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Oh nice. Lucky guy.

(To Bloomer: As far as I know, it feels soft (yes, like a little lump) and spongelike.) Cardinal explained it perfectly. There's nothing to add. But please be aware that for some men the mere thought of any kind of anal penetration is completely unpleasant (not to say scaring). I think, it has to do with a kind of homophobia or painful/embarrassing memories of prostate exams. Before you try it, you should carefully make sure that your boyfriend at least COULD like it (unless you already know). Perhaps by unobtrusively stroking his butt, while you kiss his neck, slowly getting closer to the "crack", and so on. Even with lube any penetration is painful as long as the sphincter is not relaxed (of course for both men and women). First you have to make him get used to it, by softly stimulating it with little circular motions with one (lubed) fingertip or even better: with the lower joint of your thumb when you make a fist. That's a perfect little knob to make the feeling more diffuse. Take time, before you (slowly!) insert anything. Again it helps, to kiss his neck simultaniously (Makes it feel less "clinical".) Another aspect: When the whole g-spot thing became en vogue twenty years ago (in fact, it was already discovered in 1950) every woman felt the pressure to have "million dollar orgasms". Those who didn't manage, felt insufficient, like some women (sadly) still do for not having orgasms only by penetration. And every man felt the same pressure to FIND the g-spot. We all know sex is better without pressure. As Cardinal rightly said, not all men are able to achieve prostate orgasms (I guess only few, and some don't even want it to be touched.) For me the "pressure on the perineum" thing still works best to improve the feeling of any penis stimulation (by far). (As you might have realized, English is not my native language, but nevertheless I know what I'm talking about).

Hello newbie30, (male and uncircumsized too): I agree, the most sensitive part (in a good way) is the little triangle on the underside of the glans/head. Absolutely unpleasant for me is any intense or direct contact to the edge of the head on the upper side. But sensitive sucking with the foreskin pulled back feels really good. From time to time it's also nice to feel the penis completely taken in the mouth and surrounded by warm lips. For most guys it doubles the pleasure if the woman simultaniously applies soft pressure to the area right between scrotum and anus. That's where the prostate is located, the male equivalent to the female g-spot. But you should ask your boyfriend where exactly it feels best. It's only a small area. Another tip (nothing to do with blowjobs and perhaps you know this already, but I try anyway): I'm usually not into handjobs and slippery or messy things (not at all), but once a girlfriend gave me one that surprisingly made me really go "WOOWWW". Her trick was not a special technique but merely to use really lots (!) of lube while she kept my foreskin pulled back with her other hand all the time. It was one of the best (sexual) feelings I ever experienced. Unfortunately it was low quality lube and it soon got sticky and started to hurt. So it's probably better to use some kind of good oil, but it's worth a try.

Hi IrishGal26, I just bumped into this thread and realized I'm a little late. Hope, you still get to read this. During the past years I read a lot of books about female sexuality and found out that many women are worried about not being able to achieve an orgasm by penetration. (In fact statistically only 30 percent of all women can, and most of them claim, an orgasm by penetration may be emotionally more satisfying, but not physically. So I think, you're not going to miss too much). In my own experience only few of my girlfriends were able to climax solely from vaginal stimulation/penetration. As far as I have realized, most of them had the best orgasms by oral, combined with carefully (!) massaging their g-spot. (Most women need their clitoris, labial/vaginal stimulation only deepens the feeling.) To speak for myself (though I'm not a woman), I can really enjoy sex without having an orgasm. Actually I already had very satifying experiences without one and lousy ones with. For me the mere fact of being inside a woman's vagina is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world (it makes me feel very close to her) and my own orgasm is only something like a "candy topping". There are a lot of good books, one of them is the "Hite Report on Female Sexuality". It's a little bit old, but not old fashioned. It describes all aspects of female sexuality and I think it's the best way for any woman to find out she's completely normal. If you don't mind to tell, can you have an orgasm by masturbation?