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theres this girl that i am interested in... but the thing is she is my recent ex's friend and she is my friends ex. what do i do back out and say im foolish or go in for the kill? we've went out alone few times. went dancing and dinner..

thanks for the response and a good reply i really appreciate it but heres the update she called me during work to meet up after. i met up with her we hung out for approx 2 hours, we talked about it and basically as she states shes asking for "permission" ... man how i felt like crap.... i gave her my opinion and said she deserved better and told her my opinion about the "friend" and all.. i asked what she sees in him she didnt say anything.. but alllll that aside i said and real serious.. "it doesnt matter what i think, do what u want"... i told her my opinion and told her go out with him, find out herself if hes good for her or not, and to leave me out of the picture because we part ways..and said we will never be together again anyways (it hurt when i said that), she however notted her head.i think im selfish and want her for myself lol but thats different story that will be left alone. she also asked me if i would still be friends with him. i said hell no! and thats the truth. all in all i can only hope she makes the right decision and be happy for her... agree?

found out recently that my ex of 3 years has a new bf, ill be honest im pretty choked, then later found out she is going out with one of my friends... how should i proceed? beat the crap out of him for backstabbing me or ... forget it n continue what im doing funny thing is , it was a mutual break up, she wanted to be independent and get her things straight, and strictly said she does not want a bf anymore.... i guess i was played for a fool also my "friend" is going to jail , hasnt graduated from highschool at all. he has no priority, no future i wonder why girls at attracted to that. and hes puny 4"11.......physically i cant judge but why?! i dont get it

holy man what a coincidence, i just today found out my ex has a new boyfriend, i was both shock and speechless and somewhat angry.... man i know exactly what u feel... half of me want to vent and half of me wants to be supportive.........!! i called her like u did, i asked who may this guy be ,, "you can tell me " making me sound like im happy about it ....... but honestly my friend, think of it this way. this is what u got to face even though it is painful but thats why life is a challenge itself, think of it as a game, theres always that one part of mario u cant beat and u get frustrated , you then spend the whole night till sunrise to finish that right? NEVER QUIT keep going like the energizer bunny

someone slap me and help me "man up" again ... thisi s not me im never like this

edit: right now i'm at that stage where i just want to vent.. i wish she had never contacted me.... now that she contacted me shes on my mind ... i want to say so much but its better to be left unsaid cuz it will just get worst and it will just push her away......... my problem is my friends are her friends, and her friends will tell her everything about me... so it doesnt make her wonder what i'm doing.... i blocked and delete her off everything removed everything .......... but see other couples walk around makes me mad......... i just need to vent it out and sleep it through and i decided to post on ena

you couldn't have said that any better so im assuming im on the right path and move on. that sucks why can't there be a way to work around that .... think its a good idea to delete her off contacts such as phone book, messenger email?

hello im new to this board. and this is just about the best site i've ever went to. so many comments so many helpful tips my story: my ex broke up with me 6 months ago, reason was we weren't active anymore, not "lovey dovey" any more. she called it off wanted a mutual break up. and of course it wasnt mutual. i love her but she does not. during the 6 months, (my mistake for not finding this site sooner) i kept trying to get back with her, (attempted about 3 times) . during month # 5 we havent talked for about a month or so, and during that month i met someone new, she was beautiful and all but i didnt see myself with her. then out of the blue my ex emails/calls me to hang out and in my head i was like YES! i think she realizes she misses me (oh i was wrong)... she actually thought i moved on and wanted to be become friends now......... so last night i asked her which was my last attempt, if she is still considering to get together, if not i'd have to "NC" (does that mean no communication?) and cut her out of my life.... she said shes over "us" so i said ok cool . but she said she wanted to be friends i said i can't do that, she wasnt too please about not being friends, and i told her "we cant always get what we want huh?" and thats it.... BUT my question is what are my chances of getting back with her in the future? i can move on if we dont communicate with each other.. but i'd hope we'd get together down the road what are my options? be bold i don't care i want honesty thanks in advance