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Your right Victory it does help noing were not alone.

Cant understand this!!

I can stick to no contact but she keeps on gettin in touch after a while just when i start to cum round to it bein over for good, its so hard to get over this if she wont leave me alone i need time to get over her and move on.

So here's the deal, we split up we get back then split and this happens every time i start to get over her. The only reason she wanted to give it another shot was because she didnt want me with someone else so i move on again and then she gets in touch again askin all the same questions about who ive been with but i then find out she has been away with her ex on holiday and this was after her tellin me she wouldnt go near him because she has self respect and didnt reply to his messages, it was all lies!! I never even found out from her she posted it on a friends web page where some of her friends are my friends. So she has lie'd to me, held me back from movin on and taken the pi*s out of me. We had a massive fight and she kept going on about good terms but i was to pi*sed off and didnt want to talk but then i gave in this morning and gave her what she wanted (a good luck msg, i was sorry about the fight and hope u keep well) i also said not to reply because i'l be fine but iam not fine iam so lost, sad and just feel like iam going to have nothing in my life and our time together was false. I feel like i wont be able to get over this and get to the place i was before she got in touch because i miss her more now noing that she cares for her ex and back with him. What should i do? Focus on how i was before and remember that all thats changed is her ex is involved? for sure stick to N/C even though i want to talk to her so much and hate that she's fine and iam back to square one. Help please.

Yeah i guess it is just time we need, it helps cos others are going through it but then makes me think more about it as well. I just cant put in words how this feels. So staying single for a long long.

i think i no why i feel like i do then i dont no again but at the end i still have the miss her feelings and want her back feelings. Help!!

Why is this so hard though? Iam sitting here with all these emotions misseing her and upset but they come and go and last longer i cant even see me getting better and over it just now. What is this?

Any help would be welcome

Again, everyone on ths site does make things that bit better. Thank.

Do you want to stay friends at the hope one day you might be able to get back together?

P.S. Pisces is right we are all goin through the same thing and we all can pull through it together.

Yeah cos she was mad i thought she might of just deleted my text but then b4 the txt she answered my call so i no she prob did read the msg. It is hard with all the reminders but try to jst focus on other things, its so so hard but u start to get used to it a it becomes more normal and again in time u look back and think am so glad am not in the position a was in when all the little things hurt.

Just like wanting her and not wanting any1 else to have her in the way i did.

Why do break ups have so much pain and weird feelings?

yeah my friends are the same, u go out but there like cheer up but its not that easy!! How are you feeling just now after your e mail? It really is the worst feeling in the world(more so when all u want to do is move on so u dnt feel the pain anymore) but does just take time. U will get through it jst remember there's others out there on the same boat. P.S. do u keep a busy day?

Help, Ahhhhhhh

can u help??

P.S. that is crap when u think its her when u get a msg or call but if its ment to be it will be and by the way, they split for a reason as well so they cld do it again and ul be with the PROPER one who never wants to leave you and u never want to leave her as well. ;-)

It hurts so much i know, through the break up from my ex but she dsnt want me so i will look for sum1 down the line when im less hurt but for now u need to focus on why u's are not together. U will be upset because ul feel it was a lie on her part if she can just leave u and u feel u want her forever. Dont get in touch anymore unless its a last msg of sum sort tellin her how u feel but with an added bit of closure like this 1 i sent : Fine u can ignore the msg,i dont want a reply to this but i want u to no that i think the reason for u to give it another shot was bull and selfish(worried about me bein with some1 else) it was unfair and u shld of left it the way it was if u were unsure but now at least i def no thats it and i can move on properly without wondering what if. U can be mad but remember how i felt when i was getting the calls+txts so have ur closure and il have mine. Try and get out if ur not that helps, few beers with mates and when ur ready ul start to think about a date and then more, time does heal but what uve done during it, doin during it and think about during it help as well. email removed mate if u need a chat then feel free, loads of people on this to help you and your def not alone with the pain your feelin. I feel it too. Take it easy

thanks everyone

yeah ...............

add'd u to my buddy list. x

It does help, u no what i hate? the positive feelin then it goes and u get the need them so bad feelin. Killer

there's alot of ppl on here willin to help its pretty cool

yeah from the girl on the other page lol xx