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well a quick up date.... He finally left her for good... it has been about 2 weeks now.... we have recently got into a huge fight... and now we are on the outs of being friends... because of everything that went on between us... i am scared of losing him... He knows everything about me.... But he told me from the beginning that he didn;t want to be in a relationship before things happened... and now that they have he can just say that i told you that i didn;t want to rush into anything.... so we went out friday night and he kissed some girl right in front of me and it hurt my feelings very much.... and i was really drunk and got mad and said some really really means things to him and now he says to me that he doesn't like that.... that that makes him look bad.... so he doesnt think that there will be anything between us... and that hurts me so much... cause that is all i want.... please help

well he contacted me Monday night... he asked me if i wanted to come over and hang out.... so i did.... Which was really really hard because i knew i prolly shouldn't go over there.... but it was so hard to say no because i want to be there for him... I asked him, what he would do if i stop talking to him and he said that he wouldn't talk to me anymore... but if that is what i wanted to do then do it.... i asked him why he wouldn't talk to me again... and he said because you are gonna shut me out then i am gonna shut you out.... I need someone he said to be there for me.... and i told him that i am here..... So then i ended up staying the night last night because we went and rented movies and got pizza and * * * *... and this morning i said i have to go and he was like i don't want you too.... but she ended up calling him when i was there and he was talking to her right in front of me.... and he was telling her blah blah blah... and after he got off the phone is said she still wants me and i kinda of got a little upset just because why can't he just let it go.... he wants to be done with her it is just so hard that is what he tells me..... but i don't know what to say as far as us... I want so badly for him to say that it is done with them two and that he wants something with me.... but i know that can't happen and i dont want it to be a rebound but i feel like that is what it is already... Please help....

thanks... it is just really really hard... cause i want to talk to him and i want to be with him..... but i don;t want to push him away.... i wish i had the answers.... i wished he would pick up the phone and call me.... it sucks... don;t know what to do...

TaTaBell.... I just wanted you to know that i am going through the same thing you are going through.... I have known this guy for 6 years.... and we have always stayed close with each other... we dated for a month was i was like in 9 grade and because i was too young we couldn't have anything, but we both had strong feelings for each other... but we coudn;t act on them... then he started dating this girl and would tell me that he cares so much for me and wants so badly to be with me but he can't because i am so young... he was 18 and i was 15.... so it was really hard for him.... he would come to my house when she was busy and kiss me and * * * *... and tell me so bad that he wanted to be with me... i just couldn't do that to myself because i liked him alot..... then i moved to alabama with my mom and he came and seen me the night before i left... and he told me to keep in touch with him... he would call me and write me all the time... and it was just so hard because i was trying to get over him and he just wasn't giving up on me.... he wasn't letting me go.... i came back up here... and he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfirend... and he still told me that he wanted to be with me that he would treat me so good... and take me out to dinner and i told him that i couldn't because he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfirend.... well now i just left my ex after 4 years... it has been almost two months... and about a month and half ago he told me that he was leaving her.... we had went shopping for the day... and when we came back they got into a huge fight and he called me and told me to come get him and i did.... i told him i would be right there... we went out he proceed to tell me that he wanted me to stay there with him for the night... and i told him from the beginning that i still had feelings for him and i don;t think it was a good idea and he said please stay with me... i don;t want to be alone... and i then finally gave in because i felt that i could be his friend and not let it go any further.... and i told him that i didn;t want it to go any further... because i do have feelings for him... and then it did... he then told me that he needed to spend the holidays with her because she has no family around here and he already told her that he would.... so i spent christmas eve day with him and he told me over and over again that he would rather spend it with me then her... but he just thought that would be the right thing for him to do was to have her there... he would tell me when i would go see him on break and stuff that he would rather me be at his house than her that i am alot more fun... and mind you things between us have been going out... because he would tell me that he is really leaving her... and he asked me if he left her if i was gonna ditch him... he was like i am gonna want you around all the time.... and all this other stuff.... well last night new years eve we went out and she showed up... they got into a fight... and she was being totally misriable... then we were all going out to a bar like a half hour away and she was going.... and he tried telling her that there wasn't gonna be any room and she said i am going... so she went and ended up casuing a huge seen... and told me that he have been doing stuff but haven't for the past week... so i said to him you lied to me how could you do that to me... and he was already dealing with her at this point and he just told me to leave him alone right now he was in bad mood because of her.... today he ended things with her for good.... and got all her stuff out of his house.... he never called me today but i seen him for like 5 mins and he acted like everything was ok between us and that he wasnt mad at me for last night when i said what i said.... Tatabell.... I just can relate to what you are going through right now.... it is so hard for me because i want so badly to call him up and tell him that i would come hang out with him when he got back from dinner with his family.... but i don;t want to push him away.... I really dont know what to do..... If i could just get some advice... I would appreciate it very much... Thanks for listening...

well i got home and his mom called me and told me that they got into another fight and that him and his mom are going over there to tell her to leave.... so i am not to sure what is gonna go on.... His mom also said that he is really done with her.... that he has had enough... i guess some things went bad today... i just don;t know what to do cause he hasn't called me back since our converstation last night when i think he got made at me cause i am not being patience..... it is just really hard... cause i just so badly want to have something because we never really had the chance before... ya know... i still don;t know what to do... my mom says to wait for him to call me... but it is just so hard....

yeah but it is just hard because she is still staying staying with him.... even though tonight he told me that it was done and nothing was going to change his mind but she is there tonight and he asked me what i wanted him to do and i said do what you think you need to do... and he said that he is doing what he needs to do... to give him time..... it is just hard because i want to be more than just friends with him..... we have always had feelings for each other.... it is just really hard....

i need some advice

Ok... I have known this guy for 6 years now... and we kinda dated 6 years ago, but because i was so young we had to end things... But i moved to alabama and we always kept in touch... he would write me and call me and vice versa.... We have always had feelings for each other, but we have always been with other people so we never had the chance to become something... about a month ago me and my ex broke up after 4 years... and him and his ex broke up about 3 weeks ago.... We hung out and starting getting more feelings for each other.... and then he started talking to her again after about a week and a half.... he told me that he needed to spend christmas with her.... becuase he felt after 3years that, that was the right thing for him to do... he promised me over and over again that he wasnt gonna hurt me and that he was really leaving her.... but he didn;t want to jump back into a relationship again.... and i told him i didn;t want to either.... but that i had feelings for him always had and he said the same..... one night they got into a huge fight (the first night they started hang out again) and he called me up and wanted me to come and hang out with him.... so i did.... we hung out all day sunday and he told me that he wanted to spend christmas with me but he told the right thing to do was for him to spend it with her... but after that he was done with her.... he told me that he isnt back with her and that he wouldn't do stuff with her when he is with me.... i kinda of got a lilttle upset cause she is still at his house and he said that i need to give him time to do what he needs to do... but he is truly done with her... he said he doesn;t understand why i am getting all up tight, he said just when things were getting good between us then i throw this at him... and i said that he doesnt understand how i feel... I don;t know what to do....