After living with her now for 3 days, it's deeper than that.
I truly believe she has serious mental issues. The things she said to me yesterday were unbelievably painful and I just don't think she's a sane human being.
After I made this thread, she called me at 2 am on NYE after not speaking for days. The first thing she says is, "tell me you love me and that she wants me to come over her house."
Keep in mind, she is drunk and just LEFT the guy's house that she is seeing.
I stayed with her all night and the next morning she wakes up and says.."What the hell are you doing here?"
She was drunk, but I she eventually looks at her call log to see that she called. She was kissing me and asking me to touch her on NYE. I refused to do it, but I just wanted to make sure she was fine so I stayed.
She starts freaking out at me about me being over there, and I calmly tell her, you're the one who called me to come here. I told her she took advantage of my compassion, sincererity and caring nature by treating me this way when I was just trying to help.
We are now living together and it's miserable. The first night, she kissed me, we stayed in the same bed and it was like we were together. The 2nd night, we even hooked up before we got into a huge fight because this other guy called.
So yesterday morning, she calls me all these names because apparently the boyfriend hung up on her for being a * * * * * and that's all my fault so she freaked out at me about it.
She told me to die of a heart attack, she wished awful things on my family and then proceeded to slap and punch me because I told her she's a dime a dozen nutjob who blames everyone else for where she's at in life.
So now we are completely living on opposite ends of the house. She says she wants me to move out, but I can't afford an apartment down here and can't go back to my hometown yet because of a teaching contract.
She says she's completely out of love with me, but her dad calls me yesterday and encourages me to not give up. I think I already have. She's not the same person anymore and not someone I want to be with.
Her father told me to go out and start dating someone else. He said, "you'll see her tone change real quick."
But I don't want to involve someone else in this problem. I know she doesn't want me, but at the same time, she doesn't want anyone else to have me either.
It's hard because I do love her. She says she was pretending for 5 years, but that's a lie. She says I made her a miserable person, which is another lie.
I know our communication skills haven't been great since we moved, but I don't know how someone just gets so nasty to someone that they know would do anything for them.
Now I have to show her I'm not a doormat and I won't take her * * * * and maybe, just maybe things would change. I'm done being nice, it has to be about taking care of me now.
I seriously think I'm going to need heavy meds to get through this one.