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Yea, i want to just be completely straight up and honest, but im really scared to do it. I really just dont wanna seem like im being too harsh or mean. Im also gonna feel really bad after i do it. I dont think i've never been so scared to break up with someone before, and i think its because we were such good friends for so long. I think thats also why i dont want to be with her... Im really affraid of losing her as a friend. Thanks for your help everyone. I really appreciate it!

Hey everyone. My story is this. I've been talking to this girl on the phone, that i met online for about a year before we met (Her choice, not mine) and over that period of time i developed some feelings for her before i even met her, and i even told her that. Well we finally met about a month and a half ago, and at first, my feelings were still there, and were pretty strong. We got along pretty well, and the second time we saw each other, we kissed. Since then we've been "dating" but not exactly in a relationship yet. However, after the month and a half, i've found that my feelings have changed, or rather, faded away a lot. The reason is because i've noticed that she's not very trusting, she seems jealous over me having female friends (eventhough her best friend is a guy, yet i have no problem with that), she's a bit of a depressed girl, sometimes negative, and really, i just find that she's not the one for me. My problem is, since we've known each other for as long as we have, and up until this point, my feelings were pretty strong for her, i really have no idea how i'm supposed to tell her i dont feel the same way about her anymore without losing her as a friend, and hurting her REALLY badly. Also, she's going on a vacation (a cruise) this monday, and im not sure if i should tell her before she goes, or after she gets back. Can any of you please give me some advice on how to end things, and if i should do it before or after her vacation? Thanks!

Well she actually does tell me she hates her job and what i told her more or less is something along the lines of "If it gets too much for you then maybe you should find something less stressfull" but i dont know, the first day me and her started to date, she told me "I feel like i can tell you anything" and she was referring to literally, anything. Because she has told me a lot of really personal things before we started dating, so now that she say's she feels like she can tell me anything, but wont is kinda bothering me. Not because i wanna try and fix the situation, but i want to at least listen, and she knows i like to listen, but since she wont tell me, im taking it personally because its making me think its something that i did. I guess the problem now is, if im gonna break it off with her, im gonna feel kinda bad doing it at a time that she's having problems with someone, and not in a good mood. I just dont wanna pile something else on top of it, but every time i think about it, i realize, when the heck isnt something pissing her off? I dunno, i really do like this girl for the most part but in a way, because of how she is, i dont think i see it working out for too long before she brings me down with her.. I guess i want a girl who isnt always depressed like her. If im gonna break it off however, should i tell her the truth why? I mean, should i tell her its because i think she's too negative for me? I just dont wanna come off like a jerk.

Hey I've been dating this girl for about a week or two now, and for the most part, i like her. The problem however is, she's a very negative person, and also boarderline depressed from what i can tell. She's very untrusting, and almost on a daily basis, someone does something piss's her off (or something like that, i dont know because she wont tell me), she gets all quiet on the phone, and when i ask her whats wrong she say's "I dont want to talk about it", then she'll pop onto msn later on, and she'll change her name to off everyone" or "2007 sucks so far"... I mean, we have a lot in comon for the most part, but i dont think i like this whole "negativity" thing she's got going on. What i want to know is, is it worth it to get involved with someone like this? I mean, is only bad stuff gonna come out of dating such a negative and boarderline depressed person? Any advice or opinions welcome, i just dont know if i should continue to see this girl, or break it off before it gets too far. Thanks

Well, tomorrow is my first date i've been on in a while, i've been single for about a year and a half by choice, and decided to get back into it. I'm probably rusty at dating, so can anyone offer me up some tips please?! Also, i hope if i decide to go for the kiss, that i pick the proper time, lol.

Ok, im asking this out of curiosity, and to help me with this online dating stuff since i havent really tried it before. For those of you who have been looking for relationships or dates online, i have 2 questions. #1. How long is too long to meet someone in person after you start emailing/IM/or talking on the phone? #2. Has the other person ever made you wait so long to meet in person, causing you to just give up? If so, how long did you last till you cracked?