welsh_lad

anyone, what do u think i should do????

So what do you think i should do should i need to be as strong as possible and be determined in what i want this much i know! but why do you all think she is doing this???

i know i couldnt believe it and like i said it wasnt the fact she was dating it was the fact that he's supossed to be one of my good friends!

hi all, it's been about 3 months now since i was dumped by my ex heres the original post for those who didnt see it. sorry about the long post well since then i kinda started getting my life back on track and moving on...going out...meeting new people and have kinda started seing somone but at a very casual rate for my sake really. i dont think ive healed totally yet but would like to thank everyone who helped me get throught the dark parts of the break up... Thank you!!!!! anyways, since then i have done no contact with my ex and then about a week ago she text me asking about my daughter. saying she misses her and wanted to know how she was. so i kept with my no contact and didnt reply. two days later she text again asking me if i miss her??? why??? so again i did nothing...an hour passed and my mobile rings i didnt answer cos it was her. she rang me 10 times that day but i didnt answer! after about 4 days of this i replyed to text her text and said why are you calling me and texting me when you made your self very clear how you felt and that you dodnt love me anymore. were both moving on with our lives now!!! she replies with...i still miss you so much and cant stop thinking about you! so i didnt reply and left it. Yesterday she texts me asking if im with someone new? i replied and said yes im dating again, she replies me too with your m8 T! * * *??? the funny thing was i didnt care that she was with somoen it was the fact that it was with one of my close m8s and that he didnt even tell me...i was only out with him like a week ago? so that kinda hurt me. she started to call me again so i didnt answer until about the 5th time when i thought iv got to put an end to this once and for all...so i answered her call and there she was crying to me about how she still loves me and misses me. she even said that shes still in love with me??? i kept it cool as possible with very short answers back mostly only yes/no so by now she is begging me to meet up with her for a drink next week, constantly asking me too. i said id think about it? and that she should ask me some time next week? the problem i have is that even after 3 - 4 months apart and trying to move on after speaking to her on the phone kinda brought back all those feelings i tryied to leave behind. now, should i go meet up with her and see what she wants to talk about??? im not that kind of person to hold a grude or anything against a person, id rather be friends with who ever rather than be an enemie if you know where im coming from? so im quit confused about the whole situation at the mo and really need and outsiders point on it if i can...

hi all its been 2 months now and i have been very strong since the break up thanx t a lot of you on here last night i was sitting down with a bottle of wine and a dvd and then out of the blue the ex text's me saying "c just thought i would text 2 c how emmie is doing have been thinking about her and would like 2 know how she is doing.R." emmie is my daughter from another relationship before i met "R" its really pissed me off that shes done this as where was she 2months ago...she made it very clear that she didnt want anything to do with me or my family so why is she doing this now? i havent heared from her since she told me she didnt want anything to do with me as you will see from my 1st post... can anyone shed some light on this any answers are welcome all. thanx again all keep strong all it does get better!!!

it totally obivious that she does not love me anymore as she's told me straight up...so why cant i just let go of her and these feelings? she is the last thing on my mind before i sleep and i wake up early a.m thinking of her and dreaming of her, then i cant get back to sleep at all i feel such a wreck!

This isnt what i need to hear right now Whoops!!!

great now there are romours that shes been sleeping with people behind my back, i dont know what to believe now this is hurting me even more now and i know it shouldnt bother me anymore but it does. i made a mistake the other day when i heared of the news and called her to ask? when i did i just got " i havent, but, if i did its none of your business now so get over it..." so i said " why dont you give me another chance, just like i did for you in the past?" she said..." i dont love you anymore " when she said this she was shouting and really having a go at me. then she said..." if i had a little bit of love for you then maybe i would think yeah we could work through this but i dont!!!" she made comments about me leaving her alone and if i see her out with someone else then i'm not to kick up a fuss cos she's moving on and so should i.

Thanx bcuzitwasfun for the advice, im so glad i came accross this place. i am at my lowest well feels like my lowest and just dont know what to do with myself! one of the biggest problems for me will be going out bcos we live in a very small town and everyone knows everyones business if you know what i mean? and the fact is if she does meet up with someone else which im sure she will or has then its going to be from here!

a little update on how things are going or not going for that matter... last night i decided to send her a text to see if we could have a chat about what has happened between us, well she just replyed in saying "no, theres no point i want to leave it there now craig ok. no hard feelings." its just knocked me for six!!! i text her again this morning and asked for all my belongings and went and picked them up... when i was there i was very polite to her and just siad..." thank you for our relationship over the past 5 years, i wont forget it and hope you look after yourself." so she said "yeah, it's a pitty it had to end like this" i couldnt believe it, if thats what she was thinking then why didnt she give me that chance to talk to her then it wouldnt have to end like this! im truly heart broken now!!! it's really getting to me and im having trouble holding back the tears and everything... if anybody has anymore advice it be so greatful

im thinking of trying to get some clouser on this so what i was thinking of doing is sending her a text message saying: R, I think we should meet up or have a chat about what you want and make sure that this is final between us.Craig i feel that i need to do this so that i can try and move on if she does say it is final, okay it's going to be very hard to deal with that but i suppose we all have to go through it some time or another. your thoughts on this would be a great help all...

Well its day three of no contact and im busting to see and talk to her, for some reason i just cant control these feelings. every second of the day shes on my mind no matter how busy im keeping myself she's there all the time... I hope she realises that she's thrown away the best thing she'll ever have!!! there's all those questions running through my head at the mo like, why, wont, what if and how

thanx meow18, iv got so many things going through my head at the moment and i really do miss her, every time weve broken up she's made me feel like it's my fault, okay this time it was as i was very foulish and i totally regret what happened. I think i'd feel a lot better if she would just give me time to explain to her about what happened and how i feel about her. I've read a lot of post on here saying that NC is best is it?

thanx all esp meow18, on a good note iv just booked a boys holiday to hawaii for 2 weeks on the 1st of november...think its about time, when we were together we only had one holiday in 5 years. if forgot to mention that i started to see a major change in her after she came out of hospital, she had DVT deep vein thrombosis and was very ill, but like then i stayed there by her side morning noon and night evry single day until she came out, do u all think that this might have something to do with the choices she's made????

the things is where do i go from here do i start dating other girls or just take time out to enjoy myself? i know how i would feel if i seen her with another man now and i would really hurt and i think it would be the same for her if i done that so do i respect that and dont do nothing or do i???? i feel so confused right now, i really dont know what to do...i cant stop thinking about her!!!!

"We will always be here for you when you need to talk." thank you that means a great deal to me, the only person ive been able to talk to was my councilor, im glad i got it off my chest and the advice is what i needed to hear i think...why does she keep on telling me that she loves me? is she just doing it to hurt me?

Hi there all, This is my 1st post iv just joined the forum after reading some of your post and felt that this would be the best place for me... I'll just put it out there for you all. Iv just come out of a 5 year relationship with i girl that im so in love with, everything was going well in the start until she cheated on me with some guy. I found out off one of my best friends and was totally gutted by it, but after talking with her i desided to forgive and forget. our relationship was great after that we got on so well then 2years into it she desided she need what she called " a break " from everything so she dumped me and went and done her thing with her m8's again i was left totally gutted and helpless no one to turn too for help nothing! after about two month of being apart i seen her out in our local club where she confronted me and said that it was the biggest mistake she ever made ect ect...because i love her so much i desided...again...to try and make it work, but within a week i found out that she had slept with another man, god knows how many times??? so i lost it, but just bottled it all up in side and eft it all there in the back of my head. thinking it would go away. about a year ago people started seing a change in me i was getting nasty and snapping at everyone and taking all my troubles out on her. so she desided about 4 months ago that it was over unless she could see me making positive changes so i went and seeked councling and i have now changed my ways i feel so much better about myself and others around me!!! we started dating again. this was here choice because she didnt want to jump back into a full on relationship with me and then see me go back to my old ways, i know deep inside that ill never be that depressed and angry ever again( id like to point out that i was never ever physically abusive to her )!!!! just talked to her like sht, but she usta be the same and we argue all the time. weve been going on dates and iv been really making a big effort 4 the both of us. like taking her to really nice places, over night romantic stayes in hotels...i even bought her sexy undies and stuff which iv never done b4...iv really spolt her and she said it felt so good bcos we lost the romantic spark. but this past weekend i slipped up big style, i went back to a party at a friends house where i got chatting to this other girl, i was extreamly drunk and bcos the both of us got on so well we kissed. little did i know but my so called girlfriend was in the house too! this sparked a major argument between not only myself but my m8s too. i know i made a massive mistake but it did feel right at the time but seing how it hurt her and the way she reacted it made me think about how much she means to me? iv tried texting her on her cell (mobile phone) saying that im sooooo sorry and that it was a mistake but she said its too late and she's moving on and wants nothing to do with me? im in such a bad place right now and i have no one to turn to 4 help...i really love her deeply...can anybody help me where do i go from here bcos im hurting inside so bad.