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  1. mynatahsa
    Oh but it's ok to flame me? ?????
  2. mynatahsa
    Ya, I didn't even want to say it.....(type it..... whatever) The thing is....I did really like him but....that's too big of a butt.
  3. mynatahsa
    He didn't deserve me. So I broke up with him, via email....because he wasn't treating me right. He was on Crystal Meth and totally irrational......
  4. mynatahsa
    Well in this case he deserved it. I don't think it is a nice thing to do. But you can't break up nice. Honestly, I had 1 guy in my life break up with me to my face.....and that was in high school and I still remember how painful it was. I would rather have gotten an email. I just wanted to cry. He said "I know you really like me....and that is why this is so hard to do....but I'm getting back together with my ex girlfriend (a lie).......
  5. mynatahsa
    well....he was too defensive and always took me wrong anyway....so it wasn't like we could have a real conversation about it without turning into a misunderstanding. Not cowardly.....just didn't want a confrontation, and didn't want to be interurpted or yelled at. He was big on yelling at me for nothing at all. I agree it could be childish if the relationship were mature, but it(the email) was all it was worth to me. So why would he say it was classless and to never contact him again??? He wanted me to move in with him.....wanted me over every night and if I said I was busy....he would be irate. ???? Just really confuses me.
  6. mynatahsa
    I broke up with my last boyfriend by email. He said that I lacked class doing this. I am just wondering.....what is so bad about it? Oh yea, I made a big long list of all the things that I didn't like about our relationship on there too. But he was such a jerk, I didn't feel like I could say it all to his face. He probably hates me and didn't want to be friends or even have me contact him ever again.....oh well....
  7. mynatahsa
    Wow. Isn't it amazing how our bf and gf can cause us to be jealous of so many different things. ! I have noticed a pattern with the men that have been in my life. I think it is our own insecurities. He is with you. Why be jealous? If you can't trust him......then you can't.... and that is something you need to deal with in your own way.
  8. mynatahsa
    If someone is bi polar and taking SSRI's... that could cause mania.....which could be causing the acting out. A doctor could put her on mood stabilizers to avoid the highs and lows. They work really well.
  9. mynatahsa
    Shika, you don't need to be thinking you are fine we are just not compatible... XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX What's wrong with thinking this?
  10. mynatahsa
    I think it's one of those subliminal things that we don't control. You know it instictively and sometimes instantly.
  11. mynatahsa
    thanks. I will definitely check that book out.
  12. mynatahsa
    I once heard a relationship expert say that attraction is based on one persons emotional or mental hangups or problems sort of matching the other persons....that is where we get the attraction from accross the room and some of these really "passionate" crazy relationships. Maybe you are healthier than the guys you date. Subconsciously, maybe they are looking for someone that really needs them...is kind of clingy....needy....? I think it is great that you are the way that you are......there is someone that is just right for who you are....probably lots of someones. You are probably not too much this way or too much that way.....just not a match for them.
  13. mynatahsa
    My husband is a cheater. I am finallly ready to leave him. The problem is, he always pulls me back in....with his pleas of deep love and sorrow for everything that he has done to me. I stopped having sex with him for 3 months....and then I gave in the other night, just because I needed sex, and I don't cheat. I'm having a hard time because I always believe him......and think, well maybe this time he is going to change. He recently started practicing my religion (Buddhism)...and for ethical reasons, gave up meat! Which is a huge change for him. He is a meat and potatoes guy, bigtime. He even promotes veganism now, it's weird to see him like this. But I know, something will happen and he will "slip".....like always. He also "quit" drinking and goes to AA several times a week. ... How many chances does he get? He never tells me about his infidelities....I have found out other ways, which makes it that much worse. Any advice?
  14. mynatahsa
    Because self mutilation is too obvious. Because then we can blame others for our failures. Because we really do want to be like our totally screwed up parents after all cause it's comfy. Because we want to own somebody else.....and they want to own you. So you can never, ever, ever be with anyone else EVER again, no matter how boring, mean, ugly, nasty the other person gets. Because we are afraid. Because we want to believe lies and fairy tales. Because we didn't get enough abuse in our childhood to convince us that marriage is a huge crock.
  15. mynatahsa
    Well, it's pretty out of character for him...he's not the type to care what anyone else is up to.......if it doesn't involve him... When I said "let's be friends".....he said "what for, you wanna go shopping or what?" He didn't want to remain friends and was mad for the way I broke up with him.......
  16. mynatahsa
    no, I broke up with the ex bf..... but I was pretty shocked to hear that he asked about me....because he was mad when I last talked to him. the decision with the husband has nothing at all to do with it.
  17. mynatahsa
    I was separated from my husband last year and had a relationship with someone while we were apart. since then I reconciled with my husband....but things aren't really working out... anyway, I heard that the ex boyfriend has been asking around about me.....what does this mean..... Do guys ask around about ex girlfriends for no reason?
  18. mynatahsa
    Are you secretly married to my man? hahaahaha Hey, I just read your other post...about the financial situation.... My man pays the bills or else there would be NO RELATIONSHIP..... he makes good money at least.... You should dump this guy ...asap....like get the paperwork going....in the morning. I can tell you the answer to all of your questions.....You are paying the bills........no way now how..... you deserve better....you are already alone except there is an enemy working against you , that you are paying for.....
  19. mynatahsa
    exactly... there are so many shallow and worthless ways to "get even" -that are just soul destroying. I don't want to become him. I have also gone that route....ok....I'm not trying to act like I haven't BUT.....it is a waste of time....cause I don't want somebody else....I want me first.... I have tested that theory......
  20. mynatahsa
    I know.....I feel like I'm wasting my youth.... or what's left of it....!!!! It's like ....being on a merry go round....and everyones saying "get off" and your so dizzy you can't....so you sit down and everything is whirling around and you are waiting for it to stop.... and it slows down....and you think....oh, it's ok....then it starts back up...and you become addicted to it... you know there is another reality ..... but you are used to your current reality. You know you could do better. And you wonder when you will. You don't want to cheat. But wonder if you would be better off cheating.... but then couldn't stand the thought of being that kind of person either.... well, that's how I feel sometimes anyway.... ...............can you relate????
  21. mynatahsa
    Whatcha gonna do???
  22. mynatahsa
    Ok, sometimes I still do......it catches me off guard....and ya....I do.
  23. mynatahsa
    No, I'm ok now. I've accepted it. I've learned detachment. And only through that I am seeing past the situation.....or through the fog of emotion that has clouded my judgement in the past. I've grown.
  24. mynatahsa
    Also he did act like my kids were out to get him too. It was horrible.
  25. mynatahsa
    I'm right there with you on that. My boys got tired of it and went to their dads house too. No kids here now..... But they are grown 18 and 20 and living on their own.... talk about mental and spiritual anguish and despair....talk about hell on earth.....that is what it felt like for a long time.
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