I've been with my partner for nearly 2 years. I knew from day one that he had a daughter, and I was fine with that...until I experienced what that entails-
Him constantly having to be in contact with his ex, "hiding our relationship in the beginning so he could see his daughter" ? And dealing with him going alone to his ex's house to pick up his daughter while I am at work- I worry sometimes about what could/may be happening.
Last night he called his ex to organise to pick his daughter up. Long story short they ended up in an extremely heated argument about each other, their 6 year old daughter, why she wasn't attending school and I could hear his ex yelling in the phone to him "where are you? where are you?". It ended by him throwing his phone, storming outside and crying. I offered my ears and my hugs but he wasnt interested and we have not spoken since. He came back inside and grabbed his phone then disappeared into the garage...when I found him he was on the phone to who I can only guess
This bothers me!!! Why are they still arguing? Why do they even use their energy on each other? Why are they calling each other names and "throwing mud" so to speak? There's obviously some unresolved issues he has...how do I comprehend all this, I don't know what to make of it.
I have never been told what happened between them by my partner, I only hear little bits and pieces from other people. He alwasy keeps me in the dark with issues that arise with his ex. They were together for 4 years so I suppose would have only just broken up prior to my arrival in his life.
Im really after some words of advice, Im trying my best to be patient, understanding and trust him but when he doesn't talk to me, and seems to be hiding on the phone - it's hard!
Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this