Michelle24

Hey everyone! I have a big problem and I'm not sure what to do. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago, and I went through a really difficult time dealing with it. I think I'm ready to move on now but I have a big problem. My best friend and I are both bi sexual. We had hooked up with this guy about a year ago a few times together. We never had sex, but just had some fun. She hung out with him more than I did, and they were kind of together but not really. They never had sex but she hung out with him more than I did. I have always stayed friends with him..we alway chat online, and on the phone, but never hung out with him without her until last week. He asked me to hang out and I even asked her if she would mind, and she said not at all. We have been hanging out almost everyday and we never once hooked up and I really don't intend to. He is really nice and I really enjoy his company. I feel like he is one of the very few people that have been there for me since my breakup. Now today she tells me that she doesn't want me to see him at all or even talk to him and that it really bothers her. I'm not sure what to do. She is my best friend but she has a boyfriend and she never even went out with this guy. Maybe I could understand not seeing him withouty her there if that really bothered her..but she doesnt want me to talk to him at all. I've been ignoring him all day, and I feel so bad..I'm not sure what to do](*,) Any advice would be appriciated

I dunno, it's just my last two boyfriends, I went out with for over 3 years each. I broke it off with them, and I fell out of love with them. So it didn't really hurt with them. This guy I went out with for four months, which I know isn't all that long. But a part of me thought he was the one. Everything was fine, and he just broke up with me out of nowhere. A part of me wants to get back together with him. But only if he comes to me. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. I just hope everyday he will realize what he lost and come back. But I guess that's not going to happen. So I suppose all I can do is take it one day at a time, and hope eventually this pain will go away. Thank you

Thanks JJ..I just don't understand. If he was jealous, why would he act bitter towards me. I could understand if I broke it off with him. ..but I didn't. I'm not the type of person to show my feelings. Even though I'm dying on the inside. I don't show it. When I'm out I have a smile on my face, and seem so happy. If he cared at all for me, even as a friend, wouldn't you think that make him happy for me.

Well he broke up with me. He said he wanted to be friends, so I kind of feel like that's up to him. I don't think I should be running to him. I wasn't flirting with this guy or anything. He's a friend of a friend and we were just talking. But I got the feeling he was jealous. I don't see why it would matter anyway. he's the one that said "he wanted us to see other people" I dunno

Hey everyone, today I am having a really hard time with my breakup. I had made a few other posts about what happened. But since then I was doing really well with the NC. It's been exactly 3 weeks today since we broke up. I wrote my ex a letter a week after we broke up(I posted it in another thread.) He never responded to my letter, but last thursday he left me a comment on myspace saying "hahah great custome, it put a smile to my face. Hope halloween was fun"( I had put up pictures) I never responded to his comment. Ok so, on friday night I went to the local bar with my friend Amanda. And as soon as I walk in guess who I bump into?! YEP my ex. He looked happy to see me. He said hi and gave me a hug. and said he was going outside to smoke and he'll be back inside. While he was outside I ran into this aquaintance that is always at that bar. (he's actually a really goodlooking guy) so 15 minutes later I go outside with this guy to smoke a cigarette. I walked right passed my ex and didn't even look at him. We walked all the way down. My heart was pounding a million miles an hour and I could hardly breathe. But I saw my ex grilling this guy. When we walked back inside, i looked at him and gave him a friendly smile and he gave me a dirty look. I saw him all night long and he didn't say one word to me after that. Most of the time I was with a group of people. So yesterday I noticed he took me off his top friends list(which I figured he would do) but I'm wondering why he did it after he saw me. I called him the first time last night since we broke up. He didn't answer and I left a message. I said " hey i was wondering if you have some time tomorrow I can pick up my earings and sweaters, and I have your books and sweater, give me a ring back" ...and I haven't heard from him I just don't know what to think He's the only thing on my mind. I dream about him every night, and I've been mean to everyone around me that just wants to help. When will these feelings stop. I've never felt this way before

You can also read my previous threads to give you an idea

He said "we were at to different stages in life" Pretty much because I never went to school I guess.

Today I'm really not doing well It's been over a week and still no response from my ex. I mean everything was fine. How can you spend practically every day and night with someone for 4 months and just dead them like they never existed. It's not like we got in a huge fight or I cheated on him..then..maybe I could understand. But I did nothing wrong. I did everything for him. I taught him how to drive, paid for everything for the first two months when he didn't have a job, got him a job painting with my father, picked him up everywhere everyday...and as soon as his get's this job in the city, he acts as if he's too good for me. I wish I could just forget him. Why does it have to be so hard. I don't want to be that ex who can't get over it. I've been in two 3 year relationships and never felt about anyone the way I do him How do I get over this?

Thanks guys.. I mean it didn't really end on bad terms. We didn't fight or anything. kellbell..I don't think he tried to change me. I just reliased that he wanted someone with more goals and who know what they wanted in life. I can't be mad at him for that. and as far as the letter goes. I feel i had to write it. I was like a mute when he broke up with me. I had to let him know how I felt and I didn't want to call him.

I want to thank everyone for there posts the other day. For those who don't know, my ex broke up with me a week and a day ago, for being at "two different stages in life" Well we still haven't spoke but I wrote him a letter friday. He hasn't responded I thought I'd share it and ask what you think. I know I didn't say much on sunday. I guess I kind of had a loss for words. In the last week or so I've had a lot of time to think, and I've put everything into perspective. Ian..I care about you a lot. I agree with you when you say the first two months were amazing. They really were. It's not like the last couple months weren't great.. I feel we both had a lot of stuff going on, and our relationship became more of a routine. I think you are a great guy, and I'd like you in my life whether it be a boyfriend or just a friend. In the past 4 months you have taught me a lot about life. You have changed the way I think about a lot of things. ..for the better. You really weren't just a boyfriend to me. You were my best friend. I know we are different in a lot of ways, but just being around you makes me happy. And I don't want to lose you. I'm not mad in the least bit. I want you to find someone who love with all of your heart..I'm always here for you no matter what.

Thanks dogheadma...Well he said he wanted to be friends. ..and even if he doesnt want to get back together, i still want to be friends with him. I just don't know how long to wait to contact him? Or if no matter what i should wait for him first?

Yeah I know I shouldn't ..I end up looking at it several times a day. I can't help myself.

Thanks Nj Ron..When I asked him how he could threaten our relationship like like, he said that it was called "tough love" and things really were great before friday. I really truly want to be back together with him. I just don't know if I should call him, or wait for his call? i also have a lot of my stuff at his house and visa versa..I just don't know what to do? how long should I wait to call if I don't hear from him?

And I also wanted to say..he has been on myspace everyday and hasn't changed his status or removed me from his top friends. I haven't either..but I just thought that was kind of weird because he made other changes to his page..

Hey Everyone, I'm going through a really hard time and I'd appriciate some opinions. I'm sorry it's really long..I just want everyone to know the whole story. I went out with my boyfriend for 4 months. I know it doesn't seem like that long, but I really love him and we spent everyday together. Everything was great until friday. We were at the bar, and I was talking about school. (We are both 24 and he graduated college last year) ..well he gave me an ultimatum, saying "If i'm not registered for at least one class by monday it's over..but If I do he'd take me out to dinner." Now there was one problem with that. I never graduated high school. And I never told him. It's not like I lied to him, it just never came up. It's something Ive always been ashamed of. He got really mad, but we talked about it that night and he said he was going to help me get my GED. He asked me why exactly I didn't finish school, and I told him how I was molested when I was 17 and in a depression. i only told one other person that in my whole life. we went to sleep and I left in the morning. Okay..now all day saturday he didn't call me. ( I would stay over his house every night) So I decided to call him at 11pm to see why he didn't call. and he said he was at a bar and maybe he'd call me later. which he didn't..and was not like him. Sunday..I called him to see what he wanted for dinner(i made dinner every sunday) He said he was going to eat home, and he wanted me to come over at 9 to "talk" he sounded all weird on the phone. so I kinda have a funny feeling he was going to break up with me. Ok so I get there..he jumps in my car and say" This isn't working out. It has nothing to do with the school thing. My hearts just not into it anymore. The first 2 months were amazing and you taught me a lot. I truly want to be friends, I really mean it. We can watch Greys anatomy every week" He seemed really sincere. He actually started crying and he was really upset. I didn't really say anything I just said I'm upset, but I appriciate your honesty, and I do want to be friends. The last thing he said to was me was "Ok I'll talk to ya" Now...heres the big problem. It's Tuesday night already and I haven't heard from him. I haven't called or anything. We've both been on aim everyday which is hard but I haven't made any contact. I truly want to get back together with him. i feel It was the whole school thing and molested thing that made him back away?? I have no idea. This was so sudden. I'm heartbroken and I can't eat. I can't sleep. I don't know what to do. Can someone please give me some advice? Thank you: