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Ilse I did attempt to call her 2 weeks later and let her know that I was in counceling and that I was attempting to resolve me issues about having children but she did not want to listen. I did/am still make the attempt to resolve my issues it is very disappointing that she only gave me a short period of time to do this. She is only 26.

Yes I did tell her no a few times but other times we would talk and I would be ok with it. I told her that I just wanted to get into counceling so I could figure out why I was going back and forth. She just didn't want to listen when I told her I was scared. We only talked about it for a few months after dating four years. She brought it up after her brother had his baby I think she was feeling left out. Still to break up over the phone was really cruel, I am a person with feelings and if she can do it the way she did maybe tell me she didn't care as much as she said she did.

Whoops Why is that no woman will wait for a man to decide about children?

We were together 4 months and only talked about it for 2 months. I am not holding out hope of her coming back.

Well its too late now she left and said that she never wanted to see or talk to me again. I am so sorry that I even said anything to her. After 4 years she broke up with me over the phone. Just because I couldn't give her the answer she wanted when she wanted. I was working on getting better I guess she just ran out of time to wait.

Was U wrong to tell my girlfriend how I felt, because she left.

Until recently I have been dating a very beautiful girl, she is 26 I am 38, we dated for four years and had an absolutely wonderful relationship we were talking about getting married and having a life together. Recently her behavior has changed dramatically, in June of this year she broke up with me out of the blue and 4 days later begged me to take her back, I did. We started talking about the reasons she left, one of them was having a child. We never talked about having children the whole time we were together, I have never really considered having children since I am a child of divorce, but I told her I was open to the idea but needed get some counceling to deal with some of my unresolved issues with my father. Before I went to counceling we started talking and making progress, but my fears kept coming up, some days I would feel good about the prospect of children and other days I would not. I would tell my girlfriend how I was feeling and sometimes told her that I did not want to have children but other times I did not have a problem, she became very frustrated by this. I told her that I just needed sometime to resolve my issues, I did not want to carry these concerns into the marriage or while having children. This went on for a couple of months, I was waiting in the mean time to get the authorization from my insurance to go to counceling but she left before I could go. She broke off our vacation plans, engagement and relationship over the phone, saying she had serious doubts about the relationship. I attempted to call her to a week later to resolve our issues and that I finally received the authorization to go to counceling. But she told me that she never ever wanted to see me or contact her again, mailed my key back to me and cut off my cell phone. My question is this? Was I wrong to tell her my fears, should I have just talked to my councelor and not her? I did not mean to hurt her by not being able to make up my mind about having children but she only gave me a couple of months to come to a conclusion. I was not trying to lead her on but I had a very painful childhood and did not want to repeat the mistakes of my father. She told me that she was not ready to have kids now but wanted me to have an answer now. Please tell me what is going on, I have no clue.