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the guy i have been seeing for a while is a father to be, he slept with someone when we stopped talking for a few weeks and just found out the girl is pregnant and is keeping the child even against his wishes. he has been putting me out of his life lately..not calling or msging me...it hurts, when i found out she was pregnant i stuck by him, he was so upset she was keeping the child, he is not ready to be a father, but as i said, she is keeping it and there is nothing he can do but be this child's father. I know he will be a great father, i know he will be fantastic at it, but he is so scared and he is going to wait until she has the baby and then get a paternity test to see if he is the father for sure. i feel like im nothing to him now...we werre happy and now i guess im going to be crowding the "family" he does not want to be with her, he told me she is not someone he see's himself with, im really upset..i want to support him but i get no responses to phone calls or messages, he said its to do me a favour....i dont know wat to do...i have to admit...i do love him...very much, its killing me inside... please if someone has some advice this would be great....

the cheater is at fault! 110%!

yeh i think your right! Thank you for your help! much appreciated!

you know what, i reckon she does look at me as a side kick....i was thinking that last night actually, she thinks she can controll me like a puppet, i always stick up for her if she has a falling out with someone. i dont know y i bother really. she doesnt really deserve my friendship to be honest. im so tired of looking like an idiot

you guys a great help, all the girls in my group know what she is like so it makes this lil easier if i need to vent, and they are always telling the guys to keep there guard up with her, which i think is snake-ish but smart at the same time. she hurt my best mate, and she didnt care cos by that time she was with someone else and i was furious, she is a good talker, make you believe her, but im not stupid anymore. i believe in Karma, and i hope it will teach her a lesson in time. she does not deserve these guys.

so true hey, thank you!!!

I have become best friends with one of the girls in my group. She is the type of girl that can pick up any guy cos’ she acts like to be honest something she is not. She has a really good job, really good friends, she knows a lot of people and has a very nice family, but she is obsessed with getting guys attention. When I first met her she had a boyfriend which was friends with my boyfriend at the time, she was normal as normal, once they broke up she was not going out with anyone for a while, which she needed I must say. In the last year she has attracted that many guys attention, she gives guys the wrong impression of her intentions, they give her presents galore and she kisses them a couple of times then throws the guys away one by one. She never commits to anyone, she gives of the impression she will but she never does. It makes me feel like an idiot being her friend, I feel ashamed as she makes me look bad, when I am nothing like her. She goes around telling guys she doesn’t drink, doesn’t go out clubbing, doesn’t do anything not by the book, though I know she always has 3 guys going at once, she does drink and she does go out (but as she told me before, she will only go out if guys are there). I was interested in a guy and we were seeing eachother and she tells me after a night out with them that he turned to her and told her he likes her and not me, meanwhile she was hooking up with his best friend – he told her this at the start of the night and she tells me 2 days later, so I was running around like an idiot all night, telling her how much I like him when she knew all along he didn’t feel the same, sometimes I think she gets a kick out of it, few weekends later we went out with those boys, she spent most the night talking with the guy I liked and ditched his mate she was hooking up with…..wat the hell, she is a serial guy ditcher! It only gets better, when a guy find out she is doing the dirty on them, she has this thing where she makes them forgive her, I don’t understand, if I had screwed a guy over he would dump me there and then talk behind my back, her? I don’t think so, they love her, in there eyes she is an angel, she always is saying she never does anything wrong. I was recently interested in a guy, she flirted with him all night. I don’t know what to do anymore, guys ditch me for her, even though I didn’t show to him I was interested still not the point, SHE knew I was interested but she still flirts with him and hands down she will get him anyway, so there is no point. It’s a problem cos’ she hooks up with a lot of guys, but then throws them away when she is done, and then we cant touch them cos’ she has been involved with them, I want a relationship, I would keep the guy, she just hooks up and throws them away, leaving not only me, but my group with no one to be interested in cos’ she has had them. At the moment she has 2 guys on the line, its just wrong, one of them is lovely, good heart, she already screwed him over by kissing someone else which he knows personally, the other guy on the line is someone she met clubbing, she kissed him too and the first guy has no idea. She is a serial guy stealer – they think she is an angel! I want to get into a relationship with someone but now im fearing she will steal anyone away from us girls… What is your opinion!??? Need help. Is SHE jelous? Or just a plain not nice person?