I can't send any pm's yet, I guess I'm too new.
I am really glad that I found this site because I didn't think people shared these kinds of thoughts out in the open. It's sort of embarrassing to realise that I have low self-esteem and a host of other problems.
I live in the city and have a pretty full social calendar. I know a lot of people and they generally view me as sort of together. When I say sort of, I am called crazy, but in that kind of way that everyone thinks I am a balls to the wall, fun, kooky, life of the party girl. They also know I'm not to be crossed. My close friends are the only ones that know that inside I am pretty much empty. They are the only ones that hear the tears and all that other stuff. It's difficult for me because I am considered attractive by others although most of the time I think they are blind. I don't see my looks the way people do. I know that I am reasonably smart and it drives me crazy to not be able to control my feelings about myself and others.
Like the fact that when I see my ex and his girl (I even hate saying that) in the street, they watch me. Not paranoid watch me, but noticeably to the point that other people point it out. His girl doesn't like me but she smiles at me. I have a blog that my ex reads almost every day. I wish I could just snap my fingers and make them all go away.
I was fine before I knew this man. I would hang out, work and generally enjoy life. I like to read, go to plays, operas, eat at small places with good food and just have a good time. I used to go to yoga, skate and all sorts of other things.
Then I met him. The months that we'd spend together I was fine. We'd have a ball and when we weren't in each other's presense my life would go on. When we were split I'd go into a spiral of nothingness, feeling empty and doing stupid things until he came back.
Now with the knowledge that he won't be back I feel lost. I don't enjoy anything anymore. I pretend that I am ok when I am in front of people but go back to doing stupid things like once I slept with a guy that I didn't really like for no reason (and even he didn't want to be bothered with me after) or getting drunk and calling my ex. I can't think straight most of the time. I either sleep way too much or not at all. I can't concentrate and worst of all I can't even enjoy the things I used to love like a good book or good company.
I feel like I lost my life after I met him and I'm just going through the motions.
I want my life back but I don't know how to get it.
I can't get a date to save my life. The trend lately has been that plenty of guys are attracted to me and want to sleep with me, but none of them like me. I haven't had a guy really be interested in me since him. Sometimes I think my emptiness and neediness is leaking through my pores and scaring everyone away.
I feel so hopeless. Like a walking shell, going through the motions wearing a mask but inside is just a storm of obssession, self-hate and pain.
I want my damned life back.