vote4james

now, i know this is quite unusual - or at least i think it is - but even when i'm not kissing my gf, like for example last time i was with her i was stroking her thigh and butt, sometimes i actually ejaculate! and she's not even been touching my penis. i guess she must just turn me on that much! or i have a very high sex drive or something! she's my first gf so i can't really compare the experience to anything else - not that i want to! a little off topic, but i just thought i'd share...

I hate to say this but ignore everyone who doesn't agree with me: KISS HIM!

And here was me thinking I wanted to study psychology simply because it would lead me onto a fulfilling career!

Just do whatever feels best; try to be assertive though. Rather than asking her whether she wants to kiss you, tell her you want to kiss her!

Is he British?! Sorry, just a little stereotypical self-deprication there. But maybe he just doesn't want to make it awkward with nothing to say, so whenever he has nothing to talk about he just talks about the things around him. I kinda do that; I've got quite a good sense of humour (and as you can see, ego!) so if the conversation drys up I always look around me for things to laugh about or make jokes about.

I think it's great that you have a fiancé who loves you at such a young age, especially considering that a lot of people with Asperger's Syndrome find relationships hard. Don't rush anything but I would advise you to try kissing her, and then at least if you don't like it or still think it's gross you can decide what to do about it with your fiancé. Kissing is easy though; there's no need to be nervous at all. I know it's easier said than done, 'cause I was worrying like mad about my first kiss (and I don't have AS, so I can only imagine what it must be like for you) but honestly, just do it, and she will be so excited by the fact that you're kissing her, she won't be marking your technique! Kissing comes naturally. I hope your relationship with your fiancé goes well, my friend.

As much as I'd love to try, I couldn't put it better myself!