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Not to take pleasure in both of our misfortunes, but, hey, at least I've got some company now.

I'm not sure what resources you are talking about but if it's anything that will help I'm all for at least trying it out. Anything you can message, email, etc. to tell me about would be awesome.

You and me both. The closest I ever came to a relationship was a disfunctional month long "hookup" basically. I still talk to the girl and we are friends, but to tell you the truth we didn't like eachother really. Now I really just want to get into a relationship ASAP, probably not the way to go about it but I can't help it!

I recently posted about a younger girl that I was wanting to be in a relationship but didn't work out (somewhat beside the point). I'm 18 and I realize now that I'm in college that social relationships, especially intimate ones, are a major experience that I'm missing out on. I've never, yes, never, been in an actual relationship (I've done sexual things with girls at parties, Spring Break, things like that, but I've never had an actual SO). This has been killing me lately because as I look around I see kids my age in relationships and I can't help but envy them. There have been a few girls that I've been interested in pursuing relationships with however none ever blossomed. My best friend thinks it's something to do with the fact that the first girl I ever thought of in terms of a SO was my best friend of about 10 years and because of an attempt (or lack of) to try a relationship we no longer talk which has been devestating to me. (My friends joke that I need years of therapy to make me normal again). My question is, I'm 18, looking for a relationship and the experiences that go with it. I wouldn't say I'm desperate but as I get older it seems that everyone else is advancing in the love game and I have yet to join the team. Anxiety and apprehension mounting, I don't want to rush into a relationship or anything, however, even a relationship I know isn't practical or lasting might give me the experience I want to achieve. Do you think it's bad to try to make a relationship rather than let it happen? And if not, is a relationship doomed from the start necessarily a bad thing? Lately I don't have any answers and there aren't many people I can look to for advice except my one good friend and an anonymous crowd such as you all.

When I think about it, I think that I never really changed my mind about her, however, now that she's getting older the option of a relationship (which I originally ruled out because of her age) becomes more apparent. Also, although it sounds defensive or something, while you may be right I don't think that she "doesn't want" me but she's just completely changed her way of showing it. Before it was obvious, she told me she was interested. After that dissolved, she now resorts to just saying slightly awkward things that are nearly impossible to act on, like the statements about us in college and such.

Well, she's 15, however, since I am living in Florida, that falls under the age of consent, which is 16 as long as the other party is under the age of 25. However, she will be 16 in a few months and I would not think of doing anything that would fall under the scope of anything serious until beyond that point. As for the parents knowing anything, as far as they are concerned we are friends, and even in that case they know very little (she doesn't communicate on that type of personal level with her parents, and while I have really close relationships with mine, I am in college and subjects like these have become rather "don't ask don't tell," or even "don't care".

Alright, so I'm only an 18-year-old male and am seeking advice from what seems to be a more experienced, wiser group. For the past year or so, I've been developing a relationship with a girl who is a good deal younger than me (which is especially sensitive at this age). At first, the connection was completely platonic as her and I were just aquaintences but as we began to hang out more and more we become good friends. Originally, she was interested in pursuing a relationship with me, however, because of her age I was fairly quick to disregard such an advance. Now, the tables have turned somewhat; I find myself in the position of wanting to pursue more while she now has reservations as I originally "rejected" her to begin with. Well, there are two things really plauging me about such a situation. First of all, I am not the stereotypical sex-feinding, hormone-driven 18-year-old guy, and I genuinely am interested in this young woman for her personality, character, and spirit, although I won't deny the fact that she is clearly really attractive, even for her age (I don't care what some say, you can be sexually/physically mature as a younger teenager). Second, her original attitude towards me has changed from being interested in a relationship to being somewhat guarded. She drops unsubtle hints of my potential role as a significant other, however, because she is in high school and I am in my first year of college about an hour away, reservations run high. The problem is her age, the distance factor, and the fact that she is defensive in nature about it (she gets nearly uncomfortable if we talk about "us" for some reason, yet she still shows signs of interest). She tells me how I am the "perfect guy" and that she would be so happy with me when she gets to college, but as for right now, she shows little interest of a relationship anymore, yet because of the tension it's now becoming difficult to just remain "normal" and be friends without being subjected to awkward situations. What should I do, if anything, or am I just making more problems for myself? I like the girl, and she did like me (and apparetly will like me in a few years when she gets to college) so I don't see the problem.