fr0st
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Yeah as of the past few weeks I have to either be a) Exhausted b) Somewhat Drunk to get a good nights sleep.
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Update I pretty much started a formal NC on sunday or sat I can remember. I blocked her aim deleted her number removed pictures etc. Monday niight she calls me 2 times and text me to find out if im going on a boarding trip with some mutual friends that she is also going on. I told her yes and pretty much then said I had to go. Other than that contact, nothing I hope I can keep it up, I miss her a lot.
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My father is a junkie, my step father was verbally abusive, I just had a all arround rough childhood. Do I hate life? Well at certain points I most certainly did, none more so than 3 weeks ago when my long term GF left me and moved out. That hurt more than anything, but I also realized that I was holding my past a bit too tightly and letting it control my present. Some advice a good friend gave me. And that was just to do something it doesnt matter what you do just do it. This could be; Riding a Bike Going to the Gym Volunteering Helping a friend on something minor Learn a new skill + about a million other things you can do the world is full of things to do, that have the potential to make you happy and enjoy life. All you have to do is discover them. Another thing to remember is, without the bad, how can there ever be any good?
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Yeah to be honest I was never a good sleeper either. But all the what if's keep me up somenights.
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Getting over my broken heart.....
fr0st replied to Vynde's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
I really feel for you John, I really do. My Girlfriend of 2 and a half years left me 3 weeks ago now. I love her so much more than anything ever in my life. And I imagine you loved your wife the same if not more. It really hurts, I myself have lost 14lbs in the past 3 weeks, but im also going to the gym. But not eating is helping the loss, I cant even eat the same foods we used to eat. I have tried and I just get full really fast. I never expected a lost love to have such a profound impact on my life I really didn't. I thought I had other loves previously and was prepared. Nothing could have ever prepared me for this, loosing my companion. -
Mine was a more of we shared our lives. Have you found a way to sleep normaly? I try to work myself to death at the gym, and it hasnt helped with my sleep.
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Wow iceman that is really tough, my ex and I exchanged some IM's last night talked a bit about the election and what not. Then she brought up out of nowhere a snowboarding trip with some friends of ours, and asked if i wanted to go. I texted her a few times today to keep her updated on the election and that was it. She is a political science major so I was kinda doing a favor. I mentioned in my main thread ive really been working on myself. Ive read 4 books since we broke up, lost 14lbs, got new glasses, applied to 10 new jobs, hung out with friends, talked to a old friend who spoke to me as if we have never been apart(she's like my sister and i love her to death). I hope my ex sees these positive things in my life, and that i have let go of the demons of my past and am ready to move forward with the rest of my life.
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Heres my list of tips that are helping me. 1) Meditation every time I think of her, I try and think of why i thought of her and the nature of that that thought and so forth eventually I forget I thought of her. Its kind of a hard concept to grasp but it works. Ive been a partially practicing Buddhist for the better part of two years. In all honesty this breakup is helping my meditation practice. 2) I deleted her number from my phone soo when I call a friend I wont have to see her name. 3) Keeping busy writing music, going to the gym, watching TV. Everything helps, and i dont have many friends but I have been trying to make due with what I have.
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I suppose you read my post, my GF left me a bit shy of 3 years. I was going to ask her to marry me after we finished school. She told me at this point in her life she couldnt be with anyone its just too stressfull. And that she just needed some space. Im very alone now too and ive cried more than any other time in my life in the past 2 weeks. This whole thing has lead me to deal with some other painfull memories of my past that may have lead me to problems in this relationship, Ive finally comfronted my parents about some things, I really spoke to my mother about my feelings and what not, for the first time in my life. And since i did that i feel a * * * * load better. I really hope we can work things out.
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Yep ultra depressed tonight, in my heart and in my mind hope she calls me. But i wont be calling her.
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Oh and the artist is Imogen Heap
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A favorite musical artist of ours is performing next saturday. Should I bring it up if she calls me?
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Im going to agree with In love her if she stated she has feelings for someone else thats not a good sign at all. As it shows she was comfortable with her feelings enough to express them to you. I dont see any harm in writing a letter it may even make you feel better, but write it with confidence.
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Well firstly her and I dont speak all that often. Although we grew up together and I have known her almost my whole life. She knew pretty much everything before I told her. She knew I did the beg/cry thing and it pushed my ex away. She knew everything my ex had told me before I told her. it was pretty amazing actually. In anycase I need to fix the things that are wrong in "my" life. And to not go completely NC because in one hand that could make her miss me. Or it could make her believe I am just to angry with her to ever have feelings. And to let her do the calling/texting/iming atm she knows im just here waiting for her. But if she realizes I wont always be here for her she may reconsider things. And if not there isn't really much I can do and thats a fact, it takes two people to make something work. And if for what ever reason what ever ive done she hates me that much nothing is going to change her mind. I know she doesn't hate me so that leaves me to believe in the her reconsidering things. Time will allow her the chance to remember everything that was good and amazing.
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Made it to day 2. I spoke to a long term girl friend last night, and she really put things in perspective.