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Maybe lower your standards? ahem... I mean expand your horizons. lol What keeps you from meeting people? It sounds like you should work on your depression before you find someone. I have been depressed before and it seems as if that is the time I wanted someone more then anything else, but when I got out of it, I was fine by my happy self. I believe it's really dangerous to start a relationship when you're already depressed and you can start by changing your fatalist attitude. Haven't you ever heard of "there's more fish in the sea" of "if you miss one bus, there will always be another one?". Once you're happy again, you'll be a more interesting and confident person without actually changing! When that happens, you'll either attract more girls or you should be by then strong enough to handle rejection if you go out and take a chance of asking more girls out. Maybe you're just going through a depressive phase to really teach you the feeling of loneliness and make you really want to be with someone on a deep level... who knows? I'm sorry I can't help you out of your depression though, it's a very personal thing, but for me it was to learn to say to hell with jerks because even if they think badly about you or say bad things to you, in the end, they're just trying to help themselves and it's your own responsibility to avoid those people and situations though sometimes it's inevitable but in those times, just realize that it's something everyone goes through and move on. Good luck.

I got that from eharmony too once....

If a guy had a lot of scars on his body I would be curious about them but not repulsed by them. I'd be a bit worried if they were self-inflicted though. I know it's cliched but it's not really what's on the outside that is attractive but rather the personality, how kind and how funny someone is (for me personally, may be different for others). Don't get too stressed about it all though, chemistry is also important too though I have yet to figure that one out.

I also realize just how much I talked about myself up there in that post...

Thanks for all who answered. It seemed very natural to make my boyfriend a priority but these friends of mine said that I should balance friends and other relationships which I agree with but perhaps they want me to hang out with them more and more as I become more involved with my boyfriend because they don't really like him as he said that he did not want to meet them. My friends complained about how all their friends (straight girls) "ditched" them once they got a boyfriend so perhaps their clingy behavior is due to patterns from the past. I didn't even really want to go out and stay overnight with my two friends, it was just that it was my friends birthday and his boyfriend made it seem as if it was devastating if I didn't go and my friend played the "then I guess you don't care about our friendship" line. Also warned me that if I don't keep good ties with them, if one day my boyfriend leaves me "falling flat on my face" then I will have noone there to help. That also scared me a bit. I don't think my friends were trying to be cruel or manipulative though, they just thought that since girls try to make passes at my boyfriend even when I'm around that perhaps our relationship isn't strong and they are merely trying to keep me from getting myself entirely involved and too vulnerable (my boyfriend and I are close, I think it's because my boyfriend and I belong to different races and classes so perhaps they don't trust his intentions and outsiders don't respect us so much and look at me as "stealing" him away from his people and so think that their behaviour is acceptable... I really don't know... or maybe this is simply a problem for all relationships). I talked to my boyfriend about it and he seems to have gotten over it it as he knows that even apart, I'm still thinking about him and that my friends are important to me not just for fun but I also need them out of fear for one day of possibly not being with him. Either way, everything's about him and that makes him happy. haha Perhaps I worship him a little bit too much and it annoys my friends? Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps. Serious relationships are so scary!!! lol

you're right. sorry if I'm confusing.

My boyfriend is absolutely perfect but he gets upset over me staying at a friend and his boyfriend's house. I understand that my boyfriend may not think that my friends are truly gay but I have been friends with them for a long time and have stayed over before and know that there will never be any funny business going on. I try to tell my boyfriend this over and over and yet he is still not ok with it. I promised never to stay over at my friends' house again and not to party, but I once made a joke about having another lover, which in my mind would never happen and is out of the question and he gets upset again! He jokes about and stares at other girls all the time which I have always taken lightly until he got upset about me saying the same thing and now he censors himself. I take all this in as a compliment that he cares about me a lot and he is the only one I can think about and even look at, but I am not sure at how to look at our situation. Am I not being careful and considerate enough? Or is he being insecure? He's also my first serious relationship so if I sound a immature about all this, that is why.