Paper Tiger
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She is scared, so don't try to spend the whole date convincing her to take you back, as that would only put pressure on her and make her feel trapped. Try to have a fun, lighthearted date, like you would at the beginning of the relationship, and show her why you two got together in the first place. Good luck!
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Happened to me when I was young and stupid... after a while (two months for me) of seeing each other every day it stops being a "treat" and then becomes a routine and eventually an obligation. No one wants to feel like a boyfriend or girlfriend is something they gotta go do every day. Eventually the person who is less in love will decide that they don't want that kind of forced relationship.
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What have you done in last five years?
Paper Tiger replied to Twinkle Twinkle little sta's topic in Personal Growth
Good finished getting my license to practice medicine, became a vegan, lost 70 pounds, gained a lot of muscle, and generally am a much better person. Bad: I'm still weird and random (kinda bad for a doctor), My ex-girlfriend is suicidal and I feel like I can't move on until I'm sure she wont hurt herself. -
Can I get a psych consult here? oh yeah, you're not in my hospital... I see so much suffering, so much pain, so much death every day of my life that it saddens me greatly when someone doesn't appreciate life.
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True those are the things most people believe is all they need to make them happy, but when they get them they still feel unfulfilled. You must think long and hard about what you really want. If you still do not feel happy after getting everything you wanted, that is a sign of clinical depression which may require medication and therapy. I've been there with the depression, but I had to get over it once I started my internship at a hospital. Nobody wants a doctor who is weeping in the fetal position in the corner.
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Without examining it myself, (I am an M.D., not a freak) I would say it was probably a urinary tract infection and would prescribe antibiotics and maybe penicillin. You should go see a doctor in person as any sort of bacterial infection could cause serious health problems including sterility (not trying to freak you out, just telling you the facts)
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Bingo thats the root cause, depression. In some people it causes them to sleep constantly and in others it causes bad insomnia. Your insomnia will probably alleviate with time as you get over this girl, and as for the expectations of others, remember that it's your life, not theirs you should do whatever makes you happy
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I believe sex is extremely important to a healthy relationship. I builds a connection and is an excellent stress reliever. Going for too long without sex can make you pissy and even make you grow to resent her. As for getting closer to God, everyone goes about that in a different way. I have practiced tantric meditational sex with past girlfriends and I know I felt a connection to some higher power during.
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I have been clinically depressed my entire life, and medication was not an option because they had adverse affects on me (violence, increased suicidal thoughts). I guess the only way to really "get the ball rolling" is to find the inner strength to beat back your depression forcefully. I'm weird, so I always imagined my struggle with depression as me being a knight with a shield and sword fighting a giant demon named "depression". we would go back and forth, sometimes I lost ground, sometimes I gained ground, but I never won. But one day I took all the courage I had, and I hurled my sword with all my might and got him right through the heart. His ghost haunts me occasionally, but I know he will never be a serious problem again... I guess I'm just rambling.
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It's not easy at all at first, I had several false starts, but I finally managed to get the ball rolling. I just googled "origami tigers"
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Confidence! Confidence! Confidence! Thats what it's all about. Even if you don't have it, pretend you do! Create the person who you want to be in your head and act like him until you are him.(sounds a little weird and dissociative but it works)
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Real friends don't turn on you. A real friend would have at least said "I hear ya man, that sucks." Find some people who will be true friends to you no matter how your feeling.
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I have seen a lot of posts which basically boil down to "woe is me, I am but a wretch".I was a sad sack for a really long time. I thought "I'll never have friends, or a girlfriend, nobody would like me because I'm so different/shy/fat" and then, it hit me: the only person stopping me from having a happy life is ME. My doubts were destroying my life. So one day I stopped being a sad sack and I became me, Peter Trenton(PT, Paper Tiger, get it?) The first step is the absolute hardest thing I have ever done. I went on a diet and started exercising. Then I started associating more with aquaintences until they became friends. I met a lot of people I had stuff in common with. After a year I had lost 70 pounds and was at about 200 pounds, mostly muscle(not bad, considering I'm 6 feet 4 inches tall) and women began flocking to me because they saw how confident I was and how comfortable I was with my own body. My first girlfriend asked me out. That was five years ago. I now have several good friends and have dated several beautiful women. To all those in a funk who believe that their lives will never improve, follow my example. Take the initiative. No one can Improve your life but you. It's cliche but, Quitters never win and winners never quit.
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Rough situation you're in. And don't confuse fat with being ugly. Even when I was heavy people commented on how handsome I was and how I would look better if I lost some weight so I did. anyway, You should want to look good for yourself and your health. if people are being lewd and crude when you're thin, the solution is simple: go someplace where the men know how to be gentlemen and can give a compliment without making you uncomfortable. If you can't avoid comments from {mod edit}, tell them where they can shove their disgusting words. You don't need that, tell them to screw off.
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Unfair Expectations Please Help!
Paper Tiger replied to Paper Tiger's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
I have taken several personality tests including some with a psychiatrist and they all point to me as being a person of self sacrifice almost to the point of martyrdom. My shrink told me that while it was a noble trait it would lead to unhappiness if I didn't look out for myself instead of others once in a while, but I can't stop myself. The whole "look out for number 1" mentality disgusts me to the core. No matter what happens, I will help her until I'm sure she is stable enough so that she would not hurt herself. Any other course of action just seems inexcusably selfish.