Why do I feel it again? in Infidelity Posted February 28, 2007 My SO is great to me- maybe not giving me all the attention I want but in some ways that's not bad. I yearn to be completely adored and showered with attention but when I get it, it's kind of smothering. We have a very good balance. And as for feeling so guilty, I think it's because I once acted on a crush. I know it's probably not a realistic thing to think but I sometimes feel like if I am with the one I truly love, I wouldn't fantasize about another. You are right though, it's totally normal. I have no intention of acting on these urges- I made the mistake once and it won't happen ever again. Thank you for the reassurance I really needed it!