Veronica V

There are very important factors to make the first time a positive experience for both. The most important would be the mental/emotional aspect (are you both ready/ comfortable/ communicating freely/ feeling safe/ wanting it etc.). Next, a good set-up. Location: (safe/ comfortable/ uninterrupted/ not rushed). Safety: Talk freely and bluntly about using protection before the first touch or kiss! (the myth is that subject will "break the mood" - Not true! Knowing you are both safe and responsible will leave you free of that worry and more powerful). Now, for some TECHNICAL ADVICE for 1ST TIME: Use a slow gentle finger to open her up first - not your big hard self! (wash hands/rinse well first. Soap residue/ hand lotions/ unwashed hands can sting). Make sure she is turned on first. Ask her. Rub her clitoris with your fingers. Don't try to put anything inside her till she is wet. Make sure there is plenty of moisture from her or added lube. Start with pointer finger. When she is comfortable with that - add your middle finger. Continue to stretch her while stimulating her clit. When she is ready (ask her) - enter slowly.