every night i go to this bar after work to get a drink. the bartender likes me a lot from what my friend tells me. i use to see her and she use to melt right before my eyes i can definantly see that. i mean first she would go to the bathroom fix herself up , then she would come out and talk to my friends, she use to stare at me all night(but when i looked at her she looked away) she was just too scared to come over to me and talk. now i know i should talk to her but when i do she just blushes, turns her head ,and walks away, then goes to the end of the bar and stares at me. im really getting frustrated because i like her very much. now i see her with someone else lately , and i feel that i waited too long to really approach her strongly. do you guys think a man should go after what he wants right away? i mean she is a bartender and gets hit on all the time im sure. thats why i didnt want to seem like every other guy. now i think its too late. this has been going on for about a month now. when a woman has stong feelings for someone how long does it last for before she gives her hopes up? please give me some advice guys because im not sure what im supposed to do. do yo girls always hold a place in your heart for that special someone no matter how long it takes or does it gradually die?