crazybouthim

So... I've been seeing this guy since November or so... and I dont know... I havent really been feeling "appreciated" or something. Sometimes I feel that our relationship is so young that we should be in the "crazy in love" stage where we cant get enough of one another, taking pics 24:7, having sex all days long... maybe I'm just living in some kind of fantasy world. Anyway, we were laying in bed today and I asked him if he appreciated me and the things I do... and of course, he said yes, but then somehow, we got into the topic of "i want the rest of the world to look at us and be jealous and think we are so amazing together." Well, thats what I told him I wanted. Unfortunately, he didnt feel the same way. He said he didnt want "that" right now because with his ex-gf, he jumped into things with her, fell head over heels, and didnt really even get to know the person first so the relationship turned out badly for them. I guess I can totally understand if he wants to get to know one another first before being "crazy in love." I just feel like there is something wrong or maybe I'm just being totally crazy right now... I just need some advice. Myabe I'm just being stupid and our relationship is actually perfect... I should stop thinking of the future so much and just live in the moment? I mean, nothing is set in stone and I need to stop thinking ahead or at least, thinking so much.

I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice and actually taking the time to write me back. Here's an update: My boyfriend and I talked last night and I will be staying here for the moment. We decided that if/when there is a time when we both agree that I should get my own apartment and will be able to afford it without a problem, then we will work out all the details together. His sister is no longer in the picture and he apologized for throwing her into the mix like that. I really really like her, but moving in with her would have destroyed everything. So, thanks again for everyone's advice. I do think that eventually moving in to my own apartment will be a very independent and more "attractive" thing to do and when the time comes, it will happen. Until then, I am going to love every second my boyfriend and I get to spend together. They are the happiest moments of my life.

It makes me smile doing this: 1) Makes me believe that there is someone out there for all of us 2) He can make me laugh or smile no matter what... even when he really makes me mad. 3) He has dreams and aspirations. 4) He usually puts his head on my shoulder when we sleep. 5) He has an amazing body... wish he knew it. Bonus: He's my heart

So... I have been dating this guy since November and we moved in together two months ago. Mainly because of finances, but it turned out great. We have gotten so close and I am so in love with him. Unfortunately, last night, he came home to tell me that his sister wants me to move in with her. I was shocked considering I live with my boyfriend and things were great or so I thought. My boyfriend and I were just talking about the situation and I mentioned that it might be a step back in our relationship if I was to move out and move in with his sister. I dont really see what the point would be. He kinda freaked on me and got really upset. He thought by me saying that, I was giving him an ultimatum and this was how it was going to be for the rest of our lives. Of course, I was devastated by this. I guess he has insecurities about being with one person for the rest of his life... maybe I'm just not the one he wants. I dont know. I just need some advice because if I moved in with sister, things would be so different. First of all, I barely know her and second of all, she said to me that if I was to move in with her, she wants me to be her friend and not be known as "so & so's girlfriend." I wouldnt be staying over his house every night like we have been and I just feel like making this step would kinda put a damper on our relationship. Am I wrong? I'm just hurt. I understand the want to see what its like to live on your own and it would be nice to try that... everything has just happened so quickly and I feel like he's just not happy with our situation, yet, wont talk to me about it. Any advice?