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tardissa

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  1. Thanks for all of your responses, it means a lot to me. Matters of the heart are so difficult and I know I should be thinking rationally but it's so tough. I did respond to his email and simply stated that work email is no place to discuss this matter. He then proceeded to keep writing to me and kept making silly comments like wow, sounds like you're totally over me...a good thing? Whatever that means. When I wouldn't answer him he began to get angry and wrote more comments. When I read your response Terk I almost fell out of my chair - this isn't the first time I've heard about the "control" issue. He is an extreme "A" type personality and always has to have control in his life. When I didn't respond then he didn't have control and well, then he got angry. This whole situation just plain sucks. I have a business function tomorrow night and unfortunately he will be there. I am trying to be so strong but he is just simply confusing me. He tells me to move on and once I try he retaliates and becomes angry........just don't get it.
  2. Ok, long story short my b/f and I had dated for 6 months. Both of us are in our early 30's and everything seemed great. We both moved extremely fast even though we discussed (at least once a month) that we should slow things down. Then it came......he decided that we needed a break and to seek couples counselling. So we went and about 2 weeks later he decided that we needed to break up with the chance that we will get back together in a bit. So we have been broken up for about a month now and things have went downhill. We argue quite a bit when we do talk (which never happened when we were together). When I got to work this morning I had an email from him stating the following: "Good morning, How are you? Thanks for calling back last night, and an even bigger thanks for being so understanding and letting me go when I needed to rest; much appreciated. We can get together and chat during the day Sat or Sun, or Tuesday night. My nights are filling up quick with hockey again (which is good) but if you feel the urge to chat those are the times I'm free. Do I still love you? Yes. Are we going to get back together in 2007? I don't know. Should we date other people? Yes. Does this defeat the purpose if we want to get back together? No, because you never know what can happen and we need to move on right now. Can we and do I want to be friends? Absolutely. As mentioned so many times before this is simply where I am right now in my mind and heart. I know I am doing the right and fair thing for both of us for the time being. I don't expect you to understand it, but I expect you to accept it. I don't want to argue in circles anymore, but I do look forward to seeing you soon, and yes I miss you. We just have to be careful if we're going to hang out as friends because I know we'll always be tempted to 'make moves on eachother' because no matter what we'll always be attracted to one another. I will talk with you soon..." My question is do I cut ties with him? The reasoning for our break up was that he wasen't ready for a "serious commitment" but then he mentions dating other people. I'm confused and don't know what to do or say. I haven't even asked him these questions so I'm not sure where this came from. And the fact that we work at the same company (different departments though) does not help. Any advice/suggestions would be helpful.
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