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There must be something wrong with me...
AnonymousMG replied to AnonymousMG's topic in Relationship Advice
Thanks for the suggestions, I actually talked with my girlfriend last night about this, she was upset about a similar matter, and we both ended up saying that we both have worries that we'll end up hurting each other, or that we'll end up hurt. We've both been through an almost identical situation, and both are currently in LC with our exs. We almost decided to go back to just being friends, but ended up deciding that we were happy together, and we would just take things one day at a time and see how things turn out. -AMG -
So I was dating a girl for almost 4 years and she broke up with me for various reasons. This was back in early november. I went through a very difficult time with the breakup, and ended up going NC after new-years. 1 month ago, a good friend of mine had her boyfriend of a year and a half break up with her. I was there for her through the whole thing, but after about a week, we ended up dating. I know it seems really soon for her, but she's been very happy and it isn't a rebound for her as far as anybody can see. My ex contacted me last week (breaking NC) because her boyfriend told her that he still had feelings for a girl from back home (we're all in college). He told her that he still wants to be with her but he likes this other girl too. I don't know the full details on the situation, but I was surprised in the break of NC. She told me that she needed somebody to talk to, etc. etc. I have only spoken to her a couple times, and nothing was strange about them or anything like that. What my problem now is, is that I keep thinking about her. I would never cheat on my current girlfriend, and I am very happy being with her. I don't even think that my ex has had any thoughts about getting back together with me, and I don't think I would get back together with her right now either. Is this normal? I feel like such a jerk, but things just keep reminding me of my ex now. (moreso things w/ my current relationship rather than different items, etc. ) for example going on dates to places that I used to go with my ex, etc. I just don't know what to do, if I should do anything, I guess I just was hoping somebody could tell me if this is normal and if I should be doing anything about this. Sorry if this is vague, I just have a lot going through my head right now... -AMG
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i found 6 girls names on his cell phone....
AnonymousMG replied to SeaBisquit's topic in Getting Back Together
Cell phonebooks don't mean anything, I have tons of people in mine that I know from tons of places and I've never been unfaithful. -
Thanks, it all happened so fast and we really dont know how it happened, one day I was helping her with her breakup and the next day we were flirting with each other it seemed but things have worked out pretty well.
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Well it's been a very long time, and for good reason. A good friend of mine recently went through a eerily similar situation and I was the first person she called. We have been friends for a year and a half, and as things went on... what it boils down to is that we're dating now and we're both very happy together. Just wanted to give an update to show people that yes, things do get better even when you least expect it. -AMG
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Thanks, I've been doing a little better since then. I'm back at school now and I met a couple new people so that's a positive thing. I'm not out looking for anything, but I'm not waiting for her to come around or anything anymore, it's been a while with NC and the only times that things get really bad is when I start thinking about her a lot, so the less I do that, the better off I am I guess... Just wanted to thank you and let you know that I'm not doing quite so bad anymore. I don't hate them. -AMG
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I feel like I'm going to throw up. I just saw pictures of her with this new guy online, I feel so terrible right now I can't even describe it, I want them to be miserable, I feel like a jerk saying it, but I truly mean it, I want them to both be in so much pain that they regret ever meeting each other... I hate them both.
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Hi, figured I would check in again. Overall, I've been doing pretty well or the past week, but today I kinda feel like crap again. I'm going back to school tomorrow and I guess its just making me think about it all again. Maybe someday things will work out between us again, I guess I just have to let fate control that and keep letting things go as they will. I know somehow, someday, this will all be over, but that unfortunately doesnt help much while im here in the middle of everything... I miss her a lot. Today I've just felt like I really wanted to have her here and just hold her. My brother had his girlfriend over today so that probably helped start those feelings... /sigh... oh well... one day at a time... -AMG
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Thanks, I know I probably shouldn't have even been reading that article, but I guess I'm still looking for more of a reason than "I don't love you anymore". Thanks for the advice, very helpful as usual, I'm trying to accept it more, but it is very difficult. Things just remind me of her a lot of the time still, almost all the time, but I'm used to that. It's when things that I forgot about come up that it really starts to get to me, or thinking about her with somebody else. I went out tonight to a play and the last time I went there was with her, and I heard somebody commenting on something specific that she had mentioned that last time we were there. I think it just got to me because I wasn't expecting something like that to remind me of her and it all came back to me so vividly. Thanks again for all the support, I'll be sure to keep writing here, it's a way to let everything out, and that seems to help more than anything. -AMG
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I'm not sure how many of you have read about the "stages of relationships" but I have been looking into that recently and I pretty much found out that the "power struggle stage" is what was happening, and it breaks up a lot of couples that otherwise would have been happy, I wish I could just show that to her and maybe she would see that its normal and that people get through it... I still want her back... Even after all the things I've been telling myself lately, I wish I could go back and have everything work out better... Am I still supposed to be feeling this way?? -AMG link removed
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Err not doing so well today, would have been another 'month anniversary' and though I feel really confident most of the time, sometimes I feel like I'm just lying to myself. I really wish I could still be with her I guess... It probably has to do with the dream I had last night, I dreamed that we were back together and that everything we did reminded us of the past. It just seemed so real, when I woke up I knew that it was just a dream, but I tried to go back to sleep so that I could feel that way again. It's been a while since I felt like that... -AMG
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Well I've been doing really well the past few days, I've felt really confident about myself which is rare, but I've noticed that I get some attention from the ladies. I never thought of myself as a good looking guy, and I don't wanna be one of those guys who is always acting like he is the best looking thing on the planet, and all cocky about it, but it was one of my biggest self esteem issues, and I kinda like it now. I'm feeling progressively better each day, and hopefully that keeps going. I'm still a little worried about the social aspect of things, I don't plan on looking for a relationship once I get back to school in a couple weeks, but I do plan on trying to be more social and meet new people. If anything turns into anything, I'm not going to try and stop it, just let things go as they will. I feel about ready to leave anything between the ex and me to fate and just let my life go on. I still think about her a lot, but I know that I can't control anything, and my burning need to be with her has faded more than I expected. I still care about her a lot, and if she wanted to be with me I would seriously consider it, but she was my first girlfriend and I don't know what else is even out there to put it bluntly. Who knows what'll happen in the future, but for now, I'm done making myself miserable over this. -AMG
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She dumped me, but isn't doing to well.
AnonymousMG replied to drum4god's topic in Getting Back Together
I had a similar thing happen to me. I only had NC for a week and a half, but after that time, I ran into her at the mall. The next day we went out (just as friends) to do some shopping, and on the way home she started crying in the car. She tried not to let me see, so I pretended that I didnt, but once we got to her driveway she lost it in front of me. I thought this was a sign that somehow things were going to get better, but over the course of the next two weeks, all I did was give myself false hope. I ended up crying in her arms and later found out from a friend that she got aggravated by it that I was still bringing it up. I'm sorry that it isn't 'good news' as far as a reconciliation, but I think that she'll be ok if that's all you're worried about. Good luck with everything. -AMG -
Ugh, I probably should have done this a week ago but I just deleted her screename from my buddy list. I didn't think it would effect me, but I keep checking it and seeing " and "shalalala don't be afraid just kiss the girl" as her away messages and it's really starting to hit me hard. I am doing better with not being with her, but its still really painful to think about her being with somebody else... time time time time....thats all that's going to fix this... I wish it was easier...
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I feel myself slipping back into the 'why doesn't she miss me' way of thinking and I want to stop myself. I was doing great on the way home from work thinking about how I don't need anybody else to make me happy and I am gonna be fine on my own. Bleh I've been writing this post over about a 20 minute span while I do other things too and I am feeling progressively worse about everything... ugh... -AMG