Jakeshake

Hey hey! I gotta agree with the others on this.. Its a completely bogus matter, but they're right! I know you care about her, so maybe things WOULD be best if you let her know.. However... You can't expect her to feel the same way. One thing I wouldn't do is to go just start telling her about the friends list and all, as she may take that as some kind of... infringement on trust or whatnot. But I know you care for her.. Just tell her the truth about what you think about him, OR start slow! Build your way up to it! We're not telling you to sabatoge the relationship, but this other girl DOES and SHOULD have a right to know.. You know? =)

Honestly, I personally don't have alot of coin! I'm in between jobs and just starting back out, school in the works, and taking a waiting job. Shes in school to be a therapist, and is decently well off. What keeps us together financially? We love each other still, and just know it'll work out! She understands I don't have the money for a 3K diamond ring, and even though I don't picture it as enough, she would want the money to go elsewhere. Besides money being an issue, we're just now getting out lives on track! And yeah, I did the necklace thing for her too. Well, made one for her. Flowers almost everytime, hide cards under her pillow before I leave and in her car. We're great. God, I promise you... She notices.

Hey guys, appreciate it! Massari! You're right cheif! Three years is no joke, and I appreciate hearing that, and I guess you're right, what man wouldn't feel jealous of every single man just getting too close at all! Well, when you care about someone that you love, of course. Love is something thats that bond that you know that the two of you can't break... The thing that MAKES it the pain in the a-- is that its the bond that YOU personally can't break! Its like a big balloon that you put more (love) in that it gets so full, one tiny little thing could make it pop. I really appreciate you hitting me back, makes me feel alot better! Azual- Dude... Thats a tough call... Your situation just flat out sucks, and not your relationship, but with your friend.. I'm so defensive of my girlfriend its insane without being clingy, and right as soon as he said that, I'd have probably tossed him through a window, lol... But her.. Well, I wouldn't know enough about her. Stay strong, thats all I can say. Pride helps, even if it gets taken away from you, just know where the other guy stands... Even though that did nothing to help, just tossing something out there. You're not the only one. In response to what you said about reminding myself about her and all, I"m glad you said it, because you're right. Keeping something around like a memento would be nice, and we have WAY too many happy moments to rule out the bad ones. Helps alot to hear that! You've helped in ways you'll never know! Thanks to the both of you! I really appreciate the help and who knows, maybe I can lend some help of my own sooner or later! Peace- -Jake

Hello everyone on here! First time post, and I found this by searching for a solution to my problem... It eats me up, and I DON'T KNOW WHY! I hope you'll listen and not think I'm whining, but just that I hope that someone can help me to make better sense of this... I've been dating my girlfriend for going on three years! We've known each other for eight, and we're the happiest we've ever been! We've shared everything we know with each other, STILL haven't gotten tired of each others stories, sex life is relentless, and "I love you" is always the first and last things out of our mouth. Kissing still hasn't left the stage yet. Marriage is still in the works, just as soon as I can save up enough for the rock. =) So whats the problem? Well, I have an insane jealousy complex.. And I wish I could get rid of it. Shes very friendly to guys and actually gets along better with them then women, so whats the problem? Me, I'm sure. =) Even in the past few nights I've had dreams of her leaving me for my best friend, and last night I had a dream where she was pretty sexual with my brother.. Even if I could blow it off, I CAN'T! It sticks with me for the rest of the day and makes me feel just.. Blah! The reason being is probably because of an ex I had. It was high school and we were the high school sweet hearts, but there were a few things in the relationship... Once again, great sex, lots of friends, ect. But she would always tell me that all of these people.. friends, and random guys alike were hitting on her, and I believed her, each time. Even lost a few friends, sadly. People claimed SHE was the one initiating the come ons and they had backed off. So it stuck with me. Others were even honest and say she openly admitted to cheating. Its been with me ever since. So my GF has suffered.. We finally got rid of a clingy ex of hers and we're happy... but why can't I stop feeling jealous? I'm not trying to be whiny or anything about it, but if this is a complex or disorder, what can I do about it? Anyone else have the same problem? Thanks! -Jake