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Marco311 replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
I'm most likely moving, and hopefully MOVING on from you. I know you feel like the victim here because I didn't want to be friends with you after you ripped my heart out and dumped me, but you are not the victim. I gave you my all. You never opened up. I tried to be intimate with you, you never let me in. I always tried to make you feel comfortable and welcome, and you ignored my efforts. You expected me to read minds, and gave me some BS excuse that i never called you "beautiful" enough. All bull crap and you know it. And you have the audacity to feel like the victim?!? One day, you will wake up, and realize what you let go. One day you will miss me. One day, when you're lying next to whoever you may be dating now, after he failed to please you in bed, staring at your ceiling, wondering why you feel nothing for him, you'll realize I was the best you had. And treated you like gold. And you'll regret you never gave me an honest chance. You'll regret you never opened up to me, and shared with me what I shared with you. And the thing is.....I do want you to be happy. With or without me. But I refuse to let you think I wronged you. I was great. I am great. And I love myself. More than you ever "supposedly" loved me. Have a happy life. -
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Marco311 replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Today is your birthday. We were supposed to be spending it together. That is why I bought you a plane ticket home with me. So you didn't have to be alone on your birthday. Instead, you broke up with me and later used the ticket to fly somewhere else. Even though I know it was for a very important reason, you still should have just told me. I would have understood. But not even giving me the chance to understand is exactly why this relationship failed. Because you couldn't just TALK to me, intimately. And it caused me to be the same way. It takes two to tango, and I talk half the blame for why this thing failed. But I loved you, and wanted more. I wanted to get deep. I wanted to be myself around you. But you made it so incredibly hard. Because you failed to communicate. Painting me as the BAD GUY because I simply wanted to get my money back was BS because there was no way for me to know what you were going through. BECAUSE YOU SIMPLY DIDN'T TALK TO ME. -
Good response. My problem with my last ex, which basically was my first REAL relationship, was that for the entire first year, I didnt appreciate her, and tried to be a tough guy, and act like I didnt care. It was only when I realized I may lose her that I finally accepted the fact I loved her. However, I had no idea how to act, since the entire first year of our relationship was virtually "an act" in itself. So, I went the complete opposite direction, and became very co-dependent. Anyways, Like I said, the problem I feel, lies with the blame. I constantly blame myself, and think I wont ever find it again. Or I worry that If i do find it, I will screw it up. I just miss what I had with my ex. every day. And I just want to let the past go. Not FORGET IT, but move ON from it. ANd not worry, and trust myself I wont make the same mistakes.
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Im sure this is a common scenario. I didnt cave in, and have a realtionship with someone till i was 24. I then dated, what I thought was the love of my life, for nearly 2 years. ANyways, due to some issues with my past, and my distrust of women, Ive always had a hard time being myself, and opening up. I think this ultimately doomed my relationship with my ex. After 2 years, we broke up, and I moved about 2000 miles away. It's been over a year now, and I still have problems allowing myself to get involved with someone. I still fear that what I had with my ex, I may never find again, as when it was good, IT WAS GREAT. SOmetimes, I cant make the clear distinction if Im still inlove with my ex, or the IDEA OF MY EX. As in, do i just miss what we had? I know i wouldnt take her back, or anything. But I really loved that intimate closeness i had with her. How do you put asside your fears, and put down your walls, and allow yourself to feel that again? I just cant get a grasp of it. I constantly blame myself for the demise of my last relationship, which i know is unhealthy, and I just want to not think about it anymore.
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I broke up with my ex about a year ago. I moved 2000 miles away. I have an amazing job, which I love. However, I still find myself missing my ex. We were best friends before I we dated. And naturally, I miss the friendship more than anything. But after 2 years in a romantic relationship with her. I find it nearly impossible to be her friend. I have gone 6 months w/o talking to her, twice. And I start dating, meeting new girls, living life. But when things are slow, I miss her. Or perhaps the idea of her. I misds the friendship. But I cant go back to it. Everytime we start talking again, those feelings come back. Will it be like this forever?
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more proof that men and women who are attracted to each other can never be "just friends". I would tell him. Get it out there, At least you will know. Better than not knowing.
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Yea, well, good point. Me and my ex were GREAT friends before we ever dated. It just developed into a relationship that lasted 2 years. So, Id like to go back to being friends, but it can be difficult. Im over the break up, but going back is tricky.
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Just, I dont know how to be friends with her. I find it hard to be friends with a woman i use to love, let alone have intimate relations with.
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Well, I highly doubt she is harboring hope to get back together. We live so far apart. She is fine with being friends. It is me that has the problem.
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Ok, so i thought I would ask the experts here. Me and my ex broke up almost a year ago. Loved her more than anything. However, I wasnt happy with what I was doing (career wise), and it was causing her to be unhappy with us. So, we broke up. Been a year now. I moved away. FAR away. I have a job now which I love. But i still find myself missing her from time to time. I have dated other women since then, but have been focusing on myself for the most part. I only think about my ex when I am truly bored. But we never became friends really after the break up. I just couldnt see it happening. I tried, but it just brought up old feelings about her. And i figured it would be better for the both of us not to be friends. Even after a year, and even though I know I would never leave my job, for anything, I still am reluctant to be her friend. Still care about her, of course. But, am I crazy to not salvage the friendship? I;m over the break up, but I don't have female friends really. And although she was my best friend while we were together, i just couldnt see it working out afterwards. I know she wants to be friends terribly with me, and she hates that we dont talk any more (been almost a year since we have spoken), but outta respect for anyone either one of us is dating, and just to be able to move on with ease, wouldnt it be better not to be friends? Just a little confused about this stuff.
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Get use to it. I wouldn't worry about it though. It is generally a GUY THING. Unless he is going out of his way to do it, I dont think you have anything to be concerned with.
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I always find it amusing when men try to maintain friendships with women they are attracted to. More often than not, it always ends in a pickle. Rule of thumb my friend, generally speaking, men cannot befriend women like women can befriend men.
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I wouldn't worry about it. The trick is not to look. Infact, marriage itself isn't always the answer. To me, it is more of an phony instituion created by a God Fearing society that wants to clamp a restraint on our natural instincts. I think people these days are terrified at the thought of growing old alone. So they rush into a marriage not realizng how much work and dedication it takes to make the marriage last. breath. Take your time. You most likely will love many in your life.
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Dating women 15+ years younger than me
Marco311 replied to QuietWolf's topic in Age Gap Relationships
I don't find age/gap relationships that big of a problem. I have dated women younger than me. I just have to weed out the ones who are only interested in my wealth. 15 years isn't a big deal. As long as it is legal.- 25 replies
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