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  1. Just a thought here...he asked you to marry him and you said no...was he okay with that decision? Maybe this whole ordeal was a ploy to get attention from you and to show you that he is attractive to other females...all this in order to show you that if you don't act fast, he'll get snatched up by some other woman. I might be wrong here, I don't know him personally but if he was so open and blatent about it he definitely wanted you to see it.
  2. Thanks...you know just posting all of this and seeing it written down made me realize that I was putting him at fault for everything. But I'm a liar too and we both have to work on trusting each other. I do have faith in him that he will really try to get better, hell it was his idea to go to AA. AND it was his idea for me to come with him. We'll just have to take it one day at a time.
  3. Wow. Reading this thread really hit home for me. I am also a liar and I also pretend to have more problems than I actually do. I told my psychiatrist all of this and she diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder. Which of course made me happy cuz it was one more disorder to add to my list. I think for me the lying makes my life exciting. It's the excitement that I need and the drama to keep me going. I think we both need to find other outlets to create excitement in our lives. I know that I could never live without any type of excitement, my life would be too boring, I'd be depressed again and want to kill myself. And I too am incredibly intelligent, I graduated Magne Cum Laude with a degree in computer programming (for real, not lying haha). Maybe people like us always need a challenge and keeping track of our lies is definitely a challenge
  4. Neither of us have had a drink since last Monday night (well he says he hasn't, I dunno if I can believe that one.) I would never drink in front of him now that he's told me he wants to quit. He's said it before but he never meant it and he never threw away his alcohol before. It's hard for me to trust him because we are both liars and manipulators. I feel SO stupid for not smelling weed on him last week and for believing that he had talked to his father. I'm not without fault here either, I pretended to sprain my ankle in november and i was out of work for a week. He even took me to the ER to get crutches. I felt so bad about lying that I told him about 2 weeks later. He was PISSED at me. Then when he confessed his lies to me on Sat, I told him that I had been taking pills. Not every night, but some nights I would take an extra 1 or 2 sleeping pills, nyquil, benadryl, anything to make me sleep. I also took a week off work right before xmas because I had the "flu." He took care of me that week, made me soup, bought me ginger ale and was sooooooo incredibly sweet. But yeah I was faking. I have an anxiety disorder and sometimes I just want to hide out at home and never go out into the world. I'm seeing a psychiatrist for all this, but it hasn't helped.
  5. Was he drunk that night all of this went down? Alcohol makes people do and say REALLY stupid things.
  6. I'm an recovering addict and my boyfriend is an alcoholic. We started dating in September and we were both drinking a lot, I was taking pills, etc. My drug of choice is pot, which I haven't smoked in 18 months, but I was using other methods thinking I was still "clean." I made my views on pot apparent to my bf on our first date. He had a hotel room that weekend so of course being the horny addict that I am, I went back with him and we had sex. I had taken an overnight bag with me and left it in my car haha. I went to get it and when I came back he told me he had just smoked a bowl. I flipped out and told him the entire saga of me and weed (long story short, I lost a job, was unemployed for 8 months, tried to kill myself and ended up instituionalized). After I told him that he took his bag of weed, took me into the bathroom and I watched as he flushed it and he promised he would never smoke again. Things were going really well (except for the fact that I had to take 2 weeks off of work to go into a day hospital which he was very supportive of) and he was staying at my apt for weeks at a time without going home, so he moved in with me and my roommate on Dec. 1st. Normally I wouldn't have done this, but I've been strapped for money and splitting the rent 3 ways f-ing rocks! Last week his drinking got out of control. Monday night he stayed up all night and drank 12 beers and some wine. I woke up twice and told him to go to bed but he said he couldn't sleep. He ended up not going to work the next day - duh! He works with his father in the family business and around 9am tuesday morning he called his dad and told him he was on his way. Then he decided to lay down and take a 15 minute nap, which of course he didn't wake up from until 4:30PM. In the meantime, his family was freaking out with worry so his mom emailed me, and his dad and his brother both called me. I called him reapeatedly but he didn't answer. So I called our other roommate and she said he was asleep. His father was PISSED. When I finally talked to my bf again that afternoon I told him all of this and he was very upset with himself. I watched as he poured out all of the alcohol...which was a LOT. He said he needed help and he was never going to drink again. I told him to call his Dad and straighten things out. He said he called Wed and then he told me that his Dad said he couldn't trust him, etc and not to come back to work until he gets himself together. Then he told me that he wanted to go in and talk to his Dad on Fri...he told me after that it was more of the same conversation. One thing you should know is he is petrified of his Dad. He's messed up many many times because of alcohol and his Dad used to beat him when he was little. Saturday morning comes and his mom calls me. She told me that no one had heard from him since Tuesday. So he lied to me. He blatently LIED to my FACE!! So I went and woke him up after my convo with his mom and I proceeded to rip him a new one. I told him that I felt taken advantage of and really stupid. I mean I'm an addict, I should be able to spot lies when I see them. So at this point he feels awful and decides to come clean with all of his lies. So he tells me that he smoked pot once in October and once LAST WEEK with his brother. I flipped out, had an anxiety attack and told him that i made myself perfectly clear that I cannot be with someone who smokes weed. I'm still not sure he understands actually. But he told me that he's not going over there anymore and when his brother is feeling lonely he can come to our place. Anyway, we went to AA that night and Sunday night too. He *says* he hasn't had a drink since that binge monday night, I haven't had a drink since then either. Am I being really stupid for hoping that he'll get better? We're so in love and everyone who knows us says we're absolutely perfect for each other, even the ones that know he's an alcoholic. But how can I allow myself to trust him again?
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