Hi everyone,
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After a little bit of wait (see this thread for the beginning of the story - BTW, forgot old password, back with new user name), I'm back with an update on the situation.
First of all, I decided not to call again because I got busy and decided to forget about her. I did - and moved on - then, ironically as if girls can sense these things, just as I completed a big success with my work, she calls ! A nice self-esteem boost since I hadn't dated for a while. So yes, to all those fretting about people not calling back after a date, my advice is to move on and hey, maybe she will call about 2 and a half weeks later and apologize for the wait as was in my case.
Anyways, we had a second get-together/date and it was alright - I wanted to go hiking at a nearby hill and she did too, but it got dark so we decided not to go. The vibes weren't as aligned as the first time and but it was still nice and I enjoyed myself.
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So here's my situation. I like this girl but I found that the date today was a bit too structured. It feels like that because of the whole being "set-up" by a mutual friend. How do I break that feeling?
Also, I have a small fear of getting more serious with her. I went out with a girl once before who was friends with the same mutual friend (not really a setup but a chance encounter) and that relationship was really good and lasted 2 years (4 years ago broken up). Problem is, I have to see that person several times a year because we are tied through the mutual friend - which doesn't bother/hurt me anymore but is still a bit awkward. I don't really want the same situation with this new girl if it gets serious and then ends in a breakup again.
So, yeah, if I was seeing this girl and wasn't set up, I'd be very happy - but since it is a "set-up" it feels a bit forced, artificial and there is this lingering fear.
Are these normal/valid concerns? Anyone have any suggestions to make it feel more "real" for me? Any help would be greatly appreciated!