18 days......
There's times I'm ok, I feel like the right choices have been made and we're going to be ok. Today it's hard.... I miss her terribly, and all I can think about are the good times. I think about everything I could have done, should have done to save our relationship. I'm the one who ended it because the stress of the long distance was killing both of us, and I told her I wanted no contact when she told me she met someone else.
There's a part of me that hopes, deeply, that there's still a chance. I love her more than anything, I know everything about her, her inner beauty, her heart, her flaws, and I know I caved in when things got tough. Long distance, money issues, day to day living. I've been reading "the meaning of marriage" by Timothy Keller.... this experience has led me to turn to God. I'm strong, she's strong.... but there's some situations that can only be overcome with God's help. I understand that now.... I want to tell her so much, to pour my heart out and let her know that yes I was weak and I let us down... and not for the first time... but I gave everything I could, and that she's in my prayers every day, every minute.
I'm not using NC as a game.... I truly want us to heal and find the way back to our hearts and to love each other first as soul friends. And if she's truly going to be happier with someone else then that's what I want for her.
I'm not looking to "get over her".... I'm looking to become a better man and for the first time in my life, love unselfishly.
I also know that if we were to start contacting each other now and try to reconcile, I wouldn't be ready.
So what I'm battling with is whether to contact her, or wait for the full 60 days. Yes, I've committed to 60 days.
It's SO hard not to contact her right now, even just to know she's ok.