Ocean123

I have been feeling exactly the same for the last 6 months. It's got to the point where I'm exhausted. Still think about the ex a lot, but only during those lonely periods. important things I have gained from all of this, is that I know what friends and family have been supportive to me through the last 6 months, and i've become more sensitive to how people are feeling. I'm planning a trip away for a month, to give myself and those who have been good to me a break

If it's any consolation Christmas Day hit me like a thunderbolt too. Waking up alone, I got angry and vowed too stop worrying what the ex was doing and meet someone new so I'm not alone next year. My supposed friend (ex girlfriend) couldn't even be bothered to give me a call over christmas and wish me a happy christmas.

Be careful trying to be friends with the intention of getting back with your ex. I had to go NC for a while recently as it got to the point where I was annoying her, everyone around me and myself. My situation is slightly different as she has a boyfriend, and for the last 6 months i have been pleading, begging, calling etc. All this has done is confirm to her that i'm not right for her and pushed her into the arms of this new man. I have been her safety net for the last year, dropping everything and running when she calls. I never moved on and now I am suffering because she is happy with someone, and I am left all alone, wondering what am i going to do? I recently went out with her one evening, and got despeate and started the pleading and the begging all over again. It has annoyed her lots, and for my sake and health I need to stop. When I hear that she has had a falling out with her new man, or when i see her and she is friendly towards me, i get all excited and think i could have another chance. And then like a dagger to the heart, when I hear they are going on holiday together, or spending christmas together, or they are having a quiet night in together, it pains me, as i am sitting here all alone, and she is having fun. It would probably be best if I didn't hear what she is doing. Do the NC, it's hard, really hard!! I'm still struggling with it, and am going to make it my New years resolution. It will drive you insane, knowing you can't have what you want, so stay away if you've tried, and get out there and meet someone new.

I really do want to move on, but the hardest thing is having to start again with someone new, when all your hopes, dreams and efforts were spent on who I thought was the one. It's mentally exhausting thinking about starting a new relationship with someone else, and having to date again. I a at an age where I thought I would be seetled down with children, and now fear that I will not find someone I am compatible with

I can really relate to your situation. I stayed friends with my ex for about 6 months after our breakup. We were best friends, and did loads together. I didn't realise I was still in love with her, until she met a new man, that hit me so hard. I don't know whether it was because we were both lonely, we used each other for support, but I always knew that the moment she met someone I would not be her special person in her life. I hardly see her now. I am so sad and upset I've lost the best thing that ever happened to me, and I've come to the realisation that she'll never love me again. It hurts like hell, but I just wished I started NC as soon as we broke up, rather than offer her a an emotional crutch to lean on, when our relationship ended.

Which download do you want to try? I also want to stop obsessing about the ex. I'm sick of it, just want to move on with my life

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Hi there I've been reading this thread, and can relate to this, as my situation is similar to yours. I've tried to be a friend to her, so I can still have her around, but when I see her with HIM, it sets me back to the initial heartache. It feels like I'm hitting my head against a brick wall. There is nothing I can do anymore, if anything, my pleading/begging/crying has probably pushed her closer to him. I can't believe how easy he has it, he has put no effort into their new relationship, and she is doing all the chasing and changing for him. It's the rejection which hurts the most. I have no idea on what to do now, can't seem to focus on anything else but getting her back.