of myself. what if we become married and have children? should i spend the rest of my life worrying about what he's done in his past as long as he has committed to make his future with me? it's hard to come into someones life and learn about a past that didn't include you. make the most of the time you have together.

IT IS NOT THE SAME THING. i'm not trying to start an argument with you but i just need to understand. my problem with this is that in order for a guy to masturbate he needs to look at girls fingering themselves? yes, girls masturbate. but to my knowledge, the majority of us don't look at porn in order to do it. a guy who is in a committed relationship should not have to look at porn behind his s/o's back, just because he wants to cum. sex is supposed to be and act of expressing love. i know nowadays sex isn't always looked at this way, but i think it's selfish to hurt someone you "love" so incredibly much, just so you can get some sexual release. would someone please care to explain why a guy would continue to harm his relationship over porn? call me a hopeless romantic if you will but my belief is that if you love someone, you would do anything to keep them/keep them happy.

good luck with your girlfriend btw

i'm not trying to insult you at all but did you ever think that the reason you liked having sex with your cousin was because you are a twenty year old guy who just likes sex? maybe since you lost your virginity to her, you grew attached to her & because she was blackmailing you, you then convinced yourself it was the best way to deal with this.

i think girls date older guys because it's known as the cool thing to do. and i think guys date younger girls because there are no girls their age left to date. lol actually i honestly have no idea why guys date younger girls. hey guys, wanna give us some insight on that?

i was 15 when i met my boyfriend who was 20 at the time. to everyone else it was a big deal because i was 15 and he was 20. but then again he had just turned 20 and i was almost 16. honestly at first, i was still obsessing over my ex. when i met my boyfriend i thought my ex would get jealous that i was with an older guy. but i soon realized that the reason i connected with him was because he was more mature than any of the guys my age. from my point of view, he was a rebound at first mixed in with me wanting to seem cooler for having an older boyfriend. from his, a 15 year old? * * * was he thinking!

have you ever heard of a rebound guy? honestly this could go either way. she spent over a year of her life in a relationship with you.. she might not want to lose that person as a friend. but then again, as a girl, i can't help but think that she still cares about you. who broke up with who? and was it one of those stupid breakups? i had an ex break up with me over a misunderstanding.. he thought i wanted to break up with him. idiot. then he went out with my best friend. and when they broke up, hooked up with my other best friend. so idk how true that is haha. then again i was 15 at the time so it could have just been gay hs drama. i've been in a relationship now for two years and honestly, at first he was my rebound guy. but once i spent more and more time with him i realized that he was perfect for me. and he got me over my ex. but if you broke up over something silly, she may not be over it yet. even if she was the one who initiated the break up. i think that you should ask her to hang out. make sure its alone. see if she still flirts with you. and maybe she texted you, in hopes that you would say something back. and when you didn't, she apologized. obviously you know your ex better so you should be able to judge her actions better then i can.

my dad died when i was 11. it'll be 7 years in april. i still think about it, especially when i think about getting married and not having him walk me down the isle. time helps you move on though. the first few years are the hardest. and hope75 .. i couldn't have said it better myself.

maybe she thought you didn't love her? since you were saving yourself for love and you didn't have sex with her? girls tend to act mean when they're hurt. believe me. haha if you want to be with your ex, i think you should be honest. you wouldn't want her finding out from someone else would you? she will most likely be very hurt and never trust you around your cousin again. but if she finds out from someone else, it will be worse. my boyfriend and his brothers fiance [girlfriend at the time] hooked up. i didn't know my boyfriend at the time. my boyfriend had just broken up with his girlfriend of 2 years and that **** got him drunk and hooked up with him to "make him feel better". personally i think thats disgusting because she was going out with his brother. anyways i never trusted the two. it has caused a lot of problems. his brother is getting married in Dec [ to the same girl. god only knows why.] and i am not invited to the wedding because i called her a *** who blames me though? anyways .. i just wanted to give you a little insight on what could happen. how has your girlfriend felt about this cousin in the past? hopefully this doesn't ruin their relationship if they had one. and HELLO why would you get back together with your girlfriend and continue to have sex with your cousin? you do understand that you'd be cheating on your girlfriend. right? thats extremely cruel. how would you feel if you and your girlfriend broke up and in that week that you weren't together .. she slept with her cousin.. never told you .. then got back together with you and continued to sleep with her cousin. what kind of relationship would that be? .. as someone said before, put yourself in her shoes. and you said you were saving yourself for love. i dont know what happened that night but .. you said you loved your girlfriend. are you in love with your cousin?