nikkinoe

Scout, I think you're right. One problem is that I compare him with my ex. Physically, my ex was perfect.

Yeah, I thought about that. Except for the physical, he's great. How much emphasis should the physical have?

I've been dating this man for about 4 months. While he is a great guy, thoughtful, considerate, sweet.....he doesn't smell good to me. He does not wear cologne of any type, and his body odor is not totally repulsive, but still NOT GOOD. I find it hard to get close to him or desire him. Also, he has an annoying habit of rubbing my skin till it's just about raw with his fingers! I know this sounds funny, but it's annoying. Another problem: he always kisses me with his tongue as well as his lips. Hard to explain. How should I approach these problems without sounding petty or nagging? Or rude? Anyone else ever had to face annoying habits with dates?

Yeah, since being divorced, he has always wanted me to come back. He asked if we could start going out to eat, or to a concert. I said yes before he threw away these family pics and videos. Now, I won't consider going out on "dates" with him. Funny way to try and get me back! ARRRRGGHHHHHH!!!

thanks guys....I'm still fuming! God, I hope it is all a cruel joke. I'd rather it be that than have all the pics and videos truly gone. All I can do right now is just believe him.

thanks guys. Your support makes me feel better, given the circumstances. At least I have a few remaining pics at my home and other relatives homes. But, the videos I can never get back because there's none to duplicate.

I've thought of that, but even that is cruel.

I'm fumed. My ex-h is moving. He sold all the furniture that he isn't going to take with him. I asked him about the family pictures and videos of our children. He said he threw them all away. I can't believe he would do that. Would any of you do this? This is crazy and it's hurting. I guess that's what he wants. Me to be hurt. This is just outrageous to me, though.

it always astounds me how someone can just jump into a new relationship so readily. If you're the ex, it makes you feel no so special. Why do some people do this? Insecurity?

thanks, JC!

thanks for all your perspectives. It does that....just hurts.

Have any of you ever had your ex forget your birthday, or not acknowledge it? It hurts like hell to know that the thought of my birthday never crossed his mind. Anyone else had this experience?

it is a reunion with a lifelong friend. It's just that the subject of WHY I got divorced will come up, I'm sure. I thought about not telling him the real reason why. He is that "forever friend" in which something could develop in the future. I'm worried this information about the infidelity would destroy that. Yes, I am still in love with the previous partner. That will last forever. But, I can't just sit at home on my hands and not have friends over to discuss what's happened in my life. I don't think I should tell my friend about my love for the previous partner. Some things shouldn't be disclosed. I guess what I'm getting at is...should I lie, soft pedal what I've done, or just tell the truth?

I am meeting with an old boyfriend in a few days. I got divorced almost two years ago due to infidelity, on my part. I have told the old boyfriend that I am divorced, but should I discuss the infidelity and the mess I made? I am no longer with the person I did the infidelity with, but still love him. We cannot be together for reasons I won't get into here. Also, how much detail should I give this person who I'm meeting with? He is a lifelong friend and may be shocked by some information I could disclose. I don't want to lose him, and risk that chance if all is told. However, I want to be truthful with him. But, should I not go into details, or throw it all out on the table and let the chips fall where they may? Any advice is appreciated.

well guys...you posted some funny ones and ones I hadn't thought about! Actually, he's not new to the neighborhood. I just noticed him out in his yard and started wondering about him. I have seen a girl over there before, but it's rather sporadic. Like she may be married or something and they're carrying on an A???? I don't know. That's his business. I noticed this past weekend, he spent all weekend at home with no visitors and working on something in his backyard. I also can't tell his age. I have thought about asking the neighbors who i kinda know, and who live next door to him. I feel like if I walked up to him at his house, he'll see my age and think "who's that old woman hittin' on me!??? LOL! I just don't want to look like a fool. One time about a month ago, my lawn mower wouldn't work and I noticed him out in his yard. I started up the street to see if he could help me out, but the girl that I had seen over there before, that I just mentioned, had pulled up to the curb and they were talking. He didn't notice me, so I went back home. Really, at that time, all I wanted was help with the lawn mower. I guess that's when I started noticing him and "studying" him. Keep the suggestions coming! I'm leaning toward the cookie idea. All guys love food!