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Hello again all, my ex broke up with me about 3 months ago , and we’ve been in LC for 2 and NC for 1 month. In that period I’ve kind of grow away from her, and moved on, but still had thoughts about her in the back of my mind. Well since I implicated NC, I had chosen to break it during thanksgiving break, since we were both home and wanted to check up on her, in a friendly way. So I send her a message on AIM and we converse for about an hour and catch up on college life and friends. She told me that she was thinking about me that week, because something reminded her of me. So it goes well the conversation, and she invites me to hang out with 2 of her other friends tomorrow. I didn’t see any harm in it, and I had not seen her in about 2 months. So the next day I go to her house with her friends and we have a good time together. We had fun as a group, and lots of laughs and talking. She kept bringing up stuff that me and her did over the summer when we were together. As the nights ends, no serious conversations, she hugs me and asks if we can be friends again. I say sure, and go on my way not thinking too much about it. I did have a great time with her and realized after that I really do miss her, but she ended it with me? Well about 2 days later I leave her a message saying that I had a good time with her and her friends the other night, she replies by saying it was good to see me and that “ she misses me being around” and that we had a lot of fun over the summer. ( our relationship was over 6 months span mostly during the summer). I was kind of surprised by her saying this. All I said was that I had a good time too. Now, since I haven’t spoken to her since Thursday, but I really don’t know what to make of this. I seem to want a relationship with her again but am unsure of what she wants from me. Should I ask to meet up again or is she just doing this to be nice?](*,)

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hey sorry, she really didn't say much. She said that she liked the ones from the beach and driving in the car. It wasn't a very long conversation, I probably shouldn't even think much of it. thanks

My ex and i went out for 4 months and its been 20 days of NC for me, today she finally IM's me saying that she was thinking about me while looking at some pictures from the summer. I kept it short and sweet, and said i had to go. Anyone make anything of this? Is she just looking for me as a backup or...? thanks

i hear what you're saying i'm going thru exactly what you're going thru it's almost scary. i just hope we both are going to be strong to get through this.

i'm going thru the same thing exactly man. It's so frusterating and i'm miserable. But, we're in this together, we need to be strong. If it was meant to happen then it would, is what i keep tellling myself.

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my ex sent me this message right after we broke up. At first she told me in person that she couldn't communicate with me anymore, which was holding her back, and thats why we needed to end. I am a little confused why she said this stuff in the email. Can anyone make anything of this? dear...., thank you so much - that meant a lot to me. it was all stuff i needed to hear and it is something i'll treasure. its really special that you understand stuff like what you said - that it's important for us to have a good friendship and how much you value me. it's all stuff i need to keep in mind as we go forward. i want to make sure we're really clear on what relationship we're going to have from now on. you know i love you and you know how special you are to me, as a boy and as a friend. i still want us to be best friends. if you really think about it, that's basically what we are now minus the kissing (which can sometimes happen too, really). i want tos tay close to you and i want to be there for you like you are for me. i love you so much and there are so many things about you that are so special. i don't want you to think this is like a rejection or like i don't care about you etc...sometimes people are just on different pages at different times in their lives, and i think that's us right now. i think both of us need to experience a little and then come back and see where we are. honestly, you gave me the best summer and the best relationship i've had to date - and that's something that is really hard for me to give up. i also want to remind you that a lot of this is for your sake. it would be so easy for me to keep doing what we're doing and letting you take such good care of me when there are feelings missing on my part. i never, ever, ever, ever want to hurt you intentionally, and that is what i'm trying to avoid.... i dont know.

well, today after a week and a half without contact, my ex instant messages me saying whats up, i hope you're good... i'll talk to you later. I didn't respond because I am somewhat confused why she decided to speak with me again. does anyone know what i should do? Should i talk to her or continue NC?

thanks you guys for your input. Its not what i wanted to hear but i knew that it would come down to that, i guess i'll just have to get over this. thnaks again.

thanks i feared that but at least i know that is most liekly the case now. oh well

hi all i'm new here and i found your site so informative, i just had to ask a question. My ex and i just broke about 3 weeks ago on her terms. She said she still wanted to be friends with me, keep in touch,ad that we need a break, etc. I didnt really buy it so i kind of played it off. I put into place a NC for about a week but she kept talking to me on AIM as if nothing had happened, she would also tell me how she has a crush on other guy. I said little to her and mostly she was the one doing the talking.Its been about a week since she has tried to make contact with me. can anyone make anything of this? is she done with me? thanks.