lisam09

Thanks for your replies! Here is an update: My husband is now starting to realize how bad this situation is getting. Last weekend our "guest's" married girlfriend, his 16 year old son and his friend were over for 3 days straight. We have a futon in our basement and one of our "guests" broke it, not accidentally either. My husband was soooo angry. It was an $850.00 piece of furniture and now he has to deal with either replacing it or getting it fixed. He is making them fix it and/or replace it I might add. He finally agreed this is a MAJOR problem and gave him until April 1st at the very latest to get out. He enjoys his friend's company and I don't think he realized it was such a burden until I pointed out our bills and how much we are spending on our "guest" when he doesn't want to work or do anything with himself. I organize the bills/finances at home so when I showed him how much we are losing he was surprised. I am happy we are finally starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel! Will keep you updated on how things go!

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About a year ago, I agreed to take in one of my husband's college roommates when he fell on hard times (lost his home). It's been a year and his friend has not made any effort to improve his life. At first he was paying rent to help with the bills, but then he lost his job and hasn't paid rent in almost 9 months. I've told my husband over and over again that I'm tired of giving up my house, my privacy and hundreds of dollars a month for someone who is doing nothing for himself and is intruding in our life or marriage. I love my husband dearly, but he will sit there and "feel sorry" for his friend and come up with a thousand excuses of why he's not doing anything with his life and quite frankly I'm tired of it. We are paying for his friend's food, shelter, clothing, bills, and everything else for the past year. He doesn't say thank you and he makes no effort to get a job. On top of all of this, his friend lost his driver's license because of a DUI and his time to apply for it again isn't for a few months. He has no way of getting to a job even if he were to get one because we live in a remote area away from public transportation. His friend also brings over his married girlfriend and her teenage kids, who eat our food, sit in front of our tv, and take up our house, and he expects me to deal with this. So last night we had it out on Valentine's Day (of all days) and I told my husband that if I didn't love him so much I would already be gone. He acted like this was "shocking news" and the first he'd heard of such things. I think he's finally realizing I am *serious* when I say that I'm tired of having five people in our home and marriage instead of two. I also told him if that he's not gone by Spring, I'm gone. It's a real-life, "You, Me, and Dupree" and I'm sick of it!

I started working at a large company about 2 years ago and I was assigned to work with Chad, this guy who was supposed to train me. Before I go any further, I want to clearly state that he's married, and I just got married. This isn't a "I want to have an affair" post....but rather "why does he behave this way when he knows I'm married" post. First let me just say that I have many friends, men and women, and I am very easy to get along with. Chad was supposed to train me. He cancelled because of a project then came to my office, sat there and stared at my ring, and tried to talk me into training on "unscheduled time" without management approval. I declined because it wasn't business time. He's called me randomly to say nothing of importance. Then when I see him in the hall and say hi, he completely snubs me and won't even look at me. (not that I care, but I don't understand why a man would call a married woman to talk and then pretend you've never seen her before). I talk about my husband to him 24/7 (probably drive him crazy)and he asks me about my husband wondering if he's busy because he needs an insurance quote. I gave him my husband's cell number and he never took the quote. Our dept went to a Christmas party and he sat there the entire night and stared at me. I felt uncomfortable and turned and sat facing the other way and soon left. And then at work again, he snubs me completely in the hall. One minute the guy acts like he wants to talk, the next he acts like I'm his worst enemy. Everyone says he's nice but I've decided he's not and ignore him all the time now. I have several "guy friends" at work and we talk about our families and joke around and so forth. Why is it so difficult to say hi to me in the hall...but he will call, e-mail, and IM all the time? Men are weird!!