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  1. So my problem seems like it may be simple to handle but theres so much involved. To begin I'm 22 years old, I have a 4 year old daughter, I've been dating Jayson for 9mths and living with him for 7 of those months he to has a child a son who is 7yrs old. Our relationship has been through enormous peril even since the start. Upon our second week of dating i was hospitalized with heart failure for almost a month he was there through it all and moved in with me (per my parents request) after i was discharged to help take care of myself and my daughter. Approximately 4-5 mths into our relationship i learned he had fathered a child at the age of 15 and the child had been put up for adoption (he's now 29) which was understandable to me given the circumstances never the less i would have preffered tohave been told by him rather than the mother of the child. He is an awesome father to his son I often envy the fact that my daughter does not have a father like him.When this issue came up he mentioned to me that another girl just weeks later had informed him she was pregnant with his child but that when he went to the mds with her the time frame for conception did not match the time they were together we did not speak about the situation again until..... she called me the other day and told me she knew for a fact it was his and when asked about it he admitted it was very possible but not certain.So here are my many concerns with this situation A. how can he be such an awesome father to his son and my daughter as well but practically deny this child before birth? B. when hospitalized i was told to never try and have more children but was never really given a diagnosis so i had not ruled out the possibility of having more children but i know i do not want to raise my child as well as help with his 2 and add another C.when she called she asked him if he would sign his rights over he seemed to seriously consider selfish as it may sound it would make our lives easier financial and emotionally but i know i would never look at him the same D. does it make me a bad mother to my child if i stay? i am more financially successful than him now due to him paying hundreds of dollars for his son in child support it will only increase with another (as it should) so we will struggle financially the rest of our lives due to his decisions?? E. We have bought land and are in the process of building a house and when i asked my friend for advice she just advised me to hurry and make a decision due to the fact that he just spent thousands on an engagement ring and is asking me on christmas in front of my entire family F my parents love him but i'm sure that after i notify my dad of this situation i know this will change not to mention he;s in the process of signingover one of the family business's to jayson OMG!!!! what a mess it seems alot worse now that i had to write it all down please help any advice is sooo appreciated Thanks again
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