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  1. After living with her now for 3 days, it's deeper than that. I truly believe she has serious mental issues. The things she said to me yesterday were unbelievably painful and I just don't think she's a sane human being. After I made this thread, she called me at 2 am on NYE after not speaking for days. The first thing she says is, "tell me you love me and that she wants me to come over her house." Keep in mind, she is drunk and just LEFT the guy's house that she is seeing. I stayed with her all night and the next morning she wakes up and says.."What the hell are you doing here?" She was drunk, but I she eventually looks at her call log to see that she called. She was kissing me and asking me to touch her on NYE. I refused to do it, but I just wanted to make sure she was fine so I stayed. She starts freaking out at me about me being over there, and I calmly tell her, you're the one who called me to come here. I told her she took advantage of my compassion, sincererity and caring nature by treating me this way when I was just trying to help. We are now living together and it's miserable. The first night, she kissed me, we stayed in the same bed and it was like we were together. The 2nd night, we even hooked up before we got into a huge fight because this other guy called. So yesterday morning, she calls me all these names because apparently the boyfriend hung up on her for being a * * * * * and that's all my fault so she freaked out at me about it. She told me to die of a heart attack, she wished awful things on my family and then proceeded to slap and punch me because I told her she's a dime a dozen nutjob who blames everyone else for where she's at in life. So now we are completely living on opposite ends of the house. She says she wants me to move out, but I can't afford an apartment down here and can't go back to my hometown yet because of a teaching contract. She says she's completely out of love with me, but her dad calls me yesterday and encourages me to not give up. I think I already have. She's not the same person anymore and not someone I want to be with. Her father told me to go out and start dating someone else. He said, "you'll see her tone change real quick." But I don't want to involve someone else in this problem. I know she doesn't want me, but at the same time, she doesn't want anyone else to have me either. It's hard because I do love her. She says she was pretending for 5 years, but that's a lie. She says I made her a miserable person, which is another lie. I know our communication skills haven't been great since we moved, but I don't know how someone just gets so nasty to someone that they know would do anything for them. Now I have to show her I'm not a doormat and I won't take her * * * * and maybe, just maybe things would change. I'm done being nice, it has to be about taking care of me now. I seriously think I'm going to need heavy meds to get through this one.
  2. It's tough for me. I want things to work, and because we have to see each other for the next 5 and a half months every day, I want to give it my best shot because I do care. Tomorrow I will see her. I just don't know what to expect.
  3. You're right. She said she met someone the first night she was home. She said she has "a lot in common with him" and how she likes him. It makes me sick that I could be replaced like that, especially when we have to live together for the next months. I met a girl when I went out too when I came home. I was friendly with her, but when push came to shove and she wanted to go out to dinner, I had to back away because I couldn't do that because I still care. I never did anything physical with her, it was just company for me. I hope it blows over, but she seems real headstrong. I just want to hug her when I see her and wear my heart on my sleeve and try to resolve this.
  4. I'm in a real tough situation and wanted some unbiased opinions. Me and my ex-fiancee (we've been together for 5 years) moved to Northern Virginia back in August for her teaching job. It was the first time we've lived together. While I've hated it down there, she hasn't minded it too much. We are both locked into contracts with the school districts and our lease isn't up until August. Anyway, the Thursday before Christmas we had a huge fight before we came back to our hometown for Christmas. It was a petty fight that just escalated into a huge issue. She told me she didn't want to see me for Christmas when we got home and I got stubborn and made her eat her words. Well, during the time we have been home, I've been miserable. After not seeing her for Christmas, I realize it was a total mistake and I miss her like crazy. I went out with my friends for 2 nights when we got home and completely didn't want to talk to her because of the fight. She called me late night to talk about Christmas presents for our families and I told her to take them back because I was still mad after telling me she didn't want to see me. This was her olive branch so to speak. Well, fast forward to New Years Eve and apparently she met someone new in the 9 days we were home. She said we are finished, but we still have to live together. I told her I just want a chance in the next 5 and a half months to see what happens with us. I love her a whole lot and it kills me that a petty fight escalated into hell. She said that anything is possible, but she's ready to move on. I'm devistated that she met someone new that quick. To top it all off, I proposed on New Years Day 2 years ago and it's hard not to be with her right now. I'm hoping that she's just talking mad right now and that when she sees me things clear up. This has been the longest we've never seen each other in 5 years and I hope something clicks when she sees me tomorrow. How can you live with an ex that you are crazy about? How can we co-exist? I'm going to see her tomorrow and I'm so nervous I can't stand it. Thanks for any help.
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