I am a 41 year old single male and about a year and a half ago a friend of mine wanted me to meet her younger sister who's 36. After weeks of my friend asking me if I wanted to meet her sister I finally gave in and agreed to meet them both for dinner. I'm glad I did because she (the younger sister) turned out to be a very attractive, exotic looking woman from central america.
There's about 50 miles or more between the cities we live in, I have a car, she doesn't, but the distance isn't a problem for me as I'm crazy about her and I drive to the ends of the earth for her. I haven't been able to stop thinking about her lately. I'm hoping the distance isn't an issue. I will ask given the chance.
So anyways we went out to a club to see a band play a few weeks after meeting. I thought we were having a good time, we talked, enjoyed the music, but she seemed to get a little bored towards the end of our date although months later told me she had a good time.
I called her a couple of times, left messages asking her to give me a call, appologizing for the evening not going entirely as I had planned but I never heard from her. Then a few months later my friend invited me to the movies and informed me it was her younger sisters idea to invite me. I quickly agreed, we had dinner, did a little shopping and watched the movie. We made some small talk and later we said goodbye. I called a couple of times to ask her out again but only got her voice mail. Then a few more months went by not hearing from her and I get a call from my friend again, inviting me to dinner and a movie. When she told her younger sister I was going she wanted to go TOO. We never made the movie. The three of us sat at the resturant and talked until it closed. Later I asked if she wanted to get together and see a movie some other time and she said yes. She called me up a few day's later to name the weekend. I must add, my friend informed me before I ever met her younger sister, that, when asking her out she needs about a months notice so she can prepare. She doesn't seem the type to act on a whim or be spontanious. Anyway, we go to the movie which finished early for a Saturday night, around 9:30ish but she didn't want to do anything else afterwords. I tried to get her to do something, go somewhere, eat, rent a movie but no go. I called again a couple of day's later, left a couple of messages. I don't think she stays up late. I called a couple of times in June while in Arizona on business, just to say hi, talk, but again all I got was her voice mail so I figured she wasn't interested. So I stopped calling. As I said I'm very attracted to her, not just physically, Its deeper than that, intellectually as well. So I spent the next four months trying to get her out of my head. Easier said than done but I was managing.
So then, my friend invites me to a big family party last November she and her husband were throwing. I went, arrived early. I sat by myself for an hour until I moved accross the yard when I saw someone I knew. Then to my surprise the younger sister searched me out. She had seen me out of a window while getting ready, she came out to where I HAD been sitting but only to find I was gone. She said she thought that I had left.
Her entire family was there, mom, step-dad, brother's, sister's, niece's and nephews, huge family, but she chose to sit with me for five hours. This got me thinking! So once again I swallowed my pride and asked her out again to dinner or a movie, nothing specific. She agreed but said it would have to be after a vacation she was taking at the end of November. Then two weeks after the party she surprised me again by calling to invite me to her works christmas party which I gladly agreed to take her to.
We went to the party, it was at a five star hotel in downtown Los Angeles, we had a very nice time. She was the most beautiful woman there and I told her. She seemed flattered. We talked a lot. Probably the most talkative we've been with one another so far. I have a tendency to be a little quiet, self-consious, insecure around attractive women and she IS very attractive. I AM starting to loosen up though. So I took her home but before I let her go I gave her what was to me a small christmas gift, black cashmere scarf and gloves. While I was buying it something kept telling me I shouldn't, but I did, thinking I've known her for over a year now. No big deal I thought. She was surprised when I handed her the present, perhaps taken aback at receiving something but not having anything for me which I could care less about. She seemed a little awkward, but gracoiusly accepted the present, she said , "good, now I'll have something to open." I asked to see her again before she went inside and she said yes but it would have to be after the new year. I know she has a grandmother up here visiting from central america so I know she's not yanking my chain. The thing is though, I've never heard from her since the christmas party which was on the second Saturday of December. I don't know if she liked the gift I got her, or not. I've called a couple times to just wish her a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year but I just get her voicemail.
I know I should communicate with her (I plan to) and ask her what her feelings are and open up and tell her mine but its hard when all I have to talk to is her answering machine. I think she screens her calls as my friend told me she more than likely does.
I know she's busy but she can't be that busy you know? Is she interested in me? Is she testing me to see how serious I am? Is she running, unsure wheather to commit? Have I scared her off with what I thought was a small gesture of a gift? I feel in a way she may be the one and if I have a chance I don't want to blow it or wait too long. We both have a lot in common. We're both the same zodiac sign, have similar personal traits, enjoy travel, culture, music, reading, art, just to name a few.
She doesn't seem to have a problem with me being in her space. We sometimes sit close together, she touches me on occasion. She's willing to lean into one another when out pictures being taken so I don't think I she finds me repulsive.
Anyone women out there, latin perhaps, that may have some insight into my
situation? I don't know if her coming from a different cultural environment has anything to do with it but need help. I may ask my friend to see if she can get a little info from her sister too.
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
