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  1. pretty girl digs graves
    u know what...even after everything that has happened...somehow we find a way to communicate...not sure how that happens in this vast big world...and u don't have to send an answer..its not a test...maybe if u really get so mad that it explodes out...u will feel better...wasn't trying to do anything but that and let u know that i can actually talk about something other than the something...so, as promised...i will stop posting in here from now on...i hope this helped somehow...either way - hate or forgiveness is ok...stay kewl
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    that he doesn't expect any contact or want u too because its important that u don't - maybe he is just focussing on things other than that big car crash and showing u that maybe its possible to talk and discuss anything other than that crap...wouldn't it be nice if that never ever ever was discussed again...and u talked about normal stuff - even if it is cat and mouse - that u like...
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    doing and why and she understands and supports and trusts him and have no insecurities at all about him and what is he doing anyways?
  4. pretty girl digs graves
    can't do it...never will
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    he was late on the tech scene...like i had my own comp 10 years before he got one...anyways...he had it for over 3 months and was out having a beer with some friends and he told them he bought a comp and the first thing they asked him was if he had found any good porn sites...and he said...he hadn't even thought about that...silly goose...in fact....i was the one that showed him where he could download a few naughties...and he spent more time downloading music...i think he has a low sex drive...doesn't sound very manly to me...
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    i didn';t like or causing problems...he would in a minute...i think its because of the way he views life...its not like its a sexual thing..i think he was doing that to find out more about me and i shut that down...but i should have just told him how i felt and he probably would have taken me to a movie instead! duh
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    for 17 years never cheated...lots of chances offered...but it never entered my mind...zippo i think when i was in grade 7 i had two boyfriends for one week...but i wasn't even kissing back then i don't think i could live with myself if i did that...that being said...i have asked this question to people i know...and its like 88% say that they have and had no problem with doing so... shakes head...no wonder so many marriages end the only way i would cheat on my husband is maybe sneaking a peek at his cards while playing poker and he had to take a pee break and that would make me feel guilty no wait...once i was really loaded with hubby and we were walking a video of the who and i said whoa look at rodger daltery's * * *...i'd might have a go at that...then i threw up
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    if yes...any comments...i will share too
  9. pretty girl digs graves
    i think the pattern of on again off again communication and the methods choosen are not that different from what u used to do in the past...maybe u have just forgotten that...nc does erase a lot of things....i used to think that the only reason my ex wanted to contact me was because he wanted me back...and i later discovered that he was actually more well rounded than that...it wasn't just one isssue...it was like he actually was discussing various things...and i just took it as him being an * * * * * * *, which he is, so, i didn't let it bother me...and nc is the way to go..he knows nothing about what i am doing and same for me...but by doing nc i discovered just how much he knew me because he would check in different places...to leave a post or something just to let me know he still cared...but whenever i saw that i got so mad that he was actually spending way more time than anyone should about me...so i would really get mad and wonder what is his freaking problem..i told him to leave me alone..i think that last straw was when he pretended to give me a gift as a 'accomplish thing' - pleaaaaaaaase. he was so sneaky...he just placed in a room and ran away...because he knew that if he tried giving it to me...i'd call the cops...and he actually spent money knowing i would chuck it in the trash...what did i ever see in that guy....its been pretty quiet though lately so hopefully he has moved on...thank gawd
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    all i got when i graduated was a hug and kiss and i am so proud of u...even though he supported me through school u would have thought he would have given me a little more respect...and i know he doesn't like to show of his accomplishments, but this was mine not his... and our sex life tanked as well...as soon as he tried to discover more about 'who he is as a sexual being' - i put a stop to that right away and told him, hey, that is not normal to want to do that...and he just took it personally instead of taking it as what i wanted...and i think he just started being afraid of doing somethingt else that would upset me...next thing i know, he's crying because of some off handed comment i make about him faking it with me...and he just stops doing anything...sure the hugs and kisses and the i love u's were still there but a woman has needs u know...and i have no deisres beyond what i know i know...why does everyone need to find out new things when what works is good enough...no wonder i got bored of him..well, before i know it he is in a coma and staring into space...i caught him once doing it solo style and that was gross even though i like to do that sometimes, but a man doing that? weird. next thing i find out he is talking about sex in such a stupid meaningless generalized way that after two sentences anyone in shouting distance would run away...i think he was trying to maintain so sense of being a sexual person because i was not interested in talking about anything related to that...why do people what to know us in that way? like it makes anything better knowing more about all of us. well, to make a long story short...he just started to stink and i didn't want him around me so i decided it was time i did something for myself with someone that really cared for me...i should have done that way earlier...
  11. pretty girl digs graves
    all u want, just do that. some people do that u know. i would find it demeaning and actually harmful in my next relationship. how would u accept someone that values you when you don't value yourself? if a man ever told me i only want to string u along for the effortless sex, gawd, i would punch him in the face and boot his balls to the moon. but if he was really great doing the deed, well....tough one eh
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    he tucked it uinder his shirt and it made him look like he had a pot belly and he looked stupid...but i laughed
  13. pretty girl digs graves
    a man that has food stuck between his teeth and doesn't know it a man that doesn't know how to throw a spilt fingered slider for the third strike and has no idea how to make pie crust that isn't dry and gross a man who's idea of a good time is napping in the afternoon a man that owns more shoes than i do a man that spends money on others but nothing on himself a man that understands how to crawl and then walk and then run away but most of all i hate a man that is retarded and lazy
  14. pretty girl digs graves
    maybe it is just me but i want a man who will hold my hand and make me smile when the world is tearing me to pieces. i want a lover who will stand by me and not crumble and lie, even when the crowd turns the other cheek. i want a guy who will hold me and whisper that i'm everything he needs - a man who will not have female friends and has a problem with that. i want to be valued and cherished. and i will give him back what he gives me in return. i want that.
  15. pretty girl digs graves
    change your life or routine or lifestyle because you might see or bump into her. don't hide and just do what you would normally do. if u both happen to be in the same place at the same time, just be polite and go about your business. if u both work in the same area - get used to it. u shouldn't have to change jobs just because a relationship ended. give it time and it won't bother either of u.
  16. pretty girl digs graves
    its ok to move on. and for her to as well.
  17. pretty girl digs graves
    I think maybe you are missing something more important - maybe part of his choice is choosing a healthy partner. What I mean by that is someone who is brave enough to tackle their demons and do the right thing. When you meet someone that has learned from their past and is making corrections, I think you should go for it. Maybe that's what's happened.
  18. pretty girl digs graves
    I think this is a great example of how not to function in a relationship. You feel the need to protect her and that is simply related to learned behaviour from your past. She feels the need to do things her way because of her past. The way I see it is no-one is not to blame here and the only thing you can do is control your behaviour. What you both have been doing is unacceptable and counterproductive. You both are tricking yourself and losing track of your goasl. The thing you both need to really look at and understand is how domestic violence affects children. Do you not think that at some point all this is going to effect them? The only response from either of you is to be good role models for the children. The biggest part of letting go is learning just how to do that. From the outside it seems so easy, people just say it in any the makes it sound like words are all that is need - JUST LET GO they say to you and don't understand that it takes more than that. And that's because they are not where u are not, they are in a relatopnship not falling out. And you always look worse when the other can do it, and do right away and that is because the person leaving have had time to prepare and plan. And that's why they can do so in whatever manner suits them, in any way they please - because when they make that decision to leave u - it doesn't matter how it feels to so, or what it means or does. The choice has been made in isolation and they made without you because they no are are connected to the union. Think of the kids and move on.
  19. pretty girl digs graves
    As I was reading this I was thinking how would I react if I was in your shoes, in her shoes - and I thought this can not be easy for either of you. To be honest, I have been in her position before and I know how emotionally and mentally drained she must feel. I truly hate hearing stories like this where two people that really had somethingt special end up throwing it away but you have to think of how she feels - why she broke this relationship off in the first place and went with this guy. It probably was because she felt as though the relationship you both had was not meeting her needs and that you were not someone who she trusted anymore. I know there are always things we wish we could have done different, but think about how much her feelings for you would have had to have changed in order that she would start up with someone else. She is gone and will never come back to. That's the attitude I had. It had alot to do with your behavior towards her. You just let her down and never came through on the promises you made to her. I really don't think it matters how much you change you will never again be that man she fell in love with because she already left that man. So don't blame yourself or her. You just must come to understand that you will never be in her life in any way so respect her decision to leave someone that failed her, and let it be.
  20. pretty girl digs graves
    I thought i was in a great relationship with a great boy and the sex was not bad but then one night he started doing something weird while we were making love. He started trying all these positions that were kinda strange and I felt like he was not really all there. It was so strange but I went along with it. The next day it really bothered me but I didn't say anything until he called and said he was bringing us home a surprise. So I was thinking what is he up to know. And I started to worry a bit. So, to calm myself down I self serviced and watched something I had downloaded weeks before. And I felt better. My question is do boys always kept secrets about sex?
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