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adahy last won the day on May 19 2007

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  1. Kinda creepy though, eh...waiting on a girl to become legal??
  2. Agreed. I would say if it's more than a 12-15 year difference, a man is most likely a meal ticket...speaking in terms of a 'relationship'. Casual dates or hook-ups could be for a number of other reasons I suppose.
  3. Good answer. I would generally agree. However, I have known quite a few younger women unhappy with their older partners. However, getting that new Lexus on their birthday is the bond that keeps it together.
  4. It's mainly about security and cash. Don't let a woman tell you otherwise!!!!!!
  5. I agree. "Wanting to be missed" really clouds one's mind in these matters. I've been there and it's gotten me back into a bad relationship. Bad relationships come to an end, so let it be once and not 2 and 3 times. I think in many ways break-ups are more about winning and losing, than anything else. It's not really love or anything...it's often simply about "wanting to be missed", winning in essense...or some other irrelevant thing. Often people just miss the routine, not so much the person. That's the beauty of NC. As mentioned above, after a month or so a person begins to have some clarity. They're out of the routine, etc. and can really see things for what they were.
  6. Sounds like you're looking more for a "niche" than anything else. Gay men are usually quite accomodating in that regard, so I could see you finding acceptance there. I'm not gay, but the gay friends I have always seem to be searching for 'new recruits'. Anyway, you've done well getting into shape...congrats! Now work on the inner you. Sometimes the harder try to gain acceptance (love, etc.), that harder it is to get. Weird how it works. Be comfortable with who YOU are, create your own "niche", and let people come to you. They will. Neediness and desperation aren't attractive, and people can smell it a mile away. Create an air of superiority around yourself and blow other people off if a situation presents itself. Confidence and strength is attractive, and more people (women and men) will be drawn to it.
  7. There's a reason people enter AA. Seriously, don't try to figure out the aftermath of a drunken evening. People spend WAY to much time trying to rationalize drunken behavior. Being drunk is a BAD way to meet people...it's that simple. You don't know who you "really" met that night.
  8. Sound like a lot going on! You've been a good sister and often in life we aren't rewarded by our good deeds. If people choose not to share aspects of their life w/ you, there's nothing you can do. I'm sure your sis appreciates what you've done, and maybe just didn't think about it. You have a right to feel the way you do, but try not to let it bother you. These things happen. Also (I know this is unrelated), your sis needs to get on birth control or stop having unprotected sex. Two kids by 2 different fathers at 22? You need to look out for yourself!! I don't care if it's family or not, you don't need to enable careless behavior. Don't get lost in her life or become her perpetual baby-sitter! It's nice having a free baby-sitter, etc., but don't let yourself get used in order to gain someone else's affection. That's a losing path every time. Every time. I'm not suggesting you turn your back on your sister, but look out for YOURSELF. Your sister needs some help, so don't become her "whipping-girl". Don't t take care of her problems at your own expense. It's nice if you want to help out so much, but that's not your obligation.
  9. Don't wander aimlessly into a fight, if you don't know what you're fighting. That's fighting 101. Showing up at some man's door throwing accusations around, likely won't yield positive results. Who knows..maybe there isn't a guy at all? Maybe your wife is full of crap and playing games. Her actions stink though...really bad. I can't imagine her taking YOUR daughter over to another man's house. As a guy that has dated single mothers, I know you usually don't meet the kids unless things are getting serious. As someone else said, if anything...she should invite him over to meet YOU.
  10. What about "L's" husband? All of this sounds kinda unusual to me?
  11. Yikes! I sure as hell wouldn't want a bunch of other people around...jeez. Sounds like a damn brothel! How about a little romance? Ease up on YOUR plans a little if you're already getting frustrated. What's your rush to do something 'afterwards'? This sounds like the settings of frat party...where you slap her on the backside and say thanks on her way out????? Poor girl.
  12. Most of us have had the long 'month' wait at some point, so take a deep breath. It's not always easy to get pregnant, depending on her cycle, etc. so don't panic. I hope she's not, but definitely learn from this lesson.
  13. I'd get away from this woman as soon as you can. Remember, it isn't your duty to mop up HER mess. It's not your fault she messed around w/ a married man. It's not your baby or your duty to be it's father. If fact, her child has a right to know who it's real father is. She obviously cheated on her last BF and the same will happen to you. She's a bad seed. A leach, moving from victim to victim to satisify HER needs. A bad girl will destroy you...emotionally and financially. Be glad you learned this lesson at 19. I'd get yourself back on track...that should be your first priority. When you're strong you'll be more able to provide for a good woman in the future. Don't be a mop for some troubled woman! I've known them...and they will make YOU pay for their mistakes....and they don't lose one moments sleep about it. Don't be fooled by the P.
  14. I did. Everything is a coincidence if you choose to view it in that light. People like to view love in that regard, however you can chalk anything up to coincidence. Anything. But, that's not as romantic. If you want to romanticize that particular encounter, fine. If not, that's fine too.
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