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if he leaves u, ur life will move on !! A guy who really wants to be with you never ever say this thing that he gets upset when he sees others friends with their gfs. DO U REALLY NEED GUY like UR BF or SOMEONE WHO TREATS U WITH RESPECT!!

he will or he will not ! u never know. Live in ur present neither past or future. everything will be fine! Just write everyday one thing which makes u happy even its a cool breeze or anything! Good luck!

i am happy to see that there are people outside like you who really work on their relationships instead of just move on. I wish, i could find someone like you. In relationships, trust is a major issue! It takes time to trust someone. It is not like "trust me" so ur patner has to do that. Actions speaks louder than words. I know ur gf is having difficult time trusting you, which is natural. Your responsibility is to show by your actions that you are never going to cheat her, whereas looking at girls is very natural and it does not include cheating. If you really love her, you have to respect her by not looking at girls in her presense or you have to refrain from all thoughts which made her feel bad. Try to be as close as you can with her, try to tell everything to her u did in the whole day, make her feel that you share everything with her. I wish, in my relationship, my ex had done all that. We were in long distance relation, I'd love if he shared each and everything with me! and showed me that i m more important to him that his friends. Told all of his friends about our being engaged esp. girls. Not hiding that someone of his girls buddy visited him at his place and not telling that he is with a girl buddy. Always telliing me that he has more guys friends. Always wanted me to share everything but leaving me the feeling that he didnt want to share everything with me! Always stopped me from askin much questions whereas i really wanted to know what he had been upto! I really didnt want someone he is too independent and doesnt want to share anything with me!

but our families are involved n its formal commitment, we need to answer them if we both want to breakup!

he cheated on me, and getting mad on me for snoopin around! He was with another girl, he doesnt want to let me go either, and not admitting at all! He asked me that he was furious on me and doesnt want to talk at that momement and he would call me! Now its been 2 weeks!

i wanted to break up with my fiance, and he got furious! i asked him to call me, so we both worked out on our issues since our families are involved. He said, yes he would call me but i have not gotten his call yet. Its been 2 weeks now. What does that mean?

These relations are like this, in a moment, u feel so close to someone and another moment you treat you like trash! My fiance cheated on me! I dumbed him and broke up! He cried, refused to agreed, he wanted to come back! but he lost the chance i gave it to him! There were a few things, i did not accept at all! I truly loved him but i needed proper respect in return! which i didnt get! so i moved on! You loved him but what did you get in return? I think, Love is always completed when you give and get proper respect in return! Do you deserve something like this in return of your love? No! rigght? Love someone who value you; not the one who kicked you out any time for his sake! if i were you, i would say to him " Fine, if you want to move on! I truly loved you. I will be needing my time and space and i will get over it one day and i might get someone else but please dont expect me that i will be waiting for you whole life"

jeffery those changes are really important to me! I want his not to have those things! I dont think so he wil easily let me go!

he is not ready to talk to me about that in detail! he said, he will not easily happen break-up! I just dont understand, he sends me " i miss you' messages! He is furious on one side and not willing to talk about whatever happened> WHY

First of all, stop your this attitude FOR GOD SAKE!! you are responsible for your happiness, not ANYONE in this world. If your bf loved you, and he understood that fact that you are finding it difficult to trust him, he should have put an effort to build your trust on him. Do your self a favor, pick up a diary or any paper and start writing anything small thing which makes you happy, even its the morning breeze! Show your boyfriend that you can live your life without him, get urself in hobbies. If you like cooking, do that! if you like excercise, do that! do anything, you like. Get yourself into gym or any strenghous excercise, which makes you tired, which takes out all your energy. It could be getting yourself into studies! Read books, search online on google, how to cope up with break-up. Think you just didnt find the right guy! Its better to be alone than to live with someone whom you face difficulties. LOVE YOURSELF THEN EXPECT ANYONE TO LOVE YOU. Love your existence in this world and try to figure out the reason! It was not your fault sweetie, your boyfriend didnt do anything to built up trust on you! Leave him!

I do think that i should give him one chance, if he really want to change! Mistakes can be happened. The Problem is that i have the feeling that he can not discriminate between right and wrong. We have told our families about our engagement. Our families are very compatible. I m just too scared to marry him. He says, we are in long distance relation, what he is supposed to do to build the trust! Whereas, i think, one has to be above-aboard, which i didnt find him at all. I do believe that mistakes happen from us human beings! He says, i used dirty tactis to get to know about him, i am * * * *ing freak! Whereas i got the reasons to do that. Did i do wrong?

I have been in long distance relation with my fiance. I got the feeling that he has stopped giving me attention. Then i found out that he didn't tell his close friends about our engagement esp. girls. I have been really against drinking wine etc and he promised that he would stopped but i didnt find out any of his actions that he had stopped going to bars etc and he has still calling some of his friends for drinks. I wanted my husband to be of some religious values but he said clearly that he would not follow any of the religion. From his family, i have been hearing a few suspicious things about him as well. Then, he started giving me some red flags through his behaviors which made me to investigate about him. got to know from his friend that he is still into drinkin and dating someone. I gave his friends some clues intentionally about myself, so he could talk to my fiance, which would make him believe that i had got to know everything. When i told him that i got to know from someone about his drinking and girl-friend, and i want break-up. He refused to agree and started crying and said, he would not let me go that easily. Then, when his friend told him everything. He was really furious and called me many "names". He says, he knows everything now about who told me all that. His friend told him everything from the point when i started enquiring him, whereas his friend told me that his all friends drink including him before i started the enquiry of my fiance. He is so furious and not talking. He said, he will talk but he wants his anger to go away first. I have stopped talkin to him and giving him space at this moment but I really need to talk to him! I just do not understand, what is his reason for being furious on me! I know, he would not like his friend telling him about the way i investigate but he made me suspicious and never tried to build trust. Whereas, he had already experienced 2 break-ups before our relation. I told him many times that i sometimes found it difficult to trust him. He never tried to work on that issue. I found him more concerned about his friends than me! I know, i am having trust issues on men because of my previous relationship, where i had been cheated really badly. What should i do now?