Crazyhorse

OK, thanks, I'm still not sure. I spoke to him and said I thought he was acting weird and why and he just said he thought he was acting normal. He said he wants to meet her again and hopes that they become friends. I don't think he's jealous, he's got a nice girlfriend himself. It's possible he's bothered about her coming between us. We used to pretty much go out every night, just for a drink or to play pool or whatever. Obviously since I've been with my girlfriend I've had other things on. We've still gone out and done things though, just obviously not every night.

OK, my girlfriend lives abroad and recently she has come over to my home a few times. We are getting really serious and I obviously wanted to introduce her to my friends and she got on well with the ones she met so far. The other night we were meeting up with my best friend whom I have been friends with for around 18 years. I've never had much success with girls and this is the first time I've introduced a girlfriend to him. We met up and he was really obnoxious, not himself at all. Seemed to be putting on some performance. He wasn't particularly nice to my girlfriend and he kept saying bizarre things suggesting that he cheats on his girlfriend and strange things like that. My girlfriend and I ended up arguing at the end of the night over something that he said that put doubt in her mind about me. We've always been the best of friends and done everything together, he's always been great but was a completely different person the other night. She's just seen this performance he put on and is wondering how I can be best friends with somebody like that. I'm confused, one, as to why he did it and two as to what to do. I just want us all to get on well together. I'm totally in love with my girlfriend and want to be with her. I don't want to fall out with my best friend though although I didn't particularly like him the other night. I'm a bit confused. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Thanks for the replies. I replied to her before your reply but I put a very similar thing. She replied a bit later apologising for going off on one. We've talked about it and come to a decent solution. Before we actually try to move together she's going to move somewhere nearer me with her friend. This'll take off a lot of pressure and she'll only be 2 hours away from me instead of about 26. We're both really happy now and I really think this could work out.

I'm 27 and she's 33. She's had a really rough time all her life and has had depression problems, been mistreated etc. She's having problems with medication withdrawels at the moment that are making her sick. She's got self esteem problems as well. She's actually, since my first post, sent me a message telling me not to call her. Says she can't do it because she'll only end up hurting me and that I'd be better off finding a girl who deserves me. It really hurting because she's the most amazing, beautiful, fantastic girl I've ever met and all I want is to be with her and be there for her. I don't think she even wants to just stay friends, she says she couldn't handle just being friends.

I don't really know where to start, I'm so confused. I met this girl on the internet and we live in different countries. We spoke for ages and got on amazingly and eventually we met up at a place in between the two of us. We spent two weeks together and we both said they were best two weeks we've had. Everything was just right. We clicked straight away, we just seem perfect matches and I can honestly say I've totally fallen in love and she says the same. Since we've been back we talk every spare moment we get and have been planning for her to come and live with me. It does seem crazy and I'd have never imagined this would happen to me but I'm a sensible guy and this just feels right. Now, here's the catch. She's very troubled emotionally and is going through various things. A couple of times before she has had problems and she can't deal with things and has talked about ending the relationship. She says she loves me but can't handle not being together and doesn't want to hurt me with her erratic behaviour. She thinks I can do better. Each time we've talked and sorted it out. Last night we were talking and everything was good. I woke this morning to find a text saying she can't do it, it's too much for her and she loves me but she's sorry. I've tried phoning and texting her but she's not responding. I am prepared to wait for her until she's maybe more stable (because she definitely will be in time) but it seems she can't handle that, she either wants everything now or for me to forget her and move on. She's saying she can't handle the moving here while she is like she is. I'm just so confused and so hurt right now. All I want is for us to be together. Why can't things be simple? I know that she does feel how she says about me, 90% of the time it's her who instigates phone calls, IM conversations etc. I don't know how to handle this.