shy2cool

Is playful teasing of a work colleague considered flirting?

They are so different it would not work. It's not like I have many friends anyway.

I've just started university again, and I don't know how to make friends.

I have always wondered how people have groups of friends to go out with, when I can't seem to have that. Individual friends, fine but groups never.

What about a guy who is somewhat close to a couple of people, but very willing to make new friends? He is very shy, but not socially awkward. He wishes to enjoy life and go out on weekends being social with people. His current friends mostly do not want to get to know him, more like just class him as a friend because they feel that having more people around them makes them feel popular.

This guy would like to form close bonds with people but doesn't know how to.

OK, very good answers. What about if he has a few good friends, no close ones but the reason is because he is very shy and finds it hard to make new friends but is very social and very willing to make new friends?

Ladies; If you had started to date a guy, and things were going well, but then you find out that he does not have many friends at all; Would you be less attracted to him?

MySpace = popularity contest.

I'm only down on the internet because that's how I feel inside. In the real world, I can feel happy around others. I'm still a bit too shy to smile at all girls though.

Am I geeky? I wear glasses and am studying a Masters degree in Accounting...

Yeah, but it was a group meetup, and one or two of the people were completely dominant in the conversation.

BTW - no one wants to critique my post?

Um.. ok

Intelligence - I like to read up on things that interest me, and try to keep up to date with world issues/sport. I don't watch much TV, so can't discuss that.

Humour - Kinda sarcastic, very easy going, so don't get offended easily

Career - I'm going back to do a postgrad degree at uni to further my career prospects

Hobbies / Interests - Hmm... need to work on this... I like playing old video games, and have a keen interest in cars.

Nice / Kind - I am mostly, but will speak up when I feel that I need to.

Compatibility - N/A, depends on the individual

Am I a decent enough person??

I'm asking because I went to an internet meetup yesterday and all the talked about was TV shows, and I had no idea, and couldn't say anything.

Intelligent? Well cultured?

Hmm... this is workplace related, so maybe you can help... I'm seen as the quiet guy who never says anything. How can I get a girl to notice me? I've seen her looking at me once while i was in the other room, but I dunno whether she fancies me or whether she just thinks im weird. :S

err what about faking it, but then appearing nervous? LOL

erm that's the problem... all the decent (average - good looking) educated girls get taken right away.

Yeah, don't think that way about yourself!! I'm sure you're not ugly and I'll bet you're a real sweetheart too. Personally, I like to be approached by guys, but not in a creepy, sleazy kind of way. Give it a try the next time you see a girl who catches your fancy, but be a gentleman about it. And don't be offended if she says no. It's probably nothing personal. I've said no to a couple of perfectly decent, respectable, very sweet guys, and it was only because of my personal life at the time, nothing at all to do with them. If it had been six months earlier or six months later I might've said yes. So don't take it personally if a woman says no. She may respect you for having the courage to approach her, I know I wouldn't be able to approach a guy!

What about nervous guys?

I sent a kiss on Lavalife to someone, and no reply so far. I don't mention anything about being shy or whatever in my profile.

I used the same pic that I have on here as my profile.

I'm tooooooooooooooooooooooo angry! Thought i'd share it with you and maybe you can tell me what the hell is wrong with men nowadays.

 

Been talking to this guy that i met on a dating date. Then we started talking on MSN on and off. All his been trying to do is sleep with me.

 

Today he asked me if i wanted to sleep with him and if his body temps me? I have neer met him before. I said no thank you i am ready to man a nice because i've had enough of sleeping around then he had a cheek to say i wasn't hot enough for him away. What is that all about?

 

He said good bye then i blocked him.

It's unfortunate that there are a lot of guys out there that just want sex. Conversely, there are a lot of other very decent men out there, like most of the guys on this forum.

The problem is, the guys like the one you describe in your OP are very confident, so can always get girls.

You can't change what you want! You've set your standards high, so do not settle for second best! There really isn't anything wrong with that.

I'm too ugly and don't have the confidence anyway. What the heck was I thinking...

I have a crush on a girl at work. She only works 2 days a week. I got to sit next to her today, yay. Didn't talk to her though!

I wish I could have the same as you. Most of my friends treat me like I'm just there to make up numbers.

I just want people to confide into, and hang out with at anytime.

Girls, do you like it when a guy approaches you? not in a creepy way, but in a shy and friendly manner...

Never, too ugly.

How????? Eye contact? Smiling?

No no I dont like him. I dont even know him that well. Its just because it has happened a few times I was getting upset cuz I dont know what i'm doing wrong. I think i'll just forget about it & not write to him.

Good idea! Y'know, maybe it is that THEY have the issues and not you.