I recently ran into my ex and reconnected with some of our mutual friends.
After all this time (been a couple of years) after listening to where he was in his life and what he is doing, compared to where I am and what I am doing... I'm kind of dumb founded.
Here it is this man complained about how I was going nowhere and holding him back and yadda yadda yadda and now that he's on his own, well dating the woman he cheated on me with, he's the exact same person he was when I left him doing the exact same things it seems. He even was wearing this military style coat he had lost when we were dating a few years ago! He'd rebought the same coat to replace it in the last couple of months he had said.
I on the other hand have done a 180 and went into a completely different direction in my life from when we knew each other.
The funny thing is in my life I'm always evolving, always doing and finding things that I enjoy. I guess I'm a transformer. Always have been, always will.
It bothered me a whole deal that this man complained about me to me (I never tol dhim what I thought his faults were, maybe in hinesight I SHOULD HAVE! but whatever I dont like playing that game). The main thing being that people don't change.
I guess it's just interesting to me that in this case he was right... at least he's the one who hasn't changed.
Casually speaking to mutual friends who've let thing slip here and there and he's still the same person he used to be doing the same things.
I guess he hasn't realized yet that if you keep doing the same things that got you nowhere, you will continue to get nowhere until you can change.
Have any of you ever run into a ex after a couple of years have gone by and seen that they have not changed one bit from when you knew them?
Weird. Funnier yet, mutual friends think I've changed so much that they have taken note. But I'm not so sure I have, though my career and activities I enjoy have defn did a 180.
Not that I'm supposed to care, so don't come at me with you shouldn't be thinking about what he's thinking - I know this - this thread is basically me pondering things out loud to this community filled with people who've gone through the same and perhaps have had the same thoughts...
I wonder... if in seeing me, this new me, is he slightly like wow, she's changed (as our mutual friends). My brother told me that of course he thinks that but being a man he'll keep it to himself but there will porbably be that little thought in his mind like ' i wonder what would have become if i had stuck around.'
Thinking out loud again.
Anyone else run into their exes and have a good moment of clarity in regards to them being in the same space an dyou moving on to a better one?