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Yates33

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  1. I am not sure. I just feel like there is something missing as weird as it sounds.
  2. Wow, I bumped this thread because I was curious. This was my first post on this forum...alot has changed and I have realized how ridicoulous that event in my life was! It was bizarre! I have a girlfriend now...a live one I bumped this thread, however, because a few days ago I was looking at my old e-mails searching for an old resume and I saw her old e-mails which where still there and it really got me curious....who really was this girl? She had such a bizarre and weird hold over my life, thoughs and emotions when I never met her....who was she, and was she real? I feel like e-mailing her since I dont have her number anymore...not to reconnect or anything, but to find out some unanswered questions....what do you guys think?
  3. I think this is EXACTLY THE PROBLEM. It's not that your afraid to fall in love, its that unfortunately we are wired to respond to things that are a bit harder to catch. You now know you HAVE this man and he LIKES YOU, so there is no challenge any longer...no excitement...you are losing attraction. Knowing someone is a great guy/girl and being attracted to him are two different things. He needs to be a better challenge.
  4. I agree that texting is not the way to connect with the person, but that's not the point of texting. If you make everything in a relationship (serious or not) deep and personal, it gets boring quick. When you want to get something light and flirty accross, texting is very useful. I agree with you in that its definetely not the way to go to connect to a person, but right now its a very light stage which should all be about light fun....hopefully setting up for something more serious later on, if that happens.
  5. I am going to continue on my mild phone calling, as she herself has told me "I am surprised you called" and never wants to let me get off the phone. What I will do, is text her tomorrow asking her to come down to the city I live i this weekend, she lives over an hour away, but she knows my city very well as she visits it alot, and I dont know her city at all...hence why I am asking her to come down. Now I know most of you disagree with texting...but I disagree with you disagreeing. It is a very quick way to get a message accross without intruding. Its convenient and girls love texting back and forth. Plus you'll never be stuck without something to say and you respond at your leisure with no pressure.
  6. Completely agree bro. COMPLETELY. Thats the problem with people and me sometimes...getting too attached too quickly.
  7. Thanks for the response. I completely agree, hence I really try to limit the time on the phone with her. The problem is, she lives over an hour away, so i am trying to set something up....so do you guys suggest work on setting something up while keeping phone contact minimal?
  8. Just curious...when you meet a person online and get them on the phone and they live a good distance away (about an hour) do you contact them everyday over the phone until you meet up for the first time? I am talking to someone and it I always end the conversation first and never go past half an hour, its only been a few days....in 4 days I;'ve called 3 our of the 4 and even though she seems distracted when I call, she doesnt want to let me go when I tell her "well, I gotta run now" even though I do leave anyway. Twice a day will bwe too much no? Is once a day okay or should I keep it once a day here, dont call one day call the next, etc until we meet?
  9. I am sorry, but for a month you guys should have exchanged less messages and be on the phone much sooner. Most of your conversations should have been over the phone, have you talked to him over the phone? And him sending you ONE PICTURE is lame.
  10. I met this girl online. We talked on and off for about two months, nothing serious. We finally met up about a week ago and had a wonderful time. I knew she liked me right away because of the way she touched me, flirted and smiled the whole time. Over that week I talked to her a couple of times on the phoine and we set up a date for this past Sunday, I woke up really late and never called...but neither did she. She texes me later that night saying I "played" her, although she was joking I believe...so I call her up and she doenst pick up and instead texes me saying "call you back in a min" but never called. Today she finally called and I try to set up a meeting for Friday, but she kept playing it off like "what would we do?" and then she would proceed to change the subject and jokea bout stuff. She was acting really silly and goofy, like entertaining herself, I tried to bring up the friday subject up again, and she would stay on it for a few seconds then it would drift to more of her goofiness. I finally told her I had to go (I wasnt putting up with games) and she was like "why I amk boring you?" she didnt say this in acold way....so we hung up. whats up with this girl?
  11. There is your answer. Women will always say they want a nice guy, a guy who says things just like that. I've learned that women are illogical and rely on emotion, you telling her you liked her took all the fun away. Take it from someone who has learned the hard way and has had sucess alternatively. Trust me when I tell you....that was the deal breaker right there. Forget about it, move on and dont ever tell a girl that, they already KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE DATING THEM.
  12. Yates33

    dating rules

    Excellent post Batya! Completely agree...even though I myself don't follow these rules, I have always been aware of them and believe in them. To the OP, dating different people means different protocols...so it all depends on the situation. But the post by Batya is one that you should definetely follow to some extent IMO.
  13. Thanks, very good, comforting and sound advice! Hopefully I can get over it...Ill be 23 soon and shell still be 17 for a while though!
  14. Thanks, I appreciate the comments. I am a bit scared on the legal side and honestly, what people might think, I dont see it as a big deal as a 17 year old is not a child...its a young woman regardless of what anyone says and I am still not a full grown man...I dont believe a 22-23 year old guy is a full grown man....
  15. I am a 22 year old male living at home with my mother and sister. I recently finished college and working full time, but not making enough money yet to go out on my own...so I decided to stay home and save money, while helpin out. The problem is my mother is depressed and she ALOT OF TIMES (AT LEAST 5 TIMES A WEEK) goes on a rampage, throwing stuff and yelling and saying she wants to kill herself. I hate this, because when I get into arguments with her she throws stuff in my face (not physically) and just brings me down. I feel disorganized and not at peace living her. My mother has done alot for me, so dont get it wrong. She does everything, she cooks, cleans, I know she loves me to death and everything she does is for my siter and I but I really believe she is mentally unhealthy. She goes on crazy rampages. Recently she began selling everything we have, our couches, our furniture because shes "sick and tired and wants to remodel the apartment" and now that its being remodeled she is mad because of the mess, what the I told her its stupid shes giving everything away and she flipped on me. Telling me that I changed and that I will be the cause of her death. Dont get me wrong...I should behave better as I do catch attitude with my mother, but I get it from her and I told her this, the negative effect shes had on me with her depression and she blew up once again and said this is her house and that she paid for evcerything in here.... I dont know wnat to do...but living here is honestly making me mentally unhealthy...like I have no control in life and dont know where I am going, I sometimes go on rampages when she screams and punch stuff...I cant take this...I feel like I am going crazy.. other times is all peace here, its just so weird....
  16. I agree...to an extent. You can go through alot in life and be more mature than your average 17 year old, but you'll still have that "girl" in you. Back to the topic though...can anyone link me to information regarding New York State/New York City laws when dating a 17 year old at my age? Does anyone find this ethically wrong? Is something wrong with me for liking this girl? I am so Paranoid.
  17. I recently began talking to a girl...and she is a blast to talk to, we have those conversations where there is never an awkward moment and we are always laughing....I know she likes me and I like her to...the problem? She is 17 and I am 22! This is keeping me from pursuing anything further than a casual friendship. Most of my girl-friends say its fine, but thats probably because they really believe a 17 year old girl is as mature as 22 year old girl. The legal issue isnt a problem, because it is legal in NY and I don't see it as "wrong"...its just the difference at this stage (late teens/early 20's) is a big difference. what do you guys think about an issue like this?
  18. I feel like everytime I meet a girl, everything goes well for a couple of weeks, then it goes flat and dies out...why? I feel like Ill never find a steady girlfriend! does everyone go through this? Ill meet one girl and 2 weeks later, its over. this sucks.
  19. she wrote me a message on myspace telling me she just felt like things were going too fast and she needed time to think about what she really wants. Which is reasonable. I told her that she should have just told me and that, its fine, that we can remain friends or take things slow, but that its cool. does this sound normal? anyway, I am leaving her alone do you guys think she will come back around?
  20. Nothing happed with the family that night, they were actually pretty nice but I felt they were being fake. I just dont understand how that night she was kissing me, hugging me, wouldnt let me go, sleeping on my shoulder and then after she drives home, she is a completely different person. Her family probably said something. This girl is 18 if it helps. Am I pushing this too much? I called her today, like I planned and she didnt pick up. I caller 7 hours later ( a few mins ago) and she didnt pick up, so I texted her saying to tell me whats up so I can stop wasting my time, was this good? Should I just waite it out now? On her myspace she use to have a nickname I called her as her display name and she has now changed it to something else.....I just dont get what happened. Did she start thinking that she doenst want me after she went home? Is this possible? Any more insight/thought as to what can be going on is appreciated!
  21. I dont get this chick...I caleld her today like I said and she didnt pick and hasnt returned my call since. THen I go on AIM, switch off to another SN and see her on, when I go back wo the SN she knows is mine, she snot there...which means she blocked me~! Maybe its something else? what the * * * * could have gone wrong? the only thing I can think of ist hat her family didnt approve of me, becasue that night she was fine and all over me, then that same night, on the phone, she sounded call and hasnt beena round ever since. it had to be her * * * *ing famil. I got a very snobbish vibe off them.
  22. I just spoke to her on AIM. She instant messaged me and told me she was sorry she didnt call. She said her phone was low on battery and she just wanst in the modd to talk to anyne. I Played it cool and told her I will call her tomorrow. She said she doesnt feel like talking. And I sai, if you dont want to talk to me, its cool, just let me know, I value honesty. She said it had nothing to dow ith me and that she would tell me. We left it off that I will call her tomorrow during my lunch break. But most of the IM wit her was wit her saying "ok" to everything.... maybe she is PMS? what do you guys make of this....should I believe her when she said everything is fine?
  23. yeah, but how does that explain here being all over me on friday night and then not hearing from her the whole saturday and today even if she has family over and it was a busy weekend for her couldnt she pick up her phone and call me real quick?
  24. its not like she was mean over the phone today. Some might say she wasnt even cold. Its that she was too easy to let me go and she didnt sound as excited to hear from me.
  25. plus, if I tell her about this...she might think I am too attached or thinking too much, she might get freaked out
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