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I'm sure you know your ex better than anyone on this forum. You need to decide how she will most likely react to it, and then decide if you want to send it. From my limited experience with this, the longer and more carefully you think things through, the better off you will be. Good luck either way

longhaircats - your situation sounds like the reverse of mine, with the exception that my gf and I are 700 mi apart... I'm not trying to be a jerk, but hopefully I'm not in your situation 3 months from now. Good luck with the NC thing. Anyway, I tried the whole NC thing beggining 6 days ago, but today she called and we talked for around an hour. I'm not sure if talking to her was the right decision or not. I didnt break down and tell her how much I loved her / how bad i wanted to get back together. We mostly talked as friends, but i got the impression that she missed what we had. Any advice on what to do from here?

You make some good points. I am just not sure going into long term no contact is the best solution. The fact that she wants to still be my best friend even after me being an emotional train wreck the past three weeks tells me that she still has some feelings for me. Knowing her, I think that NC probably will destroy those feelings and that is the last thing I want to do.

Thanks for the suggestions. I know that its all good advice, but I cant really follow it right now. I am looking for the best way to get her back in the long term, irrespective of the short term consequences. So that is the type of advice I am looking for. I know that I have to heal myself first, but I am afraid to go into complete no contact with her. I think rejecting her offer to be her best friend will push her further away, and cause her to permanently go on with her life without me (that is based on knowing her personality). Here are some of my reasons for my desire to win her back, instead of just moving on. 1. I love her, and I have never loved anyone else like that before. 2. I know that she really loved me in the past, and I think that I can eventually get that back. 3. Honestly, I cannot do any better than her. I am an average looking guy. She is beautiful, extremely intelligent (in a top 10 med school), and an incredibly nice and fun person. This is not just an assessment based on my current emotional state. 4. If I had the choice between being her best friend, or not being in her life at all, I would choose the former. Thanks again for the advice...

My girlfriend of 2.5 years recently broke up with me. For the first 1.5 years everything was perfect - we were each others best friends and truly in love. The last year or so our relationship has graduadually slipped, which was mostly a consequence of me taking her and our relationship for granted. We are now going to grad schools 600 miles apart. She broke up with me about 3 weeks after starting school, saying that she wanted to let things cool off and just be friends for a while. I am still completely in love with her. For the past 3 weeks, I have been pretty pathetic - begging her to give me another chance, calling her constantly, writing her desparate letters saying how i have changed, etc. Now she tells me that she cannot ever see us getting back together, but wants to stay best friends. She seems to be pretty popular at her new school and has a lot of interest from other guys. I have no idea how to handle the situation. I want to get her back, but I realize that my current approach probably isnt going to pan out. If anyone has experience on this type of situation I could really use your advice. I dont want to push her away any further and I really want to get back together. I realize the logical thing would be to move on for good, but that really isnt an option. Should I stay her best friend, and try to gradually get her back? Or should I just try to not talk to for a while?