Hopeful123

I met this guy online, and have emailed him on and off for a year. last a few weeks had been intense, we exchanged emails a few times a day. We finally met last sunday (3 days ago), we chatted for 3 hours, he told he "i'll call you" at the end of the date. Monday night, I got a short email from him, just saying it was nice to meet me, and told me what he did that day, nothing significant. I replied next morning. It has been one day, He hasn't wrote to me anything .... I don't know if I like to date him, but I definally enjoyed our pen-pal friendship and like to keep it if possible. In the past, he always replied my email promptly, is his passive action a way of telling me that he is not interested anymore? is the dating rules changed once we meet in person? Any advice will help.

when was the last time you guys break up? Are you sure it's over between you guys? To forgive and forget a person takes time. Maybe your ex just need more time to forget what happened, if he really loves you, he will realize that and come back to you. If you believe it is really over between you guys, then start NC right way. healing takes time, sometimes it can take months to get over a person. Try not let this influence your study. I made that mistakes before. My GPA dropped from 3.8 to 2.5 one semester in college after i was dumped, i had to study extra hard to made it up later on. By end of the day, what is most important is you and your education, your future depends on it.

My situation is somewhat similar to your. LDR broke up a 7 months ago. I'm in the process of healing and it hurts to see someone like me in so much pain. I also think my relationship will probably work if it was not LDR, but you never know.... I wrote such a letter to my ex 4 weeks ago. I havn't heard anything from him. i stoped counting the days. it's sad that he ignored, or maybe he doesn't know how to reply. but it sort of gives me my closure, knowing there is nothing else i could done to change the situation. so maybe you should try that. Tell her you love her, and you want to work it out with her, but it hurts that she mislead you. Tell her to contact you once she decide, or you will leave her alone. Avoid dragging it too long (i know it's hard not too), try to be less emotional.

It has been 7 months since my break up. I'm constantly thinking about him, dreaming about him, and I hate myself for that. I don't even talk to my friends about my relationship anymore, they are tired of hearing it, i understand that. they probably think i'm pretty pathetic. I wonder how can other people get over a relationship in 3-4 months and I can't.

Hi, Delusion Don't feel too bad about what he said to the realtor. Sometimes guys have hard time talking about their relationship with others, he might just said that to switch the conversation topic. I think we all making calls or sending emails to our ex that we regrete, but i don't think our ex will hate us or disrespect us because of that. In time, they will realize that we did it only because it's hard to control our feelings and we were in love with them. After months of NC, I was also sad that my ex didn't know how much I loved him. So I sent him an email to express my feeling, also offered a chance for reconciliation, I haven't heard him, and it's been almost 3 weeks. I don't regrete sending the letter, it's a relief that i finally let my feelings out , and i am glad i tried my best to save my relationship. but it's hard not to expect anything for return, i constantly checking my email and hoping he would write anything back (even i knew he might never reply to me) so before you pick up that phone, think carefully if you are really ready for the conversation. Be prepare to get hurt even more if you are rejected. sometimes love is worth of fighting for, even if means you will be depressed for a few months, sometimes it's not. In most of case, NC is best way to go after break up, but nobody knows your situation but you. If you ever want to break NC again, I recommand contacting him by email rather than phone, you can organize your thoughts much better that way and be less emotional. summerday