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  1. Yay!! What a great story! It's always darkest before the dawn. Enjoy all the wonderful things that are happening and treat that girl well!
  2. It sounds like the only way to resolve this, unfortunately, is to break a heart. If you're genuinely not in love with the man you're living with, you need to get out now. Delaying the inevitable will not make it easier. It's one thing for you to be depressed about your ex, but it is entirely cruel to be dragging along another guy you're not interested in. You need to be firm, tell him it's over, and get out. He will survive, he will be happy again, it will just take time. I wouldn't mention your ex to him. That will just make things worse. Then it sounds like you need some time to heal yourself. Don't go jumping into a new relationship before you're ready. Stay strong and best of luck!
  3. Sounds like a tough situation to be in. My best advice is this: give him one more chance (IF you really want to make it work). If he doesn't change things up, then you both need to consider breaking up...Not a good time at all, but you don't want to waste your time & set yourself up for disappointment. Keep an open line of communication with him, and be completely honest with him. But whatever you two decide, don't hang onto a relationship if you're only afraid of being hurt.
  4. I'm interested in your opinions... So let's say you're in a relationship with someone you met through a personals service (yahoo, match, whatever). At what point do you delete your profile? At what point do you quit updating your profile?
  5. Drop him. You're setting yourself up to get hurt. Obviously he's not interested. I don't know how old you are, but this reads like a junior high saga. Do yourself a favor and avoid him...
  6. If you're interested in making it more than friends, I'd say your best bet is to do it. However, know that if your friend isn't interested, you may lose the friendship. If you want to keep the friendship, perhaps go in slowly. Feel out the situation & figure out if there's a chance they are interested in you. If so, full speed ahead. I don't know the whole situation, but you could start by doing something--just the two of you--date-ish...nice dinner, a trip to a museum, something that says "more than friends." Hope that makes sense for you! Good luck!!!!
  7. To answer your question concerning this being a bum-proof plan, no one knows. That's what makes it especially scary to do something that's not the "normal" occupation choice. I'm going to go out on a limb, and others may disagree with me, but I say if you love doing music, do it. Perhaps there is some formal education you can go after, as well, that will aid you in honing your skills. Seek out a mentor that you can observe and find in them encouragement to keep moving forward. That's the best advice I got for you. And remember that not every doctor and lawyer are happy with their career choice...(this coming from a former dental student who quit school to become a writer)
  8. Don't feel shy about asking him out. Maybe ask him to meet for coffee or something laid back like that after work. To put both of you at ease, don't emphasize the "date" part of it--just two coworkers getting together to unwind after work. If you can't push yourself to do that, keep talking with him and try to loosen him up. If he is shy, it might be hard to tell if he's into you or not, but try anyway. Find things you two have in common. And don't for a second feel like because you're a girl that you can't make the first move! Be bold and daring and confident, and ask that guy out! Hope this helped!
  9. Bring 'em on It shouldn't matter...unless the girl you're setting up has a huge crush on you, then she mght feel awkward. But otherwise, if you're a friend and have their interests' in mind, do it!
  10. Sorry to hear your story, but you and her both need to discuss this situation. If she really doesn't love you, then that's not fair to you. Just a suggestion, but think of some questions/concerns you have and meet with her to find out why she doesn't know if she loves you...You need to get to the bottom of this problem because you don't want to quit something that might be good. On the other hand, you don't deserve to be in a relationship where there's issues of doubt. Stay strong and best of luck!!
  11. Congratulations on the strides you're making and keep moving forward! Therapy can be completely rewarding and cathartic, so I encourage you to keep going and keep these pesky discouraging thoughts out of your heart. Stay strong, know you're a fighter and look to brighter days!
  12. Sounds like a tough situation. You mentioned bipolar disorder, but you didn't mention if she's being treated by a physician. It sounds like she has some issues she needs to deal. In short, you are doing the right thing by walking away and trying to heal yourself. It sounds like if you stay with her, you're just setting yourself up for heartache. Take time for yourself and find something to get your mind moving and off of the heavy feelings you have right now. Good luck with all this!
  13. Depending on what it means when you say you're "involved" with someone else, you might have done something wrong if he knows about it. Regardless, don't sweat him not calling you. Why don't you call him? Again, though, you might want to do something with the other guy you're involved with to clear up any misunderstandings.
  14. From reading other posts, I have a similar problem as many other people on here. Been dating a guy for 2 months. I was fairly sure that I liked him, and he made it no secret that he was into me. Then, a slight speedbump. While he's more on the shy side and we've never been big on phone calls, I haven't talked to him in over 2 weeks, with the exception of a stress-ridden email explaining different problems in his life that has kept him from calling after I had contacted him asking what's the deal. So...what's a girl to do? I don't want to compromise myself by waiting for this (flake?) to be calling. But he seems like someone that would be worth the wait... Or I'm totally dillusional.
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