Met this guy on-line back in spring 2001. We emailed, then talked on phone daily for 5.5 years (yes, five years). We live 30 miles from each other. For every Christmas, Valentines Day, Birthday, etc... we sent cards and gifts, but never met.
He asked me out repeatedly. I just saw him as a friend. A friend that grew into my very best friend. After the second year, he sent his photo (he had never seen me). I was not attracted to the photo. I dated only 3 guys briefly during this 5.5 yr period. I had a messy divorce 14 years ago and a botched engagement 8 years ago that made me feel untrusting toward long-lasting relationships.
In any regard, I found myself not caring so much about his looks, but rather who he was. I agreed to meet him for the first time in person on an official date in June of this year. We both had stated up-front to each other that we were in love with each other, but could not know for sure until we met.
It was a little awkward at first, but since then, we have been on 2 great vacations together, get together mid-week for dinner and spend every weekend together. He says he has never been happier or loved anyone like he has me and knows I am the ONE.
My question: Since we know everything about each other after talking several times a day for 5.5 yrs., inside and out, met each others families and feel we are both the ONE for each other, (we are 40 somethings) how long is too long to wait for a proposal? He made a comment the other day that had plans to ask me in the year 2008. I was a little shocked and hurt. What more can we know about each other that we don't already? Am I being too "pushy" by wanting something sooner?
