SimpleGuy

To be honest i don't know, i've never had any luck with girls, never been on a date i know nothing of what too do. I don't know how to read signals, for all i know she could have given a million and i wouldn't of noticed. There's nothing wrong with her knowning its just me being parranoid, like i said i know nothing of this... im trying but im not getting anywhere at this rate im not gonna get any girl, none have taken any interest before, why should they now? I suppose its easier me being negative of things because nothing posative ever happens. Im just really confused and i get to the point where i get tired and eventually do nothing.

Im really confused with the information given, one person says don't invite her for coffee an other does, and all im getting is short answers which doesn't really help me that much or maybe its me expecting something more. But as for being touchy-feely im not that kinda guy with a girl i don't really know, probably its just me again. I know that talking via internet is alot easier but it doesn't actually combat the issue of confidence when its in person that's the problem that's just finding an easy route and as i said doesn't solve/cure the problem. Still no where closer to getting any more info as im now just confused even more.

Over the last couple of weeks i have been taking an interest in a new girl who joined my course. She is attractive, smart and fun and this is what im attracted, mainly because i consider it too be the opposite of me which is normally what i go for, someone who will get me to do the things i wouldn't normally do (someone too push me). I haven't had any dating experience and feel very much "out-of-the-know" on what to do and everything else that comes into this area. Approaching a girl that i like is worse, i have established a small friendship with her nothing much as i don't want too fall into the category of being "just friends" which has happened in the past. I'm an average looking guy (from what i consider) but girls have never really considered me as bf material and just desperate to break away from this. Attracting her, getting her interested in me is what im finding hard... i have no hobbies, no real interest other than what im currently studying which there is quite a bit too talk about but then again what too do afterwards when that dies. I have been trying to take an interest in what she likes, what her family does... haven't got much but i know a little... am i doing the right thing? I'm sure she's twigging or has an inkling (knows that i'm interested in her) because when im not looking she's taking small looks and glances , im no expert but im assuming that this is a good sign? and I do that same. To be quite honest I don't know what to do next, im keeping my distance to not fall into the friend's part also I don't want to frighten her by being constantly around her so like I said im keeping my distance. I just don't know what to do next, I have been thinking about asking her too coffee or something but im not sure, again finding the right day as im working when im not at University. Or do you think I should do something as a group, its very difficult to know. I really like this girl and would like to get closer to her, but its hard as I haven't had any dating experience or even have a girlfriend so this is new too me, I have asked girls out a couple of times but have been knocked back and as with anyone it does knock your self-esteem . We spend all day together 3 out of 7 days of the week at University on my course, she has a friend who hangs out with her who I also know, but she never seems to be alone. Im just not sure what to do next, its all very confusing… not new but then again I've never gotten anywhere so it is kind of always starting from the start. Anyone have any advice they'd care too share on flirting and conversational tips, it would be appricated . A plan of action is what I need but then again if you did, what are the chances your going to end up following it

During a practical lecture at my college today i had a chance of chatting with a new girls how joined the course 3 weeks ago along with another but i seem to be more interested in this particular girl. During some free time when the lecturer was busy i managed to have a chat with her about what what i plan too do after college/uni and what my possible project was going to be as were starting projects pretty soon. Our converstation was cut rather short as the lecturer came back and brought us together as a group with the other students. I tried to keep alot of eye contact with her and ask her questions, making myself seem very interested in her. She seems to be the type of girl that i would consider dating, granted i haven't had much in the experience of date or girlfriends but she seems very different and i can't quite put my finger on what lol. Before today we have only had short conversations and i mean short, i would like to know how to further my converstation with her? Or now that i've show a little interested in her and about her should i play it safe and just not talk now for a little while or is this a bad idea? im just very much confused as what too do next with this girl. She seems to be interested and im interested but i don't know whether my interpretations are right or not and just rather confused about the whole situation. Im not going too see her now till next week Monday so i have plenty of time to think of stuff and what to do next. Cany anyone else offer anything or a possible next move?

Well i need too loose some more weight before i start toning up myself, i've already lost a stone and im happy with that and it has made me a little more confident but a couple more stone and i'll start consider toning up. I have noticed being healthier and lighter does have alot of affect on how you act also, im alot better now that i was a month ago or so since i lost this weight. I guess it's time, money and will power that will get me where i want lol, just wish there was a manual that would explain better but i guess things aren't supposed to be this easy lol.

Thanks, for that it's what i thought and its nice to know that what it is... confidence is a big issue with me and especially in meeting new people especially attractive girls. I would like to know how to move up a notch, i know that it's only me that can do this but i don't know how, one bonus i guess is i've managed to loose a stone in weight and it has given me some confidence but still it's not enough i need to know how to work myself up more. Guidence is what i lack most and i do tend to be indecisive about things which isn't that good but there we got that's me lol. I probably cud spend loads on my appearance but then again that only hides the fact the im a boring person, this is how i see myself, no real friends, no good hobbies (not having money kinda botches that up) but im working now i have some money coming in at last. Im just miss-guided guy with no fashion sense and zero experience with girls too sum me up and where too start...? lol

How much does appearance mean? I mean i look OK as far as im concerned and i've been told by friends that im also OK but then again their friends, their gonna be like that. Im just unsure what girls look for in terms of appearance e.g. clothes, style, hair etc (you know the usual stuff). I have no real success with girls and lack in confidence majorally (can't spell) and wonder whether i could make up in appearance or do they go hand-in-hand. Im just really lost on what girls want, need and look for in a guy other than the personality. Im getting my first pay packet next week Friday so im gonna have money too burn so im just after suggestions, recommendation on what girls like or anyone who can provide some good advice or even websites that might help, PM's are welcomed also Can someone please offer some advice?... anything will be appricated.

you know how it goes , well i have known this girl just over a year now and i kind of have developed feelings for her but at the time she was already in a relationship. She is on the same course that i'm doing and were now both 2nd years and the only's actually even though there are quite a few 1st years. Her relationship she had before the summer holidays fell apart and she left to go live with through the summer so i didn't get too see her. Since then i contacted every now and then via text message and since then we kinda got back too normal because there was a gap where with everything was happening in her life and she just needed time alone. Since being back in Uni we've gone to being back too really good friends, we even spent today together including another friend of ours but we talked in the car on the way there and back and it was nice. I really do like her alot, more than a friend but i doubt that she would only see me as a friend which is fine and i accept that because i wouldn't want to destory what we have because out of my resent friendships i feel that i would be able to confide in her more than anyone else. It's just kind of frustrating that i have these feelings for her and would like her too feel the same way but there we go, i'd rather have her as a friend than nothing at all, just felt like a little rant. I am thinking of asking her if she fancied doing something next Saturday again only as a friend much too my annoyance ](*,) That's all i really wanted too say because i don't think that is much real advice that can be given, as im not going to do anything, i'll just have to admire her from afar and be nothing more than friends.

Thanks, but im still none the wiser, i could do with someone behind me there prodding me with a stick to do things but yeah, im not bothered about how i look it's just girls that i like don't seem to take any notice of me and to be honest i don't know what too do and i feel unattractive because of that. See if i lean in when talking to them and tapping them on the shoulder i don't really know that could do that, if a gilrl did that too me i'd probably be offended by the leaning in part lol but that's just me... i sometimes wonder if im too old-fashioned As for not noticing singals how would i give cues, im as simple as they come when it comes to girls and how to get them. No girl has found me to nothing more than a good friend and it does make me sick, i just wish i was more confident or that i could at least meet someone who could be my ideal person and i doubt i'd get either. I know that i can be quite negative in most things but then again i have no posative outcome from anything related to girls then why should i feel it if you know what i mean.

If im honest i haven't been on date with a girl, i haven't had a girlfriend and im 22 and because of this i do feel like i am undesirable. Im not bad looking but my problem is not knowning when to iniate anything, when it comes to girls and love im just clueless Im everyone's friend, i'd say that i know more girls than guys, which doesn't bother me the last 2 years at college i had spent with only girls and being the only guy it was kind of annoying. Girls tend to see me only suitable as a friend. I'm just at a loss of what to do, there are 2 girls who joined the course beginning of the week and although i have spoken too them a little bit, but i don't know how too really engage them in conversation or get them interested in anyway. Myself and 2 other friends are meeting up on Saturday to spend the day together which means the entire of my course which consists of only 8 students. Ideally this would probably be a good time to get to know them but im probably gonna end up not saying anything interesting. I would like to be more interesting but i don't know how? i mean i have no real hobbies because i don't have the money, i finally got a part-time job but i gotta work a month in advance before i get any sorta money. I just feel a very dull person and can't understand what any girl would see in me, i mean they don't seem that interested in me. Again it's probably my negativity but im just really out of sorts of what to do. I am a novice and probably will for a long time yet, that's how i feel when im around them and when im by myself. Can anyone please offer some advice?

The issue with the girls that are on my course is that its a University course but it's based in a college outside the Univesity itself... so whilst im at home their at the university during days off and weekends and im not. During that time they might find somone else and if someone more attracitve and better appears then my chances are pretty shot to bits but i suppose i'll have too try to find out. Im thinking about the negative aspects of everything which isn't good i know but i can't help it, i'm just trying to make myself appeal more too them to increase my chances of them being interested but i don't know how other than being myself and that hasn't go me anywhere so far and it only leads to me being annoyed... is it supposed to be this difficult?

Normally the best thing would consult your doctor for advice but otherwise take it easy where it's pinching and just rest to the area is the best thing too do but still get checked out if you can, minor things can get bigger not make you nervous or anything.

Thanks for the suggestions and advice, im will be myself around them im just afraid that im so blind due to my kindness that im going to miss the part where i could have made something of where i was but unfortunately i passed miles/months ago lol. But that's all i can really be is myself i suppose and hope that they like the me. There are 3 of us that are 2nd years and 5 that have joined this year and so far i've the only person of the 2nd years that has initiated any form of contact with the new students, so hopefully that's will keep me in good sted. I some friends saying that i will know the time to ask a girl to do something but unfortunately i always miss it due to my lack of compitence and being completely oblivious to the opposite sex but as always i suppose i have to try too suceed... just wish it were easier Appearance's are important, any do's or don't when trying to attract a potential date? as im starting on Monday and would like too get their attention... and im not going to go in wearing a suit or anything like that lol so... yeah just some general tips if anyone has and thanks again for those that have given advice

Your probably right when you said that i wait too long to ask or do anything it's just that i don't know when... to be honest i could do with someone behind me poking me with a stick telling me to do something about it now but unfortunately i can't have that lol. Is it a good idea to get a friend's (who's a girl) opinion on this matter, maybe she could shed some light on understanding the opposite sex. I'e only met them once today so i need to get more closer too them and go from there but still im confused on what to do, do i approach her when she's by herself which ever girls seems to spark my interest that is i mean. Again all this makes me feel like a novice, then again i probably am. Then again i don't know if any of them are involved with anyone which again raises the question how do i find out without making it too obvious ... why are these things so complicated lol, didn't realises these sorta things need such advanced planning

Today i went for registration of my 2nd year at University and i finally got to meet the new students joining the course, it was a 2 males and 3 females. The girls seemed to be very nice and a couple in particular (caught my eye ), from previous experience i have made friends with girls and it gets to the point where i've become to much of a friend for them to consider me as datable material in their eyes. I was wondering what to do as i don't want this to happen again (or the chance's that i have now anyway) to only be seen as a friend by girls. I wonder if im too much of a nice guy, i would like to show that im interested, but i don't know how? i feel like such a novice and it is annoying. I try to be alot of the time myself, funny, nice... hoping that they might take notice but majority of the time i get no-where. Am i doing something wrong? Can anyone offer any advice in regards to this matter please