theclockman

OK, so basiclly, theres a girl i really like, we work for the same business, but different departments, im pretty sure that shes not interested in me, as i come accross as quite shy, quiet, reason for that is when i joined, everyone there was already friends, so i was kinda an outsider, anyways, i was reading on the net and so on, and i read that girls are attracted to 'alpha males' (obviously not all girls, and not JUST alpha males) problem is, even when im at my most comfortable, like around my friends and so on, im anything but an alpha male, im a fun, polite, easy going guy (so my friends tell me, and i kinda see it myself) and i stay clear of any kind of conflict, i mean, i will get in an argument with my friends if for some reason it got to that point, but if some people started trouble, fighting them would be the last thing on my mind. And iv had almost no experiance with girls. iv had plenty of girl 'friends' but nothing more, and they all like me and say im a nice guy and so on, and i feel comfortable around them, but i can never seem to bring myself to ask a girl out, i dont know why, i think its probably down to being scared that im gonna get turned down, just dont have the stones to ask them, once i become a bit more confident with myself (iv got a hobbie which is kinda giving me a bit of confidence, and soon i think it will give me more confidence to finally ask someone out) So i was wondering, what would you define as an alpha male? and do girls find people that arnt (like me) just as attractive as an alpha male? Im really starting to get paranoid that i have not had/got a girlfriend because im not 'man' enough. Sorry if i went overboard with the post lol

I have this problem, RIGHT NOW!! theres a girl at work that i really like, but can only seem to manage to talk to her when shes on her own! which is a pain as shes with a friend 9 times of 10 that i see her, when iv caught her on her own iv spoke to her fine, but i cant do it when she has a friend there, one of her better friends i work with and i have a laugh with, so i wouldnt be as bad talking to her if that friend was there, except where she works in a different department, she has friends there, the likes of which i barley even know there names! but the only advice i can give, (if any) which is what i do, is to try and catch her on her own, or maybe talk to one of her friends before you talk to her, just so THAT ice has been broken, and then maybe you wont feel as bad. But i hear you mate, im in the same annoying boat!

what about gorgous, precious or dearest (dearest is a bit darey i think, but you never know)

thats good, nice and subtle, i think ill try that one! thx

OK, thx for the replies guys, really helped me, im not sure if im confident enough to just plain ask her out, so, im going to start talking to her more (however much i get scared lol) but also, flirt, but subtly, not full on or anything, let her see that im a fun guy and so on, then once iv got more confidence, i will ask her out.

Hi, Theres a girl at work, that iv had a crush on, for ages!! iv barely ever spoken to her about anything non work related, actuelly, i dont think iv ever spoke to her about something non work related, but last week, i was waiting for the manager in the office, and she was in there too, so i thought what they hey? started to talk to her, just small talk about something i knew she did outside of work, and she was talking to me completley fine (dont know what iv been worried about ) when she was talking to me, (i kept eye contact by the way) she was smiling the whole time, iv seen her talk to her friends, and she doesnt uselly smile, i mean, she does, but only when appropriate if you know what i mean, but she was smiling the whole time we were talking. i got the feeling that she didnt mind talking to me, and i would even go as far as to say, she may have enjoyed to talking to me, she stopped what she was doing to talk to me. Do you think that there is anyway she may have been trying to subtley flirt? or just smiling trying not to laugh at me because of how iv never really spoke to her?

thx lily, made me feel a bit better about the way im playing it. if anyone else has any opinioines i would be very greatfull.

Hey, ok so theres a girl that i work with, well kind off work with, i dont work with her, but i see her, shes attractive, but IM not all that. So heres the thing, i overhead her friend saying to her "remember when [guy1] had a thing for you?" and she replied with a simple "yeah" but in like a distgusted way lol (but not nasty), ok so the other thing is, this attractive girl knows that all the guys (very few guys there) like her, but, iv been not showing interest in her, like i would say hi or whatever, but not letting her see that i like her.....do you think that this could maybe catch her attention? im a playing it cool? or just making her think im gay? thats IF shes even noticed me in anyway. Thanks, im a bit drunk so if that doest make sense, im sorry lol

what do you mean "self absorbed" ?

LOL i used to get the same thing, but im a stoner. I used to find it really hard to separate what was a dream, and what had actuelly happened. I think (if your not a stoner) that your dreams are really real/graphic and your brain finds it hard to remember if it happened or if your dreaming.........if you follow what i mean

ok, she hasnt been in work this week cos shes still got a cold. but i found out shes 16, and im 19, i know its only 3 yrs, but it still feels weird that i like a 16 yr old, im confused.

once again thx for the replies, has really helpd me, my plan is this, i will see her 2morow (providing shes in, the other day she took the day off cos she had a cold) wen it dies down and not very busy in the store, IF i can catch her on her own, i will pluck up the courage and ask her what shes doing over christmas, if she says "oh nothing really" then im hoping i will say "same here, fancy going out sometime and catching a movie?" or sumthin to that effect. sound like a gd plan? or a bit cheesy? ill let you know how it goes anyway.

thx for the replies, ok i wont ask her how it went, but im not confident enough to just ask her straight up, i kind of need to be set up in a conversation if that makes any sense.

Hey, im new here ok so theres a girl that i work with, i think im interested in her, and since iv THOUGHT about asking her out, i havnt been dropping bricks, like i would normally, but theres a problem. i was talking to her the other day, and she said she has got a date with a guy coming up (shes already had the date now, but iv yet to see her since it). the thing is i only started working with her about a week b4 she told me she had a date, so its not like i left it too long cos i barely new her. is it too late to think about asking her out? wen i see her i will ask her how it went, as nasty as this sounds, im hoping that it went bad, if it did, then i was thinkin of asking her out by saying sumthin along the lines of "oh well.....maybe you should go on a date with me" but is it too late to let her no that i might be interested in her even tho shes only been on 1 date? PLZ PLZ PLZ reply Thanks Bill